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writes:What does it mean when an ex acts angry over nothing someone says it means he might still care but is feeling bad that we no longer speak and just isn't man enough to say it. I know I did nothing but be kind to this person so I know I don't deserve it it's just who says Hi in an email lol it's random but he just gets angry after that. Any ideas why he's doing this?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (15 September 2010):
Hello again. I think you still do need to give him some space.
If he sends you emails - don't answer them. Also, don't send him any either.
Yes, it is possible that he still has feelings for you. But it seems like he's a bit mixed up. Perhaps he might think that he was a bit hasty in breaking up.
Don't pursue it any further. It's a bit of a mess really.
And like I mentioned in my first posting, just move on from it and don't make yourself too available to him. Otherwise, he will think that you are sitting there waiting for him. It will also make you appear needy.
If he does call you, maybe you could get someone else in your household to take the call on your behalf and tell him that you are out.
If he does call and no-one else is there to answer it for you, just be friendly and respectful, but then very quickly say that you are on your way out and have to leave really soon. But don't go into any details. If he asks - "Where to?" - simply say, "Just out." And leave it at that. Then end the call soon after.
Say this even if you are not going out. Just don't let him think that you are pining your heart out over him, and you'll drop everything to be with him or take his calls. Don't let yourself be taken for granted or be mistreated. You deserve better than that. You are entitled to complete happiness. It does seem like he can't give you that.
As hard as it might be to do this, and you probably still have feelings for him also, just don't go down that path. It will only lead to heartache. It's just not worth the pain. Keep your self-respect.
Good Luck. Best wishes and take care.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Your ex is not showing that he still cares by being angry over nothing. He ended things and he is going to act angry when you contact him because he wants to convince himself he made the right decision to break up with you.
If he still cared he would be on your doorstep begging on his knees for you to forgive him for breaking up with you and asking to get back together.
Short of that, the relationship is over.
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reader, masweetie284 +, writes (15 September 2010):
masweetie284 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe replies to me first. I sent him emails but a while ago. I don't say anything to him and he ended things.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (15 September 2010):
Hi there. If he is your ex, why are you still in contact with each other?
Also, who emails who? Who makes the first contact - do you email him or does he email you?
Another thing I need to know is, who broke off the relationship?
If you are exes, and you are still in contact, perhaps that is a bad idea. If the relationship is off - then it's over, surely. By contacting each other, you are prolongong the agony, like you want get back with him.
If you are the one making the initial contact all the time, you might be crowding him. Invading his personal space. This would definitely be a cause for him to feel agitated and become a bit angry with you.
My advice would be to take a step back and don't send him any more emails, text messages or phone calls. Instead, just try and get on with your own life and make it as interesting and exciting as it can be. Be happy, meet up with your friends regularly, laugh and have fun. Life is way too short to stay on the merry-go-round that you seem to be on. It will ultimately make you very unhappy indeed.
You need to get out of the rut you are in, as you are making that rut deeper and deeper.
Neither you nor your ex can ever move on with your new lives, unless you make the break complete - then start afresh. The longer you keep on contacting each other, the less chance you have of living a happy, fulfilling life.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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