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writes: Hello.I am 13 years old and I know im gay, but how do I come out? I have a boyfriend but we don't show our love at school because we are scared of being teased by other students. My parents don't know either. The only time we hold hands or kiss is when we are alone at movie theaters. I went to his house once when his parents were out of town...We made out for 30 minutes, and then he told me he wanted to go to the next level. I know I am young for sex, but I am in love with him, so I preformed oral sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): I'm a straight dude, but a two very close friends (never a couple) were in the same situation. I won't go on details, but from my experience, wait to come out until you are 18. Not only are people are going to consider you more seriously, but your peers (schoolmates, etc) will also be more mature to accept this. I'm coming of from past experience in a close-minded culture. The decision is ultimately yours. Best of luck!
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 It sounds like you feel the need to come out, even thought you are afraid. Are you sure you're ready to?
You are very young, and most people in your age group won't be able to understand being gay. If I were you, I would talk to someone you trust and you know will react well to you being gay. Just tell one person that you know will keep your secret and that you can talk to. Later on, when you're older, probably in high school, you'll be able to come out as your peers will be more mature.
Why haven't you told your parents? If it is possible and you think they would understand and respect you, I would suggest you tell them. If you don't think they'd understand or you htink they would be angry or shun you, maybe don't tell them.
Another good outlet for you is a GSA (Gay Straight Alliance) group or a LGBT (Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender) support group. Do you know of any in your area? Search online to see if you can locate those groups.
I understand what you are going through because I am a bisexual female. It's really scary before you come out, but when the time is right and you do, it gets better. Always accept and love yourself the way you are, regardless of what other people say or try to make you think. You are not alone :)
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reader, ShoulderToLeanOn  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 Hi Coming out is difficult for everyone. It depends on a few things like who you tell, when you tell them and what they are like as person. Being able to know your sexuality at school age is sometimes a problem because of a lack of understanding from both the other children and the person coming out. I would suggest that if you really feel you want to come out then maybe you should do some research and see if their are any other people of your age out their who have come out. I personally only have experience in coming out after school at the age of 16 but hopefully it might help to know that if you have some close understanding friends then you maybe able to tell them. This helps relieve the weight abit making you feel better. Then you can ease yourself in to it and not to be bothered about who knows. If you feel ready then take it slow and tell a few people who you know are ok with homosexuality and maybe even make comments about homosexuality at home to see how your parents feel. if you are not ready the just enjoy the time you can with your boyfriend and eventually you will be able to find a point that you can tell people. (even if you have to follow the lead of other people)
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reader, mr69 +, writes (3 April 2011):
 I'll tell you what come out when you think your ready to come and to answer the question you should just tell one person who you know can keep a secret and then you have come out.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (3 April 2011):
Hi there. Are you ready to reveal your sexuality to people yet?
It's a big step for anyone to take, so before you decide how to do it, you both need to be really sure about who you think you are.
Are you at all interested in girls?
If you are, well then maybe you are only experimenting with this boy. You may not be absolutely sure beyond all doubt. It could take years to know for sure.
Time will tell.
It's probably wise to let more time pass and have more life experiences to know definitely.
Don't push for anything to happen just yet. Let more time pass.
You will eventually know when the time is right to tell people.
Good luck and best wishes.
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