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writes:This is going to sound odd but I can't get my mind off it.6 years ago my grandmother was taken ill to hospital and me and my mum stayed with her whilst all the tests were done. The doctor she had was a really nice guy and (innapropriate I know) he flirted with me and I really wanted to leave him my number- I mean u know that strong urge that u have- knowing there is an attraction but being shy I never did. I was single at the time as was he. I did often thought about him weeks after.Anyways I shortly after got with my now fiancé but last year I found this doctor on facebook and added him as a friend to which he accepted. So I now have access to his profile and he is single... I regret nothing happening with him. I mean I love my fiancé but can't help but think about this doctor.I hate myself for even thinking this, I mean I won't do anything - I'll never be unfaithful but i always wonder what if?Can anyone please advise if these feelings will pass?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 It's normal and it's okay to feel a sexual attraction to someone else. There's really nothing you can do to control your attraction to someone else. As long as you don't act on it that is. Eventually, the less you see of him or hear of him, the more faded your feelings will become and they will pass.If you want them to disappear faster, try spending more time with your soon-to-be husband. I hope that helps.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 September 2010):
No, they won't. The fact that you've made friends with him on facebook, ensured that he's single and regret nothing happening is a very big indicator that the man you are marrying is not the one for you. You claim you won't do anything. But what if that doctor makes a play for you? (I don't think he will). Will you resist, or will you join the 40% of married women in Britain that have an affair, most of those claiming they'd never have done it.
You are not ready to get married if you have searched out a man who fancy, made friends with him, regret nothing happening and are always thinking about him. I think you need to really think about your engagement and whether it IS the right thing. Because I don't think it is, and I think this marriage could go wrong later on. You'd do much better to be single and find a guy who makes you feel the way this doctor does. Let your fiance find a woman who really can be his all.
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