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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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Am I overreacting to this text from his ex the night before her wedding?
Q. I am getting married in a month to the love of my life. He broke up with this girl 7 years ago and one of the reasons they broke up after a 5-year-realtionship was that she wanted to get married while he didn't. Today my fiancé got home and told me ...
A. 22 September 2012: How does it matter what she feels for your boyfriend? This is the reason why text messages can be so misleading...you just dont know what tone they're supposed to imply. For all you know, what she meant was, "Ha! My new boyfriend is so much better ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 2 months creeps me out!
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been going out for about two months. Lately, though, it seems as if every little thing he does annoys me or creeps me out. He's constantly making fun of me and he brings the gift I gave him (a stuffed monkey) weeks ago ...
A. 22 September 2012: He is immature and silly and is behaving like a 5 year old as far as his actions in school are concerned. As regards dumping him, if you're not happy with him, then you are not obliged to be with him. Let him threaten whatever he wants, you are not ... (read in full...)
Truly love my wife, only been with her, want to try another woman though.
Q. Hello there, I married my high school sweetheart. We have been together for near 15 years, married only about 5 years. We had kids "really" young. I have only ever slept with her and she has only ever slept with me 100% fact. So in technical ter...
A. 20 September 2012: You know, sometimes some things are better when they are just in fantasy. You say you haven't slept with anyone else, but you knew that even before you got married. Marriage has a certain sanctity which is why cheating, sleeping with others outside ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man who is ready to leave his wife for me but I don't want to break up a family. What should I do?
Q. I am in love with a married man. I am 23 he is 29. He is willing to leave his wife for me. She lives in another country. I don't know what to do, because ever though we are deeply in love with each other, i don't want to break up a family. They ...
A. 20 September 2012: He's not going to leave his wife for you. Saying that he will is one of the world's biggest lies, kind of on the lines of, "The cheque is in the mail" and " I'm from your government, and I am here to help you."
Wake up OP, he's lying to you, he'... (read in full...)
Should I break up with the love of my life?
Q. I don't know what to do. My relationship has gone in a downward spiral from the minute it started. We met while I was visiting the East Coast from the West Coast. He moved to the West Coast for a job, and for me. We lived together in a nice little ...
A. 18 September 2012: I cannot even begin to imagine what a difficult a situation you are in. It is not easy to see someone you love so much, fall into the very midst of sickness and misery. It's easy to say that you should leave him but if it were my sister or friend in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend enjoys a sexual act that causes me a lot of pain, I ask him not to but he threatens and does it anyway.
Q. I have a boyfriend who is really into a certain sexual act. I wont divulge too much because of the ages of some on this site. That being said, due to his size, this act is extremely painful and I don't like it. The problem is, he does like it, re...
A. 18 September 2012: If you don't want to leave him and you are uncomfortable with the act, what options do you have left with you? He is abusing you, yes, this is abuse and if he forces himself on you without your consent then it is rape. Dont be mistaken about the ... (read in full...)
I helped pay for 2 friend's lunches and they haven't paid me back. Are they mooches or an I gullible?
Q. I feel pretty dumb but hear me out. This classmate of mine and I were out to lunch on campus. She forgot her wallet so I insisted on buying her coffee and a soup from the salad bar. It wasn't that expensive but that's not the point. She seemed ...
A. 18 September 2012: Learn from your mistakes and stop offering money to others. It just leaves a bad after taste when people don't bother to return what they've borrowed. Anyway, what you can do now is that the next time you go out with these people, say that you're ... (read in full...)
I hate to admit it but my ex scares the crap out of me, how do I stop her from ruining my life?
Q. My head has been completely screwed with by my ex. She told so many lies. She even said that she was pregnant and then strangely miscarried when i asked to see proof of pregnancy and asked her to go to dr. During our 2year relationship she pulled ...
A. 17 September 2012: Why are you hiding from her? The more you hide, the more she'll scare you. And do you know what she's scaring you OP? Because you are allowing yourself to be afraid of her.
She's an ex, she's out of your life, you have nothing to worry about. R... (read in full...)
What can I do so that he wont know I am not a virgin?
Q. Hi, m 21yr old indian girl..had been in a relationship wid a guy approx for 1yr,bt he ditched nd left me,as i trusted on him...i was in physical relationship wid him...but before 1 nd a half year... Nd now m going to marry wid anothr guy......
A. 17 September 2012: You should be honest with him because no one deserves a lie. If that's what he's been brought up on and that's what he thinks he should be getting in life, then don't lie to him. He doesnt deserve it. The way he thinks is the way he was brought up ... (read in full...)
Was he drunk? Or sober?
Q. I was supposed to go on a date with my neighbor last night. I tell him to meet me at 12:30am, and he agrees. We picked this time cause we were gonna have a midnight picnic. He does not show up until 2. At like 1,I called and texted asking where he ...
A. 17 September 2012: Is it safe to go on a date with someone you dont even know too well at 12:30 in the morning? That too when he doesnt know what he's saying? Please dont put yourself in any danger. Plus his language is offensive and drunk or not, there's no excuse ... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable since I discovered that my boyfriend has an interest in very young girls!
Q. So, straight to the point. I looked at my boyfriends phone before and in his picture album there were naked pictures of this girl he had sexual relationship with, which I get, it's old and all but you shouldn't have them while you are in a new ...
A. 17 September 2012: Ge out of your relationship as soon as you can! There is something very wrong about this guy and you should follow your instincts. This is not the person who you should be planning your life with; as another aunt said, what if your next child is a ... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 16 September 2012: Look, if you think we have nothing better to do than sit here and argue with someone as immature and insecure as you, then you are sadly mistaken. Keep posting your questions all you want, you're not taking any help from here and you are proving me ... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 16 September 2012: I'm overreacting? Well I'm not the one repeatedly posting the same thing questioning my partner's virginity. You are. You have had many responses to your questions in the past which you are clearly not satisfied with, which is why you feel the need ... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 16 September 2012: Haven't you posted repeatedly on this exact same topic?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-leave-her-slowly-so-she.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/--i-cant-get-over-the-fact.html
and now this http://www.dearcupid.org... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been having sex with another girl behind my back.Am I a fool for wanting to stay and make this work?
Q. My boyfriend has always treated me like a princess. He is one of my best friends; we have the same friends, the same beliefs, and have known each other for a little over four years. We've been dating for 3 months short of two years. We moved into a ...
A. 15 September 2012: So you're open to the idea of him cheating on you but you want him to be honest about it? Where's your self esteem and sense of self worth? You just want the man, you don't care what he does or who he does it with. Do you know you are putting ... (read in full...)
We had a threesome and my husband completely ignored me! I feel our marriage is over...
Q. I am married for 5 1/2 yrs. My husband and I have useId talking about a 3some several times during sex for excitement. Me being bi. But he has always said he doesn't really wanna do it. But the opportunity presented itself. And he asked and asked if ...
A. 14 September 2012: I'm with Cerberus on this one. What were you doing the entire time when they were at it? When were you doing when he was going down on her? When she was giving him oral? Standing and looking and asking them to stop? Assuming you did that the first ... (read in full...)
I put a lot of money into a gift for her and for my birthday she gets me... A text message?
Q. I have been dating and in a serious relationship for a little over a year now. We have known each other for 4+ years prior and always kinda had a thing for each other. Three months ago, it was her birthday and I saved up and bought her a nice $425 ...
A. 14 September 2012: Yes you do have the right to be hurt but then remember, its the thought that counts, right? After all she is moving for you, to be with you. In any case if it bothers you so much then you can ask her why you didn't get even a small gift for your ... (read in full...)
I got my girlfriend mixed up with her twin sister and tried to get on with her. Should I tell my girlfriend?
Q. I was drunk one day after a party and a friend dropped me off at my girlfriends house. Not knowing my girlfriends twin sister was in the house i tried it on with her thinking she was my girlfriend. At the time i really couldn't tell the difference ...
A. 14 September 2012: Tell her about it. It was an honest mistake and you know why people hide information, right? When they feel that they are in the wrong. In your case, you were not wrong, only mistaken. If you conceal this from your girlfriend and she finds out from ... (read in full...)
Should I acknowledge my ex's birthday?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years. It was a mutual agreement as the relationship wasn't working out. We haven't spoke in 3 months since the break up. (we both decided never to speak again) Her birthday is coming up soon and I'm ...
A. 13 September 2012: If you ended things on a note where you decided never to speak to each other again, then it includes birthdays too. Remember, birthdays can be tricky, just like the holidays. Your ex might be feeling lonely or just plain depressed about turning a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is clingy, obsessive and he's driving me mad
Q. Iv'e been going out with a guy i met at uni since april now and weve been on holiday together,hes met my parents and stayed with us and ive stayed with his parents. im 21 and hes 20 but sometimes i feel like we are soo different in how we view ...
A. 11 September 2012: He's clingy and always will be. Even if you talk to him about it and tell him that his obsessiveness is getting too much for you, he might tone it down for a while but then he would get paranoid thinking about how he's gone wrong and what if you ... (read in full...)
What would you think of an otherwise decent woman having a one night stand in the distant past?
Q. If you were dating a woman of good standing, moral fibre and integrity.... what would you think of her if you found out she made one big mistake several years ago in the form of a one night stand found from the internet? Would who she is today be ...
A. 11 September 2012: It does NOT matter in the least what you did years ago and it does not take anything away from you. OP all of us have skeletons in our closets. All of us have done things that we wish we hadn't done but in no way does that make anyone a bad person ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new girlfriend barely a month after we broke up, and he's going all out to profess his love for her!
Q. My ex broke up with me like 4 weeks ago. It was such a hurtful break up that I kept questioning myself what went wrong in our 5 year relationship. The love, the mental, physical, and emotional aspects were there too but maybe they were to me and not ...
A. 9 September 2012: You broke up and there ended the relationship. Why are you still following his every move and trying to decode what he's doing? How does it matter to you? You have to move on and not cling to his memories. He didn't care about you and you shouldn't ... (read in full...)
What do I do about my FWB and how do I tell if he has feelings for me? Alternatively do I consider an LDR with the other guy?
Q. Hi hope you can help me with this it would be greatly appreciated I met a man who is in the army on a online dating site who is really keen and wanting a relationship with me but I am not sure how I feel about him. This is because I have h...
A. 8 September 2012: Its obvious from your post that you don't have feelings for the other man because you've dedicated just 1 sentence to him and that too just to say that he's really into you but you're not. So he's out of the picture.
As regards your FWB, a relati... (read in full...)
I want to make him dump me so no-one blames me for ending the relationship, how do I do this?
Q. hello everyone. Its been more than a year since i have posted here.Well my life has been wonderful in the past year.The last time when i needed help it was about dating my cousin's ex and i got only one reply saying not to.But it was my bad that...
A. 7 September 2012: Oh you want the best of everything, do you? You're sick of him and you want to dump him but you want to save face too? You know, you say you're 18 and its about to start acting like an adult and take some responsibility. Don't run like a coward and ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my sister-in-law's rude comments?
Q. How can I deal with my sister-in-law's rude comments? I'm still in my second month of marriage and my husband's mother and brother are living with us currently, because they are repairing their home... It's only a matter of a few weeks until they...
A. 5 September 2012: She's just trying to make you feel uncomfortable and bad, and if you give in, then she's succeeded. I think your sister-in-law is jealous of you and this is how she's showing it.
You have 2 options. Either completely ignore her or give it back ... (read in full...)
After six years of dealing with trust issues I finally broke up with my boyfriend
Q. I feel really sad, because I broke up with my ex last Monday. We'd been struggling with his trust issues for a long 6 years. He had problems with my past, because I had been with a guy he knows (but I didn't sleep with him, I had a crush on him, we ...
A. 3 September 2012: I know you're mourning the demise of your relationship right now, but trust me OP, very soon you will be celebrating with joy, at having giving a second chance to lead a happy life. Because with this guy, it was anything but it. You might think you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend used my phone to send himself a picture of my sister's fake boobs
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8yrs and last year when I was getting ready really early for work I noticed my boyfriends phone receiving a message and I glanced at his phone and noticed the message was from me. I was confused because I had not ...
A. 3 September 2012: I don't blame you for breaking up with him, I would have done the same too. Look he's obviously lying and its not even a fool proof lie, its incredibly lame to say that he wanted to see how YOU would look with bigger boobs! And if he thought that ... (read in full...)
How can I be a part of my fiance's family when he sister doesn't like me
Q. Hello my name is alex and i'm 20. I'am currently engaged to my fiancee. Im really stuck in a very awkward situation which is destroying me as i love my fiancee to death as he does me. My fiancee has an older sister who is only a year older than ...
A. 2 September 2012: Well in that case you know what the problem is. The sister is jealous of you, not because her brother is being taken away from them but because she never had the kind of love, security and commitment that you are getting out of your relationship. ... (read in full...)
How can I be a part of my fiance's family when he sister doesn't like me
Q. Hello my name is alex and i'm 20. I'am currently engaged to my fiancee. Im really stuck in a very awkward situation which is destroying me as i love my fiancee to death as he does me. My fiancee has an older sister who is only a year older than ...
A. 1 September 2012: Why does his sister hate you so much? Have you ever unknowingly offended her in some way? Or maybe she feels that you are not good enough for her brother? I know that older sisters can get quite protective of their brothers but to hate the ... (read in full...)
Question about the chances of getting pregnant from sex immediately after period
Q. What are the chances of getting pregnant when you have sex immediately after period? And when does ovulation usually happen?...
A. 1 September 2012: You can get pregnant ANYTIME of the month, whether its during, before or after your periods. Educate yourself and don't take any chances.... (read in full...)
Week after we broke up she was sexually active with a new guy. What does this say about how she cares about me?
Q. My girlfriend and I share a child together, and had plans on becoming married. Later in our relationship I cheated on her by conversing with other females when things weren't going good between us. When we got into an argument and I pushed her and ...
A. 28 August 2012: It says nothing about her. Stop judging her and look at yourself first.
You cheated on her.
You HIT her and damages her car.
You resorted to alcohol.
What does this say about you? If you cared about her, then would YOU do all the above?... (read in full...)
Am I the best my older b/f can get? He makes me feel really bad!
Q. Help! I can't figure out what to do. I'm a beautiful, fit, extremely intelligent young woman with a great sense of humor and acceptance. I get along great with almost anyone. Most men I meet develop crushes on me, and a lot of women at work ar...
A. 28 August 2012: I'm surprised you still haven't dumped this guy! Where exactly is your self esteem? A young, attractive, successful, supposedly confident girl has fallen for a man who is absolutely nothing compared to her and she is allowing him to make her feel ... (read in full...)
He's engaged, his fiancé is pregnant, but WE have feelings for each other. What should I do?
Q. I have a friend who is engaged to be married but is very unhappy in his relationship. We have recently discovered that we have strong feelings for eachother. The issue is his fiancee is 5 months pregnant (unplanned). We would never act on those ...
A. 27 August 2012: Put yourself in his fiance's shoes for one minute and think...what if it were you in her place? And just think, what kind of a man would do that to his fiance? He's already cheating on her with you, tomorrow he's going to cheat on you with someone ... (read in full...)
The things he does make me feel unattractive, unsexy and like I'm not good enough. Help!
Q. About a month ago I was laying naked in bed with my boyfriend and my breasts were exposed and I saw him looking towards that direction. I saw that and started teasing him about staring at them and he told me he was used to seeing my body so it's no ...
A. 27 August 2012: Your boyfriend is a (insert expletive) and I feel bad for you for putting up with him. You are investing so much into the relationship and he just couldn't be bothered because now that he has you and there is no thrill of the chase nor the novelty ... (read in full...)
My husband and his family do not believe I was a virgin because I didn't bleed after our first night together. Why did I not bleed?
Q. Hola I am from Mexico . Please forgive my English it is second language to me. I am originally from Mexico but live here in the united states. I am 21 years old and recently got married . I was a virgin when I married . I didn't bleed . My husband ...
A. 27 August 2012: What rubbish! This is crap, I agree with Mishmash, this question screams fake!!
... (read in full...)
I asked girl to a casual bbq but she never responded back. Do I try again to contact her?
Q. I took this girl out on a casual lunch date 3 days ago. Everything went pretty well, she's really sweet and we got along nicely.. at least I thought so. Yesterday my friend had a barbeque at his house, and I invited her to come along. Nothing too ...
A. 27 August 2012: I think you've done enough and its time to let go now. You initiated it twice and she didn't respond both times. That's in-your-face rude but its a tactic that girl's employ when they want a guy to back off without having to tell them that. I'm not ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid becoming pregnant by my husband who won't allow me to use birth control?
Q. My husband of 6 years won't pull out during sex. We are catholic so he refuses for me to use any birth control. I do not want to get pregnant. Please give me advice...
A. 26 August 2012: Refuse to have sex with him till he uses some form of contraception. I have no patience for people who use the excuse of religion for such reasons! This is ridiculous!
Also, what have you been doing for the past 6 years to avoid pregnanc... (read in full...)
My husband is very disrespectful
Q. I feel so low! My husband is so disrespectful to me! We had a wedding to go to today at 4 pm that was 70 miles away. I asked my husband what time he wanted to get on the road? 2:30 he said. So we got up early to get some things done before we left....
A. 26 August 2012: Your husband is an insensitive ass. I'm very sorry to say this but its true. He's one of those difficult people that you just don't know how to deal with. Look, I'm not married and I don't even know how I would have dealt with this if it happened ... (read in full...)
Do women look at men's butts?
Q. Is it true that women look at mens butts like men look at theirs...!!??...
A. 26 August 2012: I've never looked at anyone's ass and it never even occurred to me that apparently people do it till I read your question!! Wasn't it the territory of the creeps? Or has it suddenly become the "in" thing to look at people's butts?!... (read in full...)
Indian society is very harsh on babies born out of wedlock but the man wants nothing to do with me. What do I do now?
Q. Dear Cupid I am basically Indian, working in US. Had an affair with a guy, I was in love with him, obviously he just used me for sex and money. Now I am pregnant, he didn't use condom, since Indian guys hate condom. They never use one, I took morn...
A. 26 August 2012: Look dont take this the wrong way but you dont seem to be in your right mind and certainly not in a position to bring up a baby!! How and why do you intend HIDING the pregnancy while in India? Is that what your plan was all along...that you somehow ... (read in full...)
Indian society is very harsh on babies born out of wedlock but the man wants nothing to do with me. What do I do now?
Q. Dear Cupid I am basically Indian, working in US. Had an affair with a guy, I was in love with him, obviously he just used me for sex and money. Now I am pregnant, he didn't use condom, since Indian guys hate condom. They never use one, I took morn...
A. 25 August 2012: Where do you live now? India or America? Will your family stand by you through this? When do you plan on telling them about this?
Look OP, you have to think this through. The man has left you in a horrible spot but there is nothing you can do a... (read in full...)
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