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writes:I think I should break-up with my boyfriend, but im terrified of being single!We've been together since christmas and he had apparently really liked me for quite a while before that.....i had just come out of a bad relationship and was just looking for someone to treat me well.....i got this from him, but unfortunatly there isnt really a spark there for me, i just didnt want to be single! now the honeymoon period has worn of and he has moved over an hour away, and when we see each other we're like old mates meeting up after years rather than bf and gf...everything is really awkward and he makes zero effort to have any physical contact with me, despite my best efforts. we literally only touch when we have sex. the only time he remotely acts like a bf is when hes had a few beers! i really hate the thought of being single again...i love that feeling of having somebody....but tbh i dont know if i have ever loved him, even though i try and tell myself i do. should i stick it out or split?? bearing in mind we will be working together next summer. i've tried to talk to him about it and he just got really mad and unbearable so i dropped it. the worst part is, i desperately want to be as head-over-heals as i was when i was with my previous partner.... i want to find that spark with someone again, and i dont no if its going to happen with my current bf. should i work on it?? give it more time??? i really dont no what to do becuase he really is a nice guy and he cares alot about me in his weird way.help!
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reader, pipsqeak +, writes (10 September 2010):
pipsqeak is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice everyone. its actually really really helped. now the big question...how do i go about breaking up with him without hurting him????
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): You'll never be happy with someone else until you're happy with yourself, and that means being happy AND single before mating. My opinion, for what it's worth.
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reader, j.c.d.l +, writes (9 September 2010):
Your acting just like friends so come out and tell him you care for him a lot but your going to be friends. You'll be fine once you get used to being single, and you'll still have him there(if he takes it ok)to tallk to if you get lonley.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 You can't force yourself to feel something just isn't there. And for what reason? The reason being fear. Fear of being by yourself which is probably what you need right now. You're starting to lie to yourself, you are forcing yourself to believe in an absent emotion and that isn't good.
He doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend anyway. To touch someone is a sign of affection and from what I am reading, there is none from him. He doesn't hold your hand? He doesn't just hold you? Then what is there really? You can feel the emotions of another person through their touch, if he isn't touching you, then where exactly is this relationship going? Nowhere.
Do not fear being by yourself for a little while. Spend some time alone and you might just find more than you were expecting. You might even find someone who will let you be honest with him, your boyfriend got upset for no good reason. Honestly, I would say leave him.
I hope that helps.
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 being with someone just for the sake of it is dumb. i feel like i want a man too,and there is someone who is almost perfect,i just dont have that spark with him! so im not gonna jump into this,know what im saying? u were good but now the circumstances have changed and if he doesnt make ya feel the way he used to,just drop him. u need to build ur friendships also cause u see,when u dont have a man,ur gonna feel lonely as hell! dont let urself be used and dont use him either. find a new man,but til then, start a new hobby or get wit new friends!
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