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writes:Last night me and my boyfriend had sex for the second time. I told him to take things slow and pace what we were doing, he suggested we tried some positions, I agreed to see what was best for me. Although it didn't end up going so great, he was coming out of me, I was 'on top' so I was in charge, but this was my first time trying this. He got annoyed saying to me you're no good. He kept lifting me up, and was getting angry because I was putting my weight onto him. I got upset and told him to stop comparing me (I feel that I'm being compared to his ex who was 5 years older) obviously she had more sexual partners and is more experienced. My boyfriend said she'd have sex with him everyday. He often will mention her, and always says he's going to delete her off Facebook, but I always see her still in his friends list.How can I prove if I'm the one for him
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): You need to leave him
Don't try to please an asshole like him
He sounds cruel and nasty.
If you are going to stay in this relationship and try to please him then I'm sorry for being blunt but you are very naive. You need to leave him. Don't let ANY man disrespect you and lower your sex esteem. You don't deserve him
trust me, you need to leave him right away
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): Don't have sex with him again!!!
He sounds very nasty, I would suggest you stop seeing him straight away.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (14 February 2013):
 This guy isn't worth it. Who the hell gets angry during sex? It's supposed to be sexy and fun. Mistakes happen, you should be having fun and if something goes wrong during sex just laugh/giggle about it.
Seriously, there is no such thing as perfect sex all the time.
He's putting too much pressure on you and I would say it's time to ditch this guy and find someone else.
You're his girlfriend. Not a professional porn star. Sex is sexy. It is also messy and funny at times. If you can't enjoy it and laugh at the funny bits there's no point.
The fact he got angry saying you're doing it all wrong says it all. You need to dump this one.
Why do you want to prove you're the one with someone like that anyway? Tell him if his ex is so great then go out with her this is over. He's an idiot.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (14 February 2013):
Congratulations, your boyfriend is a jerk!
You need to move on. Somehow I don't think you're going to listen to our advice since you're so inexperienced.
So what I'd recommend is talking to him and telling him that you really didn't like your first two experiences with him, and if he's not more patient and caring with you then you don't think you're ready to have sex yet.
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reader, loner35 +, writes (14 February 2013):
He is not over her at all. I hate to tell you that cause I know it will cause you pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): He is the one who is bad in bed sweetheart, not you. You can do so much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): He is a douche and has no right to speak to you like that. He should be trying to reassure you, teach you and make it good for you too. It's not all about his pleasure remember, it's about you too. He is saying you are bad in bed, but he is the one who is a terrible lover. Who speaks to their girlfriend like that?! If I were you I'd dump him and find a decent guy who appreciates you and any sex you choose to give him.
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (14 February 2013):
 Well he definitely isn't the one for you! If he's criticising you when you're meant to be sharing an intimate moment, then he doesn't care about you or your feelings. Looks to me like he is only in it for the sex and you are giving in to him too easily. If he doesn't put effort in to making you happy there's no reason for you to do the same. Leave him.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (14 February 2013):
 Your boyfriend sounds like a piece of work... A good guy NEVER EVER compares you to his previous loves... that is just completely wrong and unconscionable.
It sounds like your boyfriend is more into getting off rather than making love. With this being your second time, I would think that he would be more into making you feel comfortable rather than putting you down. What does he expect to happen to your self-esteem and confidence when during your second time he gets frustrated and puts you down in about the worst possible way?
Sadly, I think this is just a small indication of future things to come. While you haven't outlined the rest of your relationship, I have a pretty good idea of what is in store in your future and exactly what type of "man" your boyfriend is.
I hope you take stock of what happened and really think about the character of the man you are dating. From the very brief description here he doesn't sound particularly loving, nor caring.
Eddie
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (14 February 2013):
 You don't have to prove anything to him! Your boyfriend is a jerk if he keeps comparing you to his ex because that is just completely obnoxious and uncalled for. If she was that good in bed and they were at it everyday, then why doesn't he just go have sex with her? How dare he make you feel inadequate? Remember OP, in a loving, committed relationship where there is respect, your partner or lover will *NEVER* make you feel this way.
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