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writes:I'm in highschool, and the guy I like (who also likes me) and I have different morals. We get along really well and have similar interests as well as have great conversations. But, he and his friends tend to get drunk and do some recreational drugs (pot) as well as have sex (although I'm sure he's still a virgin), while I'm an actual girl scout. I'm not like a super dorky stereotypical girl scout, but I do have a strong moral background. I was also raised Catholic where I was always expected to have strong morals in situations involving having premarital sex and doing illegal drugs or drinking. Do you think I could date him even though he's gotten drunk and even tried drugs?
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reader, Sonofasailor +, writes (9 September 2010):
This sounds like a bad situation. On one hand you have the opportunity to explore a world you don't know and maybe see if its for you and have fun. On the other hand you have strong morals that forbid you and it could lead to much grief.
If you want to experiment than I say communicate a bit with him; find out how wild he is and if he is a virgin. However, if you really don't want any part of that party life style, stay away!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): You can date him but you are probably setting yourself up for heartache.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 If you like him and he likes you, then you two can be together. This is how he likes to live his life. As long as he does not try to force you into it, I do not see an immediate threat to anyone. Just be wary and don't force him too hard to stop, make sure he respects your views and make sure he doesn't spend too much time doing all of this.
I know a couple of people who do the same thing but, they don't let it get in the way of socializing and school. They're mostly good people.
I hope that helps
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 September 2010):
I don't think so. Either you'll wind up turning into his mother, or you'll sink as low as him. If you want to date someone, realistically you need to share interests, morals, beliefs and you have to have goals and aims in life. It's true that opposites attract, but they don't stay together. You're just heading into a mess with this guy.
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