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writes:Hi, allI need your advice.I have been more than 2 years together with him. My boyfriend seems no intention to introduce me to his family or friends. I have no idea how to deal with this situation.He is living far from his hometown at the monent and comes back once a year like 1-2weeks. In fact, he spend his almost all holidays with me to travel together. We went nearly 20 countries. Also usually he came to visit me to stay together quite often.I know he showed our/my photos to his family and friends and talk about it. Also I heard sevral times conversation with his mother like"hi,mom, I am at my girlfriend XXX's(my name) place bra,bra.."I know his family and friends names and also saw some photos.He wanted to meet my friends, family and visit home town. So he did. Seems he was OK with my friends and family. He started to imply about furture together.However, he never says he will take me to his home town to show me. Even when I requested to him, he said "Oh well, schedule is not good for us and my hometown is boring" I recgnized he shows little nervousness about this topic. I got confused he is playing with me or being serious. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much.
yes! I told him I also want to visit his hometown and visit to meet his family.
Actually, his father past away few years ago..and then hs has a single mother family. As far as I know from his stories, seems none is happliy married sround him.
Once we stayed in my parents home,we could enjoy "family atmosphere" like cooking, eating, watching TV together
...in the midnight he was crying with tears. I felt so sorry.
But I do not really care about it!!! I told him so many times he is the most important person and background is not the matter. But seems not woking.
Also I started to feel he has something hide from me (not like wife or kids for sure) and feel fear sometimes.
I try to calm down and talk nicely to him but he never open his mouth for anything...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): he could be embarassedby his family or there is something he doesnt want you to find out..jst be gentle and talk to him and let him know how you feel
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (1 October 2010):
Have you told him you would like to meet his family and home town?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 Perhaps he is ashamed of his family somehow. Maybe he has issues with his family. I know it may not seem that way to you but that would be because he is hiding it. A close family can have problems and hide them from the world but when it is just family, the masks fall off and their shame comes into light.
You could always ask him about it, if it truly bothers you that much. But I suggest you ask it carefully because it may cause problems between the two of you, depending on what issues his family has.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): Perhaps he has issues with his family?
He could be embarassed by how his family reacts to him having girlfriends.
I think the best possible thing you could do is just ask him why he hasn't introduced you to his family. Don't make it seem like you are angry, just that you want to know why.
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