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writes:Ok, so its not really a question about relationships or anything but here's the deal. I've been really depressed lately thinking about my future. I'm 17 years old, have a good paying job that I work 9 hours every day at, I'm graduated from high school but not going to college(please don't tell me to go to college), have a good car, and my own place. But I have no plans for the future. I feel like I'm gunna be 30 years old and have not acomplished anything in my life and I feel like I'm just gunna be a bum. I need some ideas of what I could do in my life. I feel like I'm just going to be a failure.
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reader, juliefofulie +, writes (2 October 2010):
 Hi, studmuffin. Timely question, as I was just talking to someone about this today. Why do we feel we have to DO something with our lives? Why can't we just BE in our lives?I'm going to assume that you are familiar with Star Wars. If not, you should be. What do they teach in school these days, anyway? If you went to college, you could possibly have access to entire semesters devoted to analysis on the allegorical concept of The Force in everyday life and the inescapable truth of Anakin/Vader in all of us. But university wasn't for me either, so I get it. However, I often take a course here and there if something interests me, and I'm 40. Don't count out higher education forever just because it's not on your radar right now.But I digress. Life is like a river, studmuffin. Sometimes it's lazy and languid, and you can pull in the oars and just float and stare at the clouds; sometimes there are rapids and you need to haul ass to steer around the big rocks, and sometimes you need to pull out the big guns and shoot at some sharks (yes, there are fresh water ones, and they will cut a bitch). But if you think about the rocks and sharks once you've passed them, you'll miss the pretty flowers on the banks. You'll also miss the pretty flowers if you think about the waterfall ahead that will plunge you to certain death.My point, studmuffin, is that you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders; and THAT, along with your job and your car and your place to live independently of others, puts you way ahead. There are plenty of people who have degrees and life plans and are financially successful, who are miserable, and have no idea where they're going or what they're doing. As John Lennon said, "Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans." Please tell me you know who John Lennon was... So what to do with your life? Live it, studmuffin. And while you're raising big claims with your username... celebrate your youthful body, because it won't last, honey. Travel as much as you can. Pay attention to everything around you. Pay your bills, be responsible, eat your vegetables, sleep well, exercise, don't be an a*hole. Love freely. Be honest with yourself and others. Choose happiness. No regrets. Life is short; but it's very long if you're miserable. And the waterfall is coming no matter how fast you back paddle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): As long as you're wasting your life away, why not join the NAVY or Air Force and get some leadership training to go along with whatever yu are learning on your 9 hour a day job?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 You are off to a good start. From here (without college) there are a multitude of options for you. I know how you feel, empty because you have no real achievments you can be proud of. You could start traveling, meet people or start a relationship with someone and make them happy. You could find a hobby.
What are your interests? I am in your position but I would still very much like to pursue an acting career so that is what I am aiming for. Find something you love and expand on that.
From here, the world and life itself is your playground.
I hope that helps.
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reader, N3m0  +, writes (1 October 2010):
hey bro well im 19.i guess i had the same issue at that age but for me i only had a job. lol It seems youre a hard worker and you've dont great so far. i mean i dont want you to think that im acting like a full grown adult, But Maybe you should go to college, did you know its really easy even easier than High School. The thing is that as our generation grows so does our population and we have to compete for better jobs. Btw im 19 and im just about to graduate from high school. For me i had problems with gangs and my family but now i see that in order for me to get out of what i have i need a higher education. BUt that point is that If you only want to work around while only haveing a High School diploma you really wont get far (sorry to say ) . hope this helps you a bit. Imagine .. you work all your life and you dont go to college youl be having to work as.. a Dish washer, idk something not High paying. also many manual jobs worn out your body and by the time your 50 your whole body wont keep up with you.. maybe i dont make sense but i hope it helps. Ocllege maybe the best thing to do while youre young. as for me. Ill graduate this semester and getting 2 yrs of college for free =) Good Luck .
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