A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:okay, im 15 and recently came out to myself as being a lesbian, ive also came out to a few close friends and one family member, because shes gay too. My dilema is, a couple of months ago, i started talking to this girl at school, she a year above me and is one of the coolest people ive ever met. We started getting kinda close, as friends, and i can honestly say, i have fallen in love with her! I think about her all the time, like non stop! I had a strange feeling that she was maybe gay to, until i found out she had a boyfriend, and i was totaly gutted...i thought if i maybe told her how i felt it would maybe make me feel better. So, one night i was talking to her on the internet, and i told her that i thought i was bisexual, she was totaly cool with it, and said she still loves me for who i am, then i told her i like her, and she took that well too! And then, she told me she liked me "more than a friend" and now evertime i ask her about it she always finds an excuse to change the subject which i hate, because i have never ever felt such feelings for any boy/girl ANYONE ever. I now dont like being around her because it makes me feel awkward, this sounds really silly, all i think about is "i want to kiss her so bad" and when she hugs me, as a friend, i just want to hold her in my arms forever, i have never felt this strongly about anyone before. Im so upset, how do i tell her? How do i stop myself from feeling the pain?
View related questions:
crush, lesbian, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): Reality check: most girls are straight, until they're not. The boyfriend is ultimately irrelevant. If she likes you the way you want her to like you, she'll come to you. You can only tell her how you feel and leave it in her hands. Your work is done.
And if she doesn't come to you that's ok too. Up your game - play the field. Gain more confidence in your sexuality. It might even make her jealous!
A
female
reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (9 April 2011):
Hi there. You have only told her in a round about way, not being very specific, haven't you?
Perhaps when she said she liked you more than a friend, she might have been meaning, like a sister.
Even though she has a boyfriend, if you really want her to know how you feel, well then you are going to have to come right out and tell her directly. There really is no other way.
You can only hint at something for so long, and then if that person doesn't get what you are trying to tell them, then you have to make it more clear to them.
Honesty and directness is the only way you are going to find out for sure.
At least then, you will know if you have a chance with her - or not.
Then in either case, you can move on with your life.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): She said she loved you for who you are, so just tell her straight out, if she tries to change the subject than give her some time, some people have different reactions in real life than on the internet. Good luck!
...............................
|
