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writes: Hello everyone I apologize in advance for this being long but I need some serious advice. I'll just start off by saying I have been in a long distance relationship for almost two years with a really amazing person. We are both around the same age and he means a whole lot to me. My boyfriend and his friends are pretty hardcore gamers and play this PC game literally all day everyday(which is totally fine with me) I often play this game with them. Me and them are usually in a skype call while playing. Well, the thing that I need advice on is there is this female friend of them who plays the same game as all of us and is always around. This girl does not like me. She tries to avoid me as much as possible for whatever reason that may be. I hate to be so negative, but she is just a trashy rude person and comes off very slutty, bitchy and also immature. She is extremely mean to all females and is very very flirty and sexual with literally every guy including all of these guys. She toys with guys emotions, and has all of these relationship type things going on with people within this online game, I'm guessing she does it because she thinks it's funny. I know this may sound ridiculous to some people but my problem is is that I really don't feel comfortable with my boyfriend talking and becoming friends with this type of girl. Because like I said, she hates me and has always been rude to me for no reason, and pretends like I don't even exist. Skype is me and my boyfriends main source of communication and of course he likes to talk with his friends a lot also that doesn't bother me at all. But a girl like this coming into the picture is really bumming me out. We have been with each other quite a few times but the majority of our relationship is long distance. I really love my boyfriend and I trust him, you guys may say I'm insecure and other things, but I do not appreciate this girls behavior and she is doing a lot of immature things to purposely upset me. My boyfriend is a huge part of my life and I would hate for this girl to start flirting with my boyfriend and messing around with his head and feelings, because she honestly does it with every guy she ever comes in contact with, and my boyfriend has no idea about the things the girl does and all of the trouble she causes with people. My boyfriends friends are gaming 24/7 and this girl is always around and pretty soon I know for a fact she will start on my boyfriend. So, is there any advice on what I should do when this girl starts on my boyfriend? Her messing with him and flirting with him is really going to upset me, and she will most likely try to break us up because I know from a lot of other people that these are the things she does. I really hope you guys understand how serious this is affecting me. I'm 100% committed to my boyfriend and take our relationship very seriously. And I hope someone who is in a long distance relationship can somehow relate to these type of problems. This is my problem in a nutshell. Thanks for any adivce or anything you guys have to say!
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reader, xAx  +, writes (5 March 2013):
 I personally don't think you should say anything to her because that may add to her enjoyment that she's getting to you and she may try harder. I suggest you talk to you boyfriend and give him signs to look out for if she's flirting. Obviously you can't force him to not like her/ hang with her but you should tell him that she's treated you badly and don't want her to get between you two. I'm sure at the end of the day, he'll choose you over her so try your best to ignore her as he's with you and not her.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (5 March 2013):
 If your boyfriend is as committed to you as you are to him and he values your relationship, then you have nothing to worry about. Insignificant people like this girl will come and go but a strong relationship will never waver. Have faith in your boyfriend. Im sure he will never cheat on you.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (5 March 2013):
You shouldn't be worried about this at all. Because if he's trustworthy than he'll have no interest in her and she'll know it. If he's not trustworthy he may mess around with her and sooner or later you'll know. Then you can dump him and find a trustworthy boyfriend.
I've never been a jealous person for the most part because I trust the women I'm with. And if they betray that trust I move on and try to find someone that's right for me.
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