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writes:Last June I picked up the phone and called a friend I went to high school with. I literally hadn't seen or spoken to her for 12 years. We went out for drinks and since then we've been spending time together at least once a week (maybe a little less), having dinner together and things like that. I recently told her that I really like her and asked if there's any chance that maybe she felt the same... here's what she wrote back to me in an email... --------I am still a little bent out of shape from the last break up (which was in May) and I am probably not ready for any type of commitment right now. I know that we don't know one another that well, but I do enjoy spending time with you. So for now, I would just like to enjoy one another's company and get to know one another better. If all goes well, I may be in a better place to like someone and be in a committed relationship.But you don't have to be sorry for asking that question or wanting an answer. I think that you deserve to have an honest answer and that is really the best insight that I can give you right now. As you know, life goes in crazy directions all of the time and perhaps things could change tomorrow.Well, let me know what you are thinking about my thoughts and your thoughts and maybe we will come to some type of understanding.---------------I wrote her back telling her I understand and said that for now I'll just take her last email as a solid "maybe". All that was about 2 weeks ago.Since then we've had dinner together twice (once at her house and once at mine) and recently she's started calling me almost on a daily basis but we haven't spoken a word further about a possible relationship. Based on the response she sent me and 2 weeks ago, the dinners since then, the phone calls, etc... I really don't know what do at this point and I've been trying to gauge just what "exactly" is going on here. I've picked apart her email trying to read between the lines but I'm still unsure of how she feels.So my question is... should I just relax, not make any moves, play it cool and wait it out... see what happens? Or possibly take my chances and attempt to kiss her goodnight the next time I'm with her? Something else entirely?I don't want to rush her but the bottom line is that I'm completely in love with this girl. Reply to this Question
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 It is a good sign yes!
Just go with the flow.
She sounds cool.
Good luck
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, she's worth it. I don't care how long it takes. I'll wait as long as I have to.
The only agonizing thing is not knowing how this will turn out. On one hand, maybe I'd be unnecessarily waiting when she's simply waiting for me to make the next move. On the other hand, maybe she has just been trying to be polite all along and I don't stand a chance. Although I doubt the latter especially since, for example, I didn't call or email her today on purpose... trying to see if she'd contact me... and sure enough she called at 9:30pm when she got home. I guess that's a good sign, right????
In any case, I know deep down that worrying about all of this won't help my cause a single bit.
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (7 August 2007):
I do not see what harm a peck on the cheek would do at the end of the evening - or a hearty hug. If you make a habit of doing these things regularly and she sees that a potential relationship with you is not going to give her a hard time of it then I can truly imagine that this could work.
As you have said you do not want to ruin the chance of this one happening so step things up very subtlely, very gradually, so gradually that hardly you sence any progression yourself.
I wish you luck in this one but I feel you need to progress very very gently and gradually.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 August 2007):
So my question is... should I just relax, not make any moves, play it cool and wait it out... see what happens?
Yes...This one!!
She sounds lovely. Very honest up front person. Well worth the wait dont you think???
Good luck
C xxxxx
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