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writes:Hi everyone,I have been on the fence regarding this decision for a month now. I've never been so indecisive in my life, its driving me nutty and despite my fiance's best attempts, I can't seem to make a decision at all. I'm just stuck right in the middle.Regarding finances: My current job pays $10 more than job B. However, I do not work my full time hours as things are slow. Pay at job A would be equal to job B.Job A (current job): I work 3 days per week, 12 hour shifts (although usually its 8-10 now days), I have the flexibility of deciding which 3 days in a week I work and when I want to take my vacations/holidays. Its a tremendously flexible job and the pay is great. However, I'm bored and its one of those jobs that doesn't really do anything for my resume.Job B (I said yes to their offer, however now I'm questioning it): I would work 4 days per week, 10 hours. Its at a prestigious employer so it would look amazing on the resume. However, the schedule is not flexible and there is much less vacation/holiday time. I'd have to work the 4 days a week they would want me to work. However, there are lots of young people at this employer, lots of social activities, new things to learn and possibilities for lateral/vertical promotions.When it comes down to it. I love the flexibility of my current job however want the opportunities available at job B. Pay would end up being equal despite my current job paying more.I can't make this decision - I've been on the fence for a month. I told job B yes. I told my current job I am leaving (but haven't handed in my notice) so its not official yet. I'm at the point where I just need to make this decision. Its driving my fiance nuts and I'm just tired of sitting there thinking about all the different possibilities.Really my heart says "keep the flexible schedule" while my head is telling me "you'd be crazy to miss out on this prestigious employment opportunity and move up in your career".Any wise words out there?? I'm 28, engaged with no kids. No real responsibilities other than myself...
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (9 April 2011):
Hi there. I think you're right about wanting to keep the flexibility with your current job. Plus the holidays too. Flexibility is really important, as it allows you good work and life balance.
The main reason for being interested in the second position, is because they are a prestigious company and with a good reputation in the industry. Yes, that's good too, but it's not everything.
It's not really a wise idea to say anything to your current employer about wanting to leave, because it's very likely they will soon start advertising for your current position. Then you will have NO choice at all. Even though you have not yet handed in your official resignation.
The thing is, your current employer is aware of it, so they are getting ready to make that move towards employing someone else in the not too distant future.
Needless to say, that is putting pressure on you to make a decision also.
It would have been better to say nothing, until you were absolutely sure you did want to take this other position. In fact you ought to have said nothing at all to either employer.
Also, while you are trying to make up your mind whether to leave, this other position might also be taken by someone else. If you wait too long to make a decision, that's inevitable! They are obviously looking to place someone in that position already, so if you're not careful you will no job at all.
Both jobs might go!
Jobs are still hard to find and companies going bad all the time and closing down altogether. It's a big risk you are thinking of taking.
It's a pity you had given the other employer your answer so soon, especially when you are not really sure about whether to leave your present job.
I really think you are better off staying where you are. The grass isn't always greener on the other side, quite often it turns out to be a big disappointment. Keep that in mind.
All that glitters isn't gold, you know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): I would ask yourself this: what job is going to challenge yourself to grow more as a person. Individual growth is important, it makes life exciting! What place has more opportunities?
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