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writes:Hi everybody, i am now 36 years old, i've got my past, i also have my 3 children from the past. im taking care of them alone finacially, everything. i got separated from my last relationship last 3 years ago. i never been married. this time i have no serious relationship cos im scared that i will be hurt again. is anybody think that i still have a chance someday to love, to find my soulmate and wish to be married? do you think that even i reach my 40 years old you think im still going to find my future husband and a chance to be happy again? is there still a chance for me even i got my 40 years old?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): hi i am the one who post this question really, i just dont know how to tell you all that you make me happy for all you response to me. maybe because i have lots of trauma in life i a little bit lose my confidence to my self. i know you all are right. i think i am not also looking bad im slender, long hair, friendly, sincere and honest and friends of mine tell me im looking young than my age. thank you very much to all of you. you all make me feel better. to dear cupid thank you for posting my question. more power
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): My god YES. But you HAVE to work on yourself FIRST. Start loving yourself, first. Get involved in things that will make you more interesting. Figure out who you are. What you want and what you don't want. What you like and don't like. Do some soul searching. get a makeover. Go on a diet. Start doing exercise. Make friends. Read books. Go to art exhibits. (these are all things you can do for free). That way you'll feel better about yourself and you won't just start dating the first person who comes along. Don't let guys choose you. You choose them.
And above all laugh a little more. And remember, there are plenty of people who have it ALOT worse. If you can somehow find the energy to be happy without anybody by your side, then everybody will want to be by your side.
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reader, Peterk5699  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Of course!!
You're never too old to get married. You can get married at 21 (my aim) 39, 40 or 60. Age is just a number and nothing else.
Keep searching and you'll find him.
Good Luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): Heck, yes! I was married 28 years; widowed in 1999 and had three longer-term relationships since (one year; and approx. six months on the others - decent guys, but not really a good match for me). As of now I'm in a relationship with a nice, considerate man for almost seven months who is very interested, and we have much more in common vis-a-vis activities we both like; values, etc - even go to church together! I have no children, though.
And I've just turned 68 (he's 65). If I can do it, I'm sure you can! Be as specific as you can about what qualities you want and do not want, in your next relationship. Even make a list. Its a good idea to approach meeting men with the same discrimination you'd apply to looking for a job.
"Is this (job/relationship) something I really want to do/have?" "What are the benefits "they" offer?" In a job its things like health care insurance, salary; vacation, etc., in a relationship you have to look at whether he's responsible in the way he handles his finances; is he generally courteous, considerate, fun to be with; do your ideas about spirituality/religion match (or at least not conflict); what's his attitude toward your children? Are the goals you have for the rest of your lives in sync?"
Consider too, whether he earns enough to live and have some money left over - I'm not saying money should be a primary consideration; only that hooking up with a man who is so poor (and/or mean with money) makes the relationship more difficult - even though he may be a very nice person.
Of course, when you interview for a job, you need to think about whether its fairly local to where you live, or if you'd have a long commute. If a lengthy drive, would you be prepared to do that? Ditto with potential local versus long-distance relationships.
Then, figure out how to go about meeting quality men. Check some online dating sites. eharmony is a good one, for instance.
Good luck!
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Irish 49 you look bloody marvelous for 51. I will be 40 in December, there is hope for me yet LOL What is your secret?
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Hi
Yes! I hope so because i am the same age as you!
I am actually looking forward to being a bit older when i meet my soul mate. I am banking on them being that bit more mature & less a risk! If you know what i mean hehe
ive got 2 children & i certainly dont want to meet anyone else for a few years yet, until they are older (mid teens) i dont want them having lots of guys coming through their lives & ive had as mnay chances as i am going to put them through for now. The last guy was my last chance & i knew that.
So life better begin at 40 i say!
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): Oh gosh..yes! Being 40 is great! I see you are from Hong Kong. I can't speak for cultural differences here..but in Canada, a 40 year old woman is just getting into her prime years. She's usually viavacious, sexy and fun but has acquired the wisdom and life smarts, she needs to be independent and strong. Most times she settled into a good career and has her own home. Also, her kids are older and she has more time to give to herself. As for finding happiness at 40, you can find that at any age! I was divorced 7 years ago. I am now 51 years old, engaged to a wonderful man and I couldn't be happier.Just be a happy, positive person, be selective in whom you choose and happiness will find you! Good luck.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Good lord yes you have a chance! Look around you honey, there are lots of women older than you that find men and get married. Being 40 is not a death sentence by any means and neither is having 3 kids. He's out there, just keep looking!
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