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writes:i broke up with my ex boyfriend due to mental abuse he owes me 600 dollars i asked for it back and he said he would give it to me the next day he didn't of course i really want my money but i know he keeping it to have some weird control over me should i ask for it again or forget about it and move on? my biggest fear is he will call me when he gets ready and offer it back... should i even answer his call or just be done with his ass even if he offers the money back after when he said he would?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 I have to disagree with Dorothy Dix- by the same token, yes 600 USD is not a lot of money yet is much more than 60.
Therefore I would not ask him again for the money back - he already knows he owes it to you, and if, he wants to do the right thing, -about which I have doubts - he knows he has to contact you . But when he does contact you, I don't see why you can't give him an appointment , getting your money back, say thanks and goodbye and be done with him.
I guess the break up was tempestuous and there is a trail of mutual bad feelings maybe- but there is no need for drama,- love is love and business is business.
Get your money ( a debt has got nothing to do with feelings , or if you love or hate your creditor ) , stay cool and collected , and then move on.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (3 April 2011):
Hi there. No-one should have control over your life but you. Not your ex, nobody.
$600 isn't a lot of money really. It's not like $6000 for instance. It's enough.
If you really don't want to go back with him, just write it off as a bad debt and move on.
Even if he did try to contact you again, don't answer his call.
Or if you do answer his call, and he says he wants to give you back your money, just tell him to forget about it.
Then say to him - "I really have to go now, I have to be somewhere and I'm almost late." Then end the conversation. Don't talk for any longer than about 3-5 minutes maximum.
Don't give him any details either. Just say you have to go out (it doesn't have to be true), but let him think that, and that you've already moved on from him.
If you do this a couple of times, he will soon get the general idea that you don't want to be with him anymore.
Good luck and best wishes.
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