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writes:I stay married for the children's sake but but romance with my husband died after he cheated on me and am not sleeping with each other. I have just started a relationship with a divorcee who is much younger than me and who said he doesnt mind me being married and will love me as who i am. He is always so busy that it is difficult to meet up with him maybe once in 2weeks. I like to be with him and we are happy together but I will miss him badly when I cant meet him but he feels that he is not neglecting me. I cant deal with the feeling of missing him, so should I should carry on or give up this relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): My feeling is that cheating will always create more pain in your life and it will never solve the problem.
so in my view, you need to forget your new ...
work on your marriage and forgive your husband and spruce up your family life..
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reader, macdubh712  +, writes (10 April 2011):
You know this is only going to end up in heartache. Just how many people have heartache over this depends on what you do. You should think about what is best for you and your children and do it. Once things are settled if you want this younger man...well I say as long as he is worth it and down for it then go for it! @ Dorothy Dix: once a fortnight.....I love it.
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reader, based51  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Shouldn't you be wondering whether its best to stay in your marriage or not?? Staying in a loveless marriage is not always the best option for the kids. Instead of demonstrating honesty and the best of a bad situation you and your partner are instead clinging onto something already dead and having extra-marital affairs. If your kids are of a certain age, you can be guaranteed that they will pick up on these things. It may be time your marriage ended if you and your husband are finding it difficult to stay faithful to each other and, as you claim, are practically just room-mates.As for this other man, I suggest you find out what you really want with him, and be careful with your heart. It may be that you both just want this because of the little commitment that needs to be put in, but if you find yourself falling for him it could end disastrously. Also, if he wants more than a casual relationship while you're just looking for comfort in a sad situation it could end up that you really hurt him too. Involving other people in your marriage is never a good idea and something that should be left alone :(
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (10 April 2011):
Hi there. You only see this man once a fortnight, because you can't commit to him.So you can be almost certain that between the fortnightly get togethers, that he probably dates other women. It's inevitable. He probably wants more than once a fortnight with someone. It's only half-hearted isn't it? It could hardly be called a relationship.You are not happy in your present marriage, so staying just for the sake of the children is not the right reason.You have some serious thinking to do about your future. Wherever you decide to live once you leave, your children will automatically be living with you. You will have to see a divorce lawyer, so you can find out your legal rights as the biological mother.In fact you can probably even stay in the house until the divorce is finalised and the house has to be sold.It's much less disruptive for your children's education if you divorce while they are in junior school. Senior education is much more complex.
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