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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
A little humility goes a long way
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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Should I put spyware on boyfriends phone?
Q. Hi Agony Aunties and Uncles, Thank you for taking the time to read this. I am aware that I am being extreme and have crossed some privacy boundaries, but before I take it to another extreme I thought I would check in with the community. I ...
A. 1 July 2013: This is one of the most bizarre options that I have ever heard of!! Seriously, get a hold on yourself! If you dont trust this guy and its gotten to a point where you're considering installing sypware on his phone, then PLEASE break up with him...for ... (read in full...)
Whay makes a guy want to have a relationship?
Q. What really attracts a guy to a girl to where he wants a relationship with her? I am an upbeat, down to earth, nice and understanding person. I am affectionate and loyal. I maybe a bit busy with work sometimes and have to cancel a date or two, but I ...
A. 30 June 2013: Hi OP,
I understand that it can be extremely frustrating when you know that you have everything going for you and yet you can never seem to find the right person that you deserve and who in turn, deserves you. Take it from someone who's been rig... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but my guy friend who's interested in me just wont take no for an answer
Q. Hi there, I have a question about one of my guy friends.He is a sweet guy that would do anything for me.We hang out get along great but are just friends. he has been hinting around that he wants more, but I have a fiance and just want to remain ...
A. 29 June 2013: This is ridiculous! How can the guy just force himself on you? You NEED to tell your fiance about this *right now*...I cannot stress this enough...and also tell your family. This guy is scary OP, he is a potential stalker, he is forcing himself on ... (read in full...)
My bf is still communicating with an ex even though we agree that he would not! HELP!
Q. So the man I have a relationship with for he last two years had an affair in January. Technically we were on a break. He was out of town for a month and there were no promises made. However he kept the affair secret and when he came back took up ...
A. 24 June 2013: He's obviously still not over her and the fact remains that she dumped him and he was heartbroken over her. Do you really think he is into you now? Because it doesnt seem like it. Its more of a case of, "if I cant get the chocolate flavored ice ... (read in full...)
How do I stop from being obsessed with wanting to have a baby?
Q. I have been married to my lovely hubby for a year. We met in our 40's and it is our first marriage for us both. As soon as we married, we started trying for a family which we both dearly want. As I am 42 now - I have been seeing the doctor and f...
A. 24 June 2013: I am sure you will get pregnant very soon and you will make a wonderful mother. Meanwhile, just distract yourself and keep thinking positive. Never ever let your doubts and fears get you down and don't let all of this take a toll on your ... (read in full...)
How do I stop from being obsessed with wanting to have a baby?
Q. I have been married to my lovely hubby for a year. We met in our 40's and it is our first marriage for us both. As soon as we married, we started trying for a family which we both dearly want. As I am 42 now - I have been seeing the doctor and f...
A. 24 June 2013: My grandma had my aunt when she was 18 then she tried for another baby for many MANY years without any success and then after almost 14 years, she had my mom and both her brothers within just a couple of years.
What I'm saying is, please don't gi... (read in full...)
They're both friends, she cheated -- I feel caught in the middle
Q. Hi everyone, I have friend that´s temporarily abroad for work - she´ll be back in one month. She confessed to me that she´s cheated on her boyfriend with some man there...And she begged me not to tell his boyfriend, that is my good friend too...He ...
A. 18 June 2013: As bad as the situation is, its really not your place to tell the guy anything. Tell the girl exactly what you've told us, that its extremely hard to lie to the guy and tell him that nothing´s going on and that she should ideally clear the mess ... (read in full...)
My fiance's behaviour with the bosses daughter is out of line
Q. My Fiancé is friends with his boss and the boss's wife. I really like both of them, but I noticed that the boss's daughter who is 14 years old has a huge crush on my fiancé. Which is fine and normal but at a group party at the boss's house she would ...
A. 14 June 2013: Tell him that this has to stop. At the end of the day, no matter how gorgeous she is or how huge a crush she has on him, he is in a committed relationship and she is his boss's daughter. This is completely out of line. Not only is he looking at ... (read in full...)
Fooled around with a MARRIED MAN last night!!!! I feel really used!!
Q. Hi everyone. OMG!!!! I just fooled around with a MARRIED MAN last night!!! I am such a mess. I really need some help from all of you!!!!! We work together and he suggested we meet outside the workplace for coffee. We talked for a couple o...
A. 10 June 2013: Oh my God...this man is a creep on so many levels!! He has consistently lied to you and I must say he's been a terrible liar too. You should have spotted it OP, it was all so obvious!! Afraid of rejection...bullshit!! Asexual wife, not had sex for 7 ... (read in full...)
He asked me for a FWB relationship and I don't know how to proceed from here
Q. I have a guy friend, let's call him A, whom I've known for around an year. He's nice, funny, very intelligent, respectful - basically, he's a nice catch. A month ago I started hanging out with him and a bunch of friends, all male - I'm the only f...
A. 30 May 2013: Be prepared to get very, very hurt if you get into the FWB. The guy doesnt give a damn about your feelings and he's made it clear he just wants to have fun. You on the other hand like him; if u didnt then u would never be as conscious about yourself ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend may be hiding her past from me. How can I know whether she's a virgin?
Q. Hey friends.. I have a girlfriend and i love her much. we are in relationship from past 2 months. we met and became friends in her hometown. actually i guess that she is hiding her past from me and i dont feel good..so here her past goes.. ...
A. 23 May 2013: Listen OP, first of all, you can never really "know" if a woman is a virgin or not and the "hymen test" as you put it is NOT a measure of virginity. If a woman does not bleed the first time that she has sex doesn't mean that she's not a virgin, the ... (read in full...)
Cant stop deaming about my son's father and the woman he cheated on me with....
Q. I am torturing myself over here. My ex of 2 years who I was crazy about, and I had a child together. Throughout the relationship he was abusive, and cheated, and I kept forgiving, and giving chances. After 2 years of the off and on and constant lies ...
A. 22 May 2013: OP get a hold on yourself. This man is a lying, cheating scumbag and neither you nor your son need his presence in your life. He was abusive throughout your relationship and he kept cheating on you and you kept forgiving him in the hope that he ... (read in full...)
It is sad that our society is so quick to reinforce the idea of "old maids"!
Q. So, I just want to challenge an attitude that I've found rather unappealing on here. Recently someone asked a question about a woman who was single at 42. She had never married, and Fatherly Advice presented the view that if you have not found a...
A. 30 March 2013: I agree with you OP. My PhD supervisor is a very intelligent and smart woman who is 60. Never been married, no kids. The common perception about her is that she's a frustrated old hag who's just out to make everyone's life miserable. Why? Obviously ... (read in full...)
I asked about our relationship status and it comes out that he thinks we should just call ourselves 'friends'! I'm totally heartbroken, should I just say good riddance?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a little over a year now and everything seemed to be going well and the relationship was definitely progressing. Because we're long distance however we don't see each other as much as we'd like (but up until this point ...
A. 26 March 2013: This was his way of wriggling out of the situation when he was caught on the wrong foot. He didnt know what else to say because there was nothing that he *could* say to save his ass. So what's the next best thing? "Lets not even be friends or talk ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend about a drunken fumble with her boyfriend?
Q. I recently went on a weekend away with my boyfriend, two of my friends and their boyfriends. We always go out as a group and all get along really well. One night we was playing drinking games and everyone ended up naked. This is the first time ...
A. 26 March 2013: Tell her OP, you're giving the guy way too much power over you by keeping quiet. You dont know when, where and how he could use this against you. And not only did you betray your friend, you have also betrayed your boyfriend. Does he know about any ... (read in full...)
How do I to stop feeling humiliated after being rejected by a friend?
Q. A year ago I had a thing for a friend. Everybody in our big circle of friends knew. People kept pushing us towards each other and a few people thought we were actually dating because we spent a lot of time together. For the longest time I thought he ...
A. 26 March 2013: You don't have to become a hermit OP, just don't give him or any of your other friends too much importance because honestly, what they say or think doesn't matter in the LEAST. The guy doesn't sound too promising in any case, he obviously thinks ... (read in full...)
Is jealousy a way of showing that you care?
Q. Is jealousy a way of showing that you care? I'm just wondering if acting jealous is really someones way of showing you that they care about you, and your well being. My bf is not jealous at all, he doesn't mind who I am friends with, who I talk...
A. 25 March 2013: Are you kidding me? You've got a lovely, secure boyfriend and you're actually comparing him to your nightmare of an ex? The reason your current boyfriend doesn't act jealous is because he trusts you and really, what else can you ask for? There is a ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my girlfriend about my past?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and it has been going great. I work in a different state but travel often to see her and will be seeing her in a month. In one of our recent conversations a topic i am not comfortable with ...
A. 16 March 2013: Dont tell her anything. As long as you are not putting her at a risk for any sexually transmitted disease and you are not cheating on her, your past is not her concern, the same way as her past should not be your concern. ... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years said that he doesn't see us as a couple and he just wants to have fun until he meets "the one"!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years never talks about our future together, whenever i brought it up, he chnages the topic or says future is never certain. Yesterday i made him talk about our future, now he says he doesnt see us as a couple and he ju...
A. 8 March 2013: I feel bad for your boyfriend, it must be really difficult trying to retain the title of the world's biggest loser. Especially with all the competition and everything but he still seems to be going strong!
What are you still doing with this guy... (read in full...)
Girls, how do you deal with flirty women around your boyfriend or spouse?
Q. I guess this question is more directed towards women. Have you ever dealt with those really flirty, skanky women who will not leave your partner alone? Do they not have morals? I was at a party with my fiancee and a couple of his friends last ...
A. 8 March 2013: The question is, why is your boyfriend even talking to this woman who has offered to send him naked pics of hers? Why hasn't he blocked her from Facebook?
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What am I doing wrong? I seem to easily make my fiance irritable with me
Q. Just the other day my fiance snapped at me. It was regarding the current political climate. He said to me did you hear that the White House tours were cancelled due to the sequesterian? He was sitting at his computer looking at the news. Curi...
A. 7 March 2013: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-swearing-and-comparing-verbal-abuse-or-am.html
Isnt this you?
I thought the question looked very familiar and it is.
Look, to be honest, you do seem oversensitive. Your husband isnt as bad as you seem ... (read in full...)
I've been fantasizing about my boyfriend's brother
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now and recently had a baby 5 months ago. I love him so much and he means everything to me. Like all couples we have our ups and downs but lately its been on the rocky side. Just problems with ...
A. 5 March 2013: You're playing with fire here.You have a steady relationship and a baby to look after and yet you're lusting for a man who is also the father of a baby. Stop messing with everyone's lives just for the sake of lust. You cant possibly be this ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that this girl might start flirting with my boyfriend
Q. Hello everyone I apologize in advance for this being long but I need some serious advice. I'll just start off by saying I have been in a long distance relationship for almost two years with a really amazing person. We are both around the same age ...
A. 5 March 2013: If your boyfriend is as committed to you as you are to him and he values your relationship, then you have nothing to worry about. Insignificant people like this girl will come and go but a strong relationship will never waver. Have faith in your ... (read in full...)
My crazy ex claimed she was pregnant the day after we broke up!
Q. Hello, I feel like I'm falling apart and desperately need some help and advice from others to help me piece everything together in my own head. So about 2 months ago I was introduced to a girl through a mutual friend who thought we might be good...
A. 3 March 2013: It doesn't look like she's really pregnant because if she was, then both she and her mom would have driven you up the wall. They would never have let you go without making your life completely miserable. Demand for a paternity test if she is indeed ... (read in full...)
Incredibly drunk guy called me gorgeous. Did he mean it?
Q. The other night I went to a party. One of my good friend's roommates was there. He was actually the one who texted me and told me to come party. Anyway, we both got incredibly drunk and started dancing together. It's all a blur now, but we kissed a ...
A. 19 February 2013: He was drunk and he wanted to get into your pants. That's all it meant. ... (read in full...)
What makes a good relationship good?
Q. I need tips on what makes a good relationship good... And I need to know how can you prove to someone that your trustworthy. I know actions speaks louder than words I have tried both but is there any other ways? Help? Please!...
A. 15 February 2013: Its a combination of many factors. Trust, respect, faith, love, a common vision towards life, honesty and selflessness. I'm sure I'm missing out on a lot of points but this is mostly what I can think of. ... (read in full...)
My highschool sweetheart cheated on me while Drunk
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for 15 years we are high school sweethearts. ROck solid relationship for 15 fun years. On new years eve she got really really drunk and cheated on me. she was so drunk she hopped in a car with her new slutty manip...
A. 15 February 2013: Unfortunately there's not much you can do here. And I have to agree with the other posters, your girlfriend is to be blamed entirely. Come on OP, she's not a kid who can be led by others. Leave her friend out of this. It was your girlfriend's fault ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is emotionally abusive but I keep crawling back to him!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years is lately being emotionally abusive towards me, never spends time with me, always blames me for verything. Whenever he get angry and yells at me, says he need to yell cause i was stupid enough not to understand him. ...
A. 15 February 2013: You know he's wrong for you but yet you choose to crawl back to him. Why do you do that? Are you really THAT lonely and needy? This man treats you like crap because you allow him to treat you that way. Walk out with dignity and put an end to this ... (read in full...)
I am inexperienced in sex but boyfriend is comparing me to his ex, who was better in bed.
Q. Last night me and my boyfriend had sex for the second time. I told him to take things slow and pace what we were doing, he suggested we tried some positions, I agreed to see what was best for me. Although it didn't end up going so great, he was ...
A. 14 February 2013: You don't have to prove anything to him! Your boyfriend is a jerk if he keeps comparing you to his ex because that is just completely obnoxious and uncalled for. If she was that good in bed and they were at it everyday, then why doesn't he just go ... (read in full...)
I wouldn't send my love interest an intimate photo so he broke up. Should we stay friends, as he is suggesting?
Q. I met a man on facebook about 5 months ago. We have never met in real life. But we are very close to each other. We have shared everything about our past--his ex's and my ex. I told him about my ex, who blackmails me with pics that he had taken of ...
A. 12 February 2013: WHAT a creep! Please do not give in to his sleazy requests and no matter what he says, refuse to even be friends with him. How dare he ask your for pics of your vagina and then accuse YOU of being coy? This shows what he wants from you and you ... (read in full...)
Wisdom teeth problem
Q. more of a health issue than relationship, but advice is appreciated, aunts this is so not a relationship question but it's bothering me , I was fine till recently I realized my wisdom teeth was coming out I thought I didn't even have them, I went to ...
A. 8 February 2013: My wisdom teeth too were impacted and growing sideways and pushing against my other teeth. It was a nightmare and I had to have them all extracted. I still shudder when I think of the x-rays and the way they showed my teeth growing sideways and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a type... and it's not me?
Q. Hello. I am a lady in desperate need of hearing some truths. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about five years now and we're doing great except for a couple reoccurring issues. Our relationship started in early college and therefore suffer...
A. 8 February 2013: OP its not just about the breast size here, your problem has far deeper roots. Your boyfriend is disrespectful of you. He has a "type" which is clearly not what you are, and the problem, yes the PROBLEM is that you are WAY too good and even perfect ... (read in full...)
Young relationships are supposed to be fun, but mine is boring!
Q. Hey, so I'm kind of in a unique situation haha. I'm 19, and my "boyfriend" is 22. We live together because of university, our living situation is this: He got a double room, and a private bathroom, he asked me to move into the second bedroom s...
A. 8 February 2013: Oh come on, throw him out of your life! He's just a drama queen who likes your presence in his life because it makes life easier for him. He has no anxiety problems of course, that's just a way to make sure you don't dump him. Please get rid of this ... (read in full...)
Two women that I both care for know nothing about the other. I don't want to hurt either of them
Q. I am in a very complicated situation. I have dated this girl on and off for 18 months and when things go well, the relationship is awesome. But unfortunately, it was a very tumultuous relationship that had several arguments and breakups. It was very ...
A. 8 February 2013: You're jumping out of the frying pan into the fire. Trust me OP, you don't need either of these women into your life. You might feel that you love your ex and while there's no doubting your feelings, you will realize sooner or later that she wasn't ... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy is tearing us apart
Q. my partner and i have been together for 8 years, hes just gone 40 and i m 36. we have been friends for 19 years after meeting when i was 17 and seeing each other for a few months. we stayed friends after this and i had my son with someone else and ...
A. 7 February 2013: So everything was fine for 8 years and all of a sudden 5 weeks earlier he started questioning your morals? Something sounds off here. Why this sudden extreme reaction?
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My girlfriend wont get engaged to me unless I get her a 20 000 euro engagement ring
Q. Hi, I ve posted on this website before and I ve found the answere really helpful so I am hoping for some more advice please. I ve been agonizing over this for some time, would be really interested to hear what others think.. My girlfriend w...
A. 5 February 2013: Forget the ring OP, why do you even want to marry this woman? What is it about her that still makes you "love her dearly"? The fact that she's cheated on you and in all probability, will do so again? Or are the 10 break-ups not enough for you? The ... (read in full...)
Does this 'ho ho ho' mean a laugh or a prostitute?
Q. Hi there! I recently went into hospital to have an operation, and my partner who I've been seeing for nearly a year has been looking after me and has been my rock really, well I noticed in his inbox on facebook a message from his mate asking how...
A. 30 January 2013: I agree with the others too OP. Guys talk utter shit when they are together and while it sounds horribly offensive to us, its not a big deal for them. Its just guy talk.
Your boyfriend wants to have sex, plain and simple. Its not about prostitu... (read in full...)
Should I remain a friend to my ex, or should I leave him alone?
Q. Should I remain a friend to my ex, or should I leave him alone? BACKGROUND: My ex-boyfriend and I dated for three years in university then broke up. Before we split up we never fought. We are both down-to-earth and had only dated one...
A. 29 January 2013: Stop talking to this guy, you cannot help him in any way. Actually, no one can, till he himself decides that he wants to get out of his mess. He will always be dictated by his mommy and even though you want to help him, you cant because he is too ... (read in full...)
Ever since my boyfriend confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex, I've had difficulty being intimate with him
Q. I have been dating the most amazing man for four months. Everything was wonderful until two weeks ago when he confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex. Since then, I've had difficulty being intimate with him. I think anal sex is disgustin...
A. 29 January 2013: In that case you have to try and block out this bit of info and proceed like nothing's happened. There is nothing else that you can do and you cant erase the past. Think rationally about it. His ex was an individual who had different likes and ... (read in full...)
Ever since my boyfriend confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex, I've had difficulty being intimate with him
Q. I have been dating the most amazing man for four months. Everything was wonderful until two weeks ago when he confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex. Since then, I've had difficulty being intimate with him. I think anal sex is disgustin...
A. 28 January 2013: Why is your boyfriend providing you with all the details of his past sexual encounters? The only reason that I can think of is because he wants to do the same with you. I really dont think he cares about you as a person and now that he's done ... (read in full...)
I just really wish I knew if he really likes me or if I'm just being used.
Q. I really like this guy, we work together and know each other for about two years. All we are right now is friends. About six months ago we started to have sex and he doesn't want anyone to know because its no ones business. Well we still do and we ...
A. 27 January 2013: If there was ever a no-brainer, this is the one!
Wake up and smell the coffee OP!! This guy uses you for sex but you are just a dirty little secret that he doesnt want anyone to know about. And now you're borrows money from you because he knows... (read in full...)
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