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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now and recently had a baby 5 months ago. I love him so much and he means everything to me. Like all couples we have our ups and downs but lately its been on the rocky side. Just problems with his family being too dependent on him. I have been around his older brother several times and never thought about it. Lately I've been thinking about him non stop and its driving me crazy. I can't stop wondering what it would be like and although I know I know I would never cheat on my boyfriend, I just can't stop wondering what sex with his brother would be like. I know its wrong and its driving me crazy.His brother is the total opposite of him. My bf is passive aggressive, kind, sweet, understanding. Everything you would ever want in a man and I would love to marry him one day, But his brother....His brother is so Aggressive which drives me crazy and I love it. His brother is mostly like the guys i used to mess around with.I'm so attracted to his aggressive "bad boy" personality that its really starting to affect me. I've even started masturbating to the thought of his brother. He lives about 100 miles away and I barely get to interact with him and he also just recently had a baby with his on again off again gf. I don't ever see myself being with him bc I know it would never be serious and he has a habit of cheating on his gf, but I don't care. I just really want to fuck him. I doubt his brother is interested in me, but i'm afraid to say that if he ever was interested and made a move....I don't know If i could stop myself right away. I want to tell my bf but i don't want to hurt him. What should I do? I'm slowly losing my mind and I feel like shit. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOMG Flynn!!!!!! lol You are 100% correct. I needed that. I told my bf everything and we have worked out our problems. He took it better than what I thought and isn't worried one bit bc he knows he is a better man than his brother with more to offer. I feel so much better now that its off my chest. Things are already getting better. I haven't thought about his brother ever since. I need more men like you in my life bc that was the best thing I've heard from any one. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2013): Do you really love your boyfriend? I really don't think you do. You are so obsessed with his brother that you would cheat on your boyfriend, the father of your child, with his own brother if you had the chance.
Do you see how selfish and childish your thoughts and behavior are? When you have a child and have been in a relationship with someone for five years, your pussy doesn't come first. Your child and your relationship come before the aching in your nethers. Stop being selfish. If you want your boyfriend to be aggressive in bed then tell him. Communicate your needs and strengthen your bond with him.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (5 March 2013):
 You're playing with fire here.You have a steady relationship and a baby to look after and yet you're lusting for a man who is also the father of a baby. Stop messing with everyone's lives just for the sake of lust. You cant possibly be this impulsive and ruin everything that you have just because you want to fuck your boyfriend's brother! Act responsibly. If not for the baby I would have asked you to take a step back from your relationship because you are clearly being unfaithful to your boyfriend, but a child in the picture changes the equation drastically. Your baby needs to grow up in a healthy environment with both parents ideally contributing to its growth and well being.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2013): First of all, I think you only fancy his brother because he represents your past.
As time goes on we seem to forget the bad things easily. You remember the excitement. The danger. But not the consequences and the pain that came after.
If you were to do ANYTHING with this guy, you would not only be destroying YOUR relationship, you'd be destroying HIS and tearing apart a family in the process. All for what will surely turn out to be a very average session of sex (whenever you put the act on that kind of pedestal, it's ALWAYS a disappointment).
Get your head out of your arse and grow the fuck up. Enjoy what you have with a decent man, because it's a hell of a lot more than most people ever get.
Why don't you just tell your boyfriend you want him to show more aggression in the bedroom and in life? How the hell is he supposed to know it's what you desire right now if you don't tell him?
Flynn 24
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