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writes: I need tips on what makes a good relationship good...And I need to know how can you prove to someone that your trustworthy. I know actions speaks louder than words I have tried both but is there any other ways? Help? Please! Reply to this Question
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (18 February 2013):
This is what is needed for a good relationship, remember this is MR conductor talking here, I know my stuff In order of importance:1. Communication: Absolutly vital, if you can't speak with her/him and speak comfortably about anything you already have problems. If your a guy forget that macho BS and open up, she will love that. Trust/honesty kind of goes with this one because you wan't to be open and honest when you communicte.2. Sex: Communication and sex are almost equal in importance, but communication trumps, only just. It's not just having sex it's nurturing the sexual side of things, don't let it get stale, liven it up and be creative. Humans are social as well as sexual beings. They are almost equally important. Funnily though good sex can often be a result of good communication.3. Money: This is the ugly truth of relationships, relationships need a stable financial backing to work. It's one of those things where you wish it wasn't a factor in a relationship but in this world it is. However relationships can and do survive with a lack of moneyy but money does make the relationship easier to deal with. On a side note it shouldn't matter who makes the money as long as it keeps the couple afloat.4. All the rest: Sense of humour, kindness, adventurousness, compromising, not being too stubborn, understanding e.t.c
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): what makes a relationship good is as much about what you DO NOT do, as what you DO do.it's often easier to "do" nice things than to "not do" harmful and hurtful things.it's not enough to be nice and loving to your partner. in a way that is the easy part.You also need to NOT say hurtful things to them, and not be selfish and inconsiderate to them. This is the hard part because people have a tendency, when they feel upset or angry or annoyed, to behave in negative ways. This can really tear down the other person's feelings for you even if you 'make it up to them.' For example, relationships that have a lot of ups and downs are overall felt by the partners involved to be a negative or wearisome relationship. The ups cannot cancel out the downs. think of your relationship like a bank account. Every time you do or say something nice, it's like putting money in the bank. Every time you do or say something that hurts or lets down your partner, it's like withdrawing money. At the end of the day, you want to have a positive balance. But here's the rub. Psychologists have found that negative incidents can have a much bigger effect than positive ones. So for the bank account analogy think of it as, every time you do something nice for the other person it's like putting a dollar in the bank. But every time you cause them hurt or pain or disappointment, it's like withdrawing 10 dollars. this shows that to make a relationship good requires a lot of effort about managing the negatives, perhaps more so than doing positives.
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reader, when nothing goes right go left  +, writes (15 February 2013):
 The obvious ones are loving having a strong connection and also good communication so listening to eachother and talking through problems and also having good communication when it comes to sex so telling and showing eachother what turns you on, being honest and trusting
one another, being spontaneous especially in the bedroom, being willing to compromise when you need to and to respect yourself enough to stand up if you feel that you are being wronged.
But if you haven't had much experience with relationships yet then focus
on someone you like and who likes you back and ake time getting to
know them and go at your own pace because if the other person is trying to rush you then they are not worth being with.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks :)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (15 February 2013):
 Its a combination of many factors. Trust, respect, faith, love, a common vision towards life, honesty and selflessness. I'm sure I'm missing out on a lot of points but this is mostly what I can think of.
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reader, elliestreeter +, writes (15 February 2013):
A good relationship HAS to be trustworty, you have to believe that they wont hurt you. Try opening up more to your partner, and help them to open up to you too. Push away any thoughts that they would ever hurt you, depending on the level of your relationship this varies, for instance if you are only in the beginning of your relationship you should probably think about keeping your guard up but still open up to your partner, you don't want to run head first into the relationship then have it all crashing down on you. If you are quite a way through the relationship you should be at the point of full trust! You should be able to tell them everything and anything!
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