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writes:Hi,I have a Dilemma.I had a wonderful/fantastic relationship with an ex (Sophie),we even talked about marriage. We were always 100% honest with each other.Anyway we split some time ago as I was working abroad and she couldnt handle a LDR.She recently tracked me down via Facebook, and we met up for a meal. We talked for ages, just like we did when we were together and we were 100% honest with each other...she told me a lot of personal stuff which surprised me considering the time we have been apart.She kept asking me why I wasnt married..her comments were.."...god I thought you'd been snapped up ages ago..". She said this 2x during our evening meal. I told her that I had been close a couple of times, but things were complicated.The thing is, I told her a white lie. I the closest I had been to getting married was when we were together. I have had many other realtionships since then..but she was VERY special. There was one other lady, who I considered, but she turned out to be very nasty when we were on a break..due to my work load/travelling. I am due ot meet Sophie again soon, and I know that she will ask the q again. The Dilemma I have is Do I tell her as I hate telling lies..even if they are a little white lie.BTW the chemisrty/affection between us is still there. I'm not sure if she wants to try again or why she has suddenly decided to track me down
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi All,
Thanks for your advice.
I have been very confused recently...not able to concentrate @ work, sleep etc since she contacted me.Alot of feelings have resurfaced and I was shocked that we still go on SOOO well and that the spark/chemistry was still very much alive n kicking after such a long time apart.
She has phoned me several times, but each time we speak she sounds very sad/unhappy.
I have just re-read my original post and realized that I ommitted an important fact.:-
She is married!!
Sorry I am terribly confused at the moment, I cant think straight.Please dont judge me. I dont want to do anything wrong/improper. I dont know what to do/think. This has really blown me away.
Sorry to ramble on. I just want to meet her again & try to find out whats going on with her & find out why she has tracked me down. She must have known how dangerous that would have been didnt she?. I mean how many people would contact "the one" after you break up & why?
Thnaks for your support in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): Tell her. Don't start off by playing stupid games. She has put herself out there, the least you can do is meet her half way
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): Tell her!!!
She has shown interest by tracking you down, if she was not interested at all then you wouldn't have heard from her.
I reckon just go for it, look how easy it was meeting up again, and how well you clicked. I think she will take it well, if she feels same way or if she doesn't. You never know, and the worst that can happen is she says I don't feel that too. But then you will know
Good luck and let me know what happens!
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reader, _Katy_Did_  +, writes (1 September 2010):
 Tell Her!!!!!:)
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (1 September 2010):
 You two sound like you were made for each other! Tell her how you really feel about her. I'm sure you can work all other problems out some way, just remember how good you two feel with each other.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): Tell her it's. Romantic
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