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writes:Hey, so I'm kind of in a unique situation haha. I'm 19, and my "boyfriend" is 22. We live together because of university, our living situation is this: He got a double room, and a private bathroom, he asked me to move into the second bedroom so that he owned both. So as it stands on the lease, I own one bedroom, the bathroom is shared, and he owns the other.Bluntly put - I'm fed up of him. completely and totally bored. There's no sex. Last time I had sex was about a month ago. He just has no sex drive at all - who ever says guys have higher sex drives than women obviously never met a woman before! There's no romance, there's no sex, and in 6 months we've not been on one single date. He goes out with his friends, I go out with mine. My mates are furious at me for putting up with him. They even get angry when I call him my boyfriend by accident. I feel like his mother! All I do is clean up after him, and cuddle him at night when we sleep. That's literally our relationship.So I was planning on moving out, as I'm on a reading week, so I was gonna message him saying I need the ability to sit in my own room, and lock the door. THEN I get a message saying "hey babe, so I got a PS3, and I set everything up in your room, lucky you!" ... He's taking over my freaking room and I've been on holiday for a day! I tried to move out before, and he used his "anxiety" (It's bull, he doesn't have anxiety problems!) to stop me, saying that he'd tell the counselor that he could not handle me living in that room because it would cause him to have a breakdown, if he did this I would have to pay £200 to get another room or move out all together and get a flat! UGH. Young relationships are supposed to be fun, who's ever met such a boring 22 year old!!!!!!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 February 2013):
 It's not that he's boring...it's that he's not a boyfriend.
He's a roommate you have sex with.
Move as soon as you can and cut contact with him.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (8 February 2013):
 Oh come on, throw him out of your life! He's just a drama queen who likes your presence in his life because it makes life easier for him. He has no anxiety problems of course, that's just a way to make sure you don't dump him. Please get rid of this chap, he's just weighing you down. At 19, you have the world at your feet! Go out, explore, meet new people
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (8 February 2013):
 HI
get on with your life, your too young to be stuck in a stale dead end relationship. run run run as fast as you can or he will just drain and zap any fun you have left in you. If he has anxiety problems then HE needs to deal with it not you. Sounds like he just wants a roomy and when it suits him a little shack up. Don't allow him to bring you down, find yourself a real man not a mummys boy hun. And if your unable to move out just yet get a lock on your door, so he cant enter when he feels like.
Mandy x
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