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writes:Hi, i have a bit of a dilemma.About a week ago i fell out with a family member a really close one and it knocked me that they could be so vindictive towards me i perhaps did not help the situation but did not deserve what i got. so i went to apologise after a couple of days but they were adamant they were really not to blame but were sorry for the harsh words. so that was like a slap in the face. so i havent spoken to them since nor do i feel like speaking to them either. However this has made me reflect on my life, since some of the things they said had me thinking i know a lot of it isn't true but i'm still raw about it, before that things were getting really good which i havent had for a long time, between working too much and health issues. So now i dont know what i want from life and have no direction feels like a mid life crisis but im only 25 lol. I'm working a lot again so i have no time to do anything but work so i think a lot and i'm stuck at what to do. i have friends no bf but none that are close enough to speak too so i'm pretty much alone except my family. im not the very outgoing type as i work al ot and im very shy and not greatly confident as my illness took a lot out of me. I was meant to go on holiday with the family member i fell out with but she threw it in my face so i'm facing that solo too which is slightly daunting. so i was wondering if anyone had any suggestions as what to do with this slight mess? Greatly appreciated thanks in advance. Larina xx
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (3 April 2011):
Hi there. Instead of apologising to your family, it would be better to get the matter cleared up with them, what the falling out was really over.It's probably best to get in touch with the particular family member involved, and meet them for coffee (or go for a walk together), and talk while you walk.It can't be left the way it is. You won't clear the air that way. All that does is make things fester inside you.Call or text the member you argued with, and ask them to meet you to talk. Just you and them - no-one else. It's really only between you two mainly, isn't it?I wouldn't hesitate any longer. Life is too short.We all need family. Friends come and go, but we always have family.Good luck and best wishes.
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