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*aritalprobsaz
writes:how can i do it?after all is said and done, it is my fault, i never cheated, hit her. i wasn't there for her emotionally, didn't support her when she needed to be supported. she fell out of love with me.now how can i stay in love with her, knowing that she isn't in love with me, she loves me, not in love with me. she doesn't know whether or not she wants to remained married. we're seeing how things go. she just isn't having the feelings for me anymore. with the way that she's been acting towards me, i just don't know. she's tried close to 2 years trying to make this work and she's all spent. she's not gone yet, but still. i know that im going to try for at least 2 years and see how it goes, unless she decides before then. i just don't know if i have it in me to be treated like this and remain in love with you.i just don't know. Reply to this Question
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reader, maritalprobsaz +, writes (7 September 2010):
maritalprobsaz is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni got too confortable with our relationship. my parents have been together through all the stuff that they've been together. i disagree with my mom though, with all the stuff that my dad pulled, she should've divorced him. my wife on the other hand, her mom has been married twice. so my wife can see about walking away from the marriage. she's tried to make it work for the last couple of years, she's just tired now. i just didn't know how bad it was until she told me that she was thinking of leaving me. she acts pretty cold towards me, mainly because she's pretty mad. i've been changing best i can, but she still doesn't know. time will only tell. she's been acting in a way though, i just don't know if i'm willing to put up with all this.
like i've said many times before, i just don't know anymore.
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reader, maritalprobsaz +, writes (7 September 2010):
maritalprobsaz is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have been, but i'm just afraid that its a little too late. she said that even though i may fix all the things that i've done wrong, it may not be enough. like i said, she loves me, but not IN love with me.
so, i'm pretty much back at square one.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 It is NEVER too late to show your wife how much you love her. Go now and do something to make her smile.
I hope that helps.
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reader, maritalprobsaz +, writes (7 September 2010):
maritalprobsaz is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know now what i did wrong. i'm just afraid that it may be too late. i just don't know how much i should try anymore.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 It's not your fault if you didn't know what you did wrong. Ask her specifically what emotional support means. Listening to her? Spend more time at home cuddling? More foreplay before sex? Giving her small gifts and surprises? Do the things you used to do at the beginning?
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