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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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Indian society is very harsh on babies born out of wedlock but the man wants nothing to do with me. What do I do now?
Q. Dear Cupid I am basically Indian, working in US. Had an affair with a guy, I was in love with him, obviously he just used me for sex and money. Now I am pregnant, he didn't use condom, since Indian guys hate condom. They never use one, I took morn...
A. 26 August 2012: Look dont take this the wrong way but you dont seem to be in your right mind and certainly not in a position to bring up a baby!! How and why do you intend HIDING the pregnancy while in India? Is that what your plan was all along...that you somehow ... (read in full...)
Indian society is very harsh on babies born out of wedlock but the man wants nothing to do with me. What do I do now?
Q. Dear Cupid I am basically Indian, working in US. Had an affair with a guy, I was in love with him, obviously he just used me for sex and money. Now I am pregnant, he didn't use condom, since Indian guys hate condom. They never use one, I took morn...
A. 25 August 2012: Where do you live now? India or America? Will your family stand by you through this? When do you plan on telling them about this?
Look OP, you have to think this through. The man has left you in a horrible spot but there is nothing you can do a... (read in full...)
He wants my panties
Q. So me and my boyfriend of two years were just snuggling in his bed when he suddenly asked me if I could give him a pair of my panties. He asked me with this big smile on his face like he was a bit nervous and at the same time excited. We haven't had ...
A. 22 August 2012: He might want it for different reasons. He might want something that smells like you, which if you ask me is REALLY creepy. He might also want it as a trophy to display in front of his friends. You never know.
Personally I would never give in ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is always asking me to striptease on webcam, then gets mad when I give her what she wants.
Q. Hello. I'm very concerned about my girlfriend. She frequently asks for me to do a striptease for her on webcam on MSN. Yet, when I do, or I'm in the middle of the process, there's a change of heart, she panics, and gets angry. She then yells at me...
A. 19 August 2012: Seems to me that she initiates the striptease things and then maybe she feels guilty about it when you actually give in to her request, I think it could be a moral issue here. I mean its one thing to talk about sex but for her to actually SEE you ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 15 August 2012: Thanks for the update, I'm glad to know you are doing well!! Sure it will take some time to get used to the "normalcy" but soon you will find a rhythm of your own and settle into a life for YOURSELF, not for anyone else! Glad to know you are working ... (read in full...)
Am I asking for too much in our sexual relationship?
Q. I'm not sure if I've just ruined our relationship or not. My partner and I have been together for 6 months and I love him completely. He has asked me to marry him and nothing would make me happier and I said yes. We have known each other for ...
A. 14 August 2012: I agree with the others. 6 months and its already like this, imagine what the rest of your life would be like! This should be the phase where you cant keep your hands off each other and are constantly looking for places and ways to do lots of fun, ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my psycho wife for the woman I truly love?
Q. I have no idea where to start. I am a 24 year old married man who just passed his 2 year anniversary. I am married to a somewhat sweet woman, but she isn't very open with her feelings which kills me. She has a very strong personality which throws me ...
A. 11 August 2012: You cheated your wife into the marriage. You had no business marrying her when you clearly never loved her. You are now portraying her as a psycho and you want validation for your actions, you basically want to hear that you are not wrong in any way ... (read in full...)
Issues between the co-worker and I. So how do I avoid attending her birthday lunch being organised?
Q. My co-worker and I been working in the same dept. for a long time. We get along ok all these years and I consider her a friend at work. Few months ago, she made a "very offensive" comment about me to other colleague. I was very upset and offend...
A. 11 August 2012: Just tell your friend that you would not be comfortable taking your co-worker to lunch because you are not comfortable with her because of whatever happened between the two of you. You cannot be fake and try to please someone just because its their ... (read in full...)
Should I write this letter to my ex? My friend says no. But I think he deserves it.
Q. I have so much to say to my ex... nothing bad. He was a gentleman til the very end and I wanted to thank him and tell him how sorry I am for not putting my all into the relationship. It will be a kind letter and let him know that maybe our pa...
A. 11 August 2012: I don't think its a good idea to contact ex'es. What's done is done, you broke up and that was the end of the relationship. Don't dig into the past and don't make things any more difficult for him by getting into the break-up. You respect him and ... (read in full...)
We broke up. So why can't I just "unfriend" him in my head?
Q. I've just broken up with my boyfriend of 3 years because we couldn't get over problems of fighting about mainly money (he didn't seem to want to put in an effort to make any) and he had a problem with drinking. He was not abusive and is actu...
A. 9 August 2012: Its normal to take more than a month to heal but every time you pine for him, you have to remind yourself of the reason you broke up in the first place. Give it some more time, you will soon get over him. Remember, he was not good for you and you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to move interstate with him, which means quitting my job, selling my house, etc.
Q. My boyfriend of 3.5 years is considering applying for jobs interstate. He may be lucky to find a job where we currently are (his current one will be ending soon) but i would say it is 50/50. I know it isn't actually happening yet but we need to be ...
A. 8 August 2012: Well you know the answer, right? Of course you shouldn't move and you know it yourself. You haven't stated even one positive thing about your relationship and that reflects how you feel about it at this point of time.
Think hard before you take... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to move interstate with him, which means quitting my job, selling my house, etc.
Q. My boyfriend of 3.5 years is considering applying for jobs interstate. He may be lucky to find a job where we currently are (his current one will be ending soon) but i would say it is 50/50. I know it isn't actually happening yet but we need to be ...
A. 8 August 2012: Well you know the answer, right? Of course you shouldn't move and you know it yourself. You haven't stated even one positive thing about your relationship and that reflects how you feel about it at this point of time.
Think hard before you take... (read in full...)
He is coming here to meet me and my friends tell me to be careful!
Q. Dear Aunts, Due to my own concerns I decided to post this question. This is regarding my boyfriend whom I met online almost 3 years ago. We live a world apart, and I've been the one making all calls. He did call several times but that's it. He ...
A. 4 August 2012: Well snap out of your spell. You're in the age bracket of 26-29 and you're taking like a teenager. You should know by now that love does not entail any spells and charms and neither does is it equal to abuse.... (read in full...)
He is coming here to meet me and my friends tell me to be careful!
Q. Dear Aunts, Due to my own concerns I decided to post this question. This is regarding my boyfriend whom I met online almost 3 years ago. We live a world apart, and I've been the one making all calls. He did call several times but that's it. He ...
A. 4 August 2012: Your parents and friends are right, this man has psycho written all over him. You might have been through a lot together but is it worth the headache that he has been giving you throughout? He's creepy and I would run for the hills if I were you. ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to clear acne?
Q. I've had acne for 7 years now and it's really knocked my confidence and i've never had a boyfriend because of it. I've tried high street products such as clearasil, clean and clear, freederm and neutrogena but they haven't helped atall. I've also ...
A. 4 August 2012: What worked for me is a Salicylic acid face wash. Not that I ever had too many pimples, but even the odd one that I got during my periods, disappeared. But whatever you do, please contact a skin specialist first. What works for us will not ... (read in full...)
Supposed to be met at airport by my LDR but he has stopped communicating!
Q. Dear Cupid i with LDR with my bf for the past few months. We were planning to meet and as per our decision i have booked my flight tickets and i am leaving today afternoon. He is avoiding for past 2 days, not picking up my calls, even if he ...
A. 3 August 2012: It doesn't look good, try one last time and then cancel your ticket. If you dont know anyone in that place then what on earth are you going to do there? Do you really want to spend all that money and go there and mope? ... (read in full...)
Do most people view threesomes like this?
Q. dear cupid, in the past, my guy has hinted around about wanting to have a threesome (with him being the only male involved). coincidentally, this has actually happened three times...hahaa. he did it once last year and twice last month. each time...
A. 3 August 2012: This is how men still see women in our society. They feel that they can get away with anything while a women, once she steps out of the moral boundaries created by the man himself, becomes a slut!
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If I started dating to spice up my marriage would that be cuckolding my husband?
Q. AS a joke my husband took and posted few photos of me on the internet. Over time he received loads of request for more and after telling me what he did it became a real turn-on for us both. I later started a web-site and the request for more, gifts ...
A. 1 August 2012: Please enlighten me, what kind of a joke involves posting pictures of your spouse on the internet? You're both playing with fire, he has absolutely no respect for you and is putting you on show for the world to see and you are enjoying it all. Seems ... (read in full...)
Virgin with extremely high sex drive but don't want premarital sex!
Q. i am 24 year old female and virgin. I have an extremely high sex drive. Yet, I am a virgin and I havent even had my first kiss. Yeah, I have masturbated, but that hasnt helped and I dont want to continue masturbating either. Personally, I dont think ...
A. 1 August 2012: What is wrong with masturbating? Its a great release, you're not dependent on a man for your sexual gratification and you know exactly what works for you.
Look, if you close all options, you're averse to masturbation and you dont have a boyfrien... (read in full...)
We had a very emotional and nasty breakup and haven't spoken since.
Q. My ex-girlfriend and I dated inconsistently for over three years. We also lived together for most of that time period. Throughout that time period, we had some rocky times, but also some amazing ones. However, the major problems were her twin ...
A. 1 August 2012: My thoughts are very simple actually, why are you still hanging on to this woman? The first time that you got to know about the cheating, you should have packed your bags and left. Why are you still sticking around? Why are you paying such ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 27 July 2012: Good for you OP, you're a wonderful person and you're finally standing up for yourself! Trust me, you don't have to go through this anymore, you and your ex are polar opposites. He is a horrible person who doesn't deserve you and no, I'm not going ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 26 July 2012: I am SO unbelievably glad that you have finally decided to see the real picture!! It does not make you a cold hearted botch, it makes you a normal, sensible person who has the logic and ability to see situations as they are.
The crux of the matt... (read in full...)
Why is it because I'm fat I'm all of a sudden not good enough?
Q. Ok so Im having a little bit of a problem here. Im over-weight, reason is medical but nonetheless I am. I have long red hair, my eyes change between blue, green and grey on a daily basis and Im only 5’1. My boyfriend is 6’1, slim, dark bleh. ...
A. 24 July 2012: Yes I know that there is a social stigma attached to fat people, that's the way we have been conditioned by the media, to believe that thin in beautiful. Look, who cares what people think? There will always be some aspect which is not good enough ... (read in full...)
Should I forget my hopes and dreams for a man who might never get his act together?
Q. I am planning on going overseas in a month in order to continue my chosen career as there are no opportunities in my country at the moment. I am also going because I want to explore the world and travel. My bf is aware of my future plans but not ...
A. 23 July 2012: Never give up on your dreams and your hopes. If you want to travel, do it. Life is too short for any regrets. However that being said, its also not right to keep your boyfriend in the dark about your plans. 6 years is a long time to be together and ... (read in full...)
I need to break up as painlessly as possible, he doesn't have a clue even though I've tried to give him hints!
Q. I've been seeing someone off and on for the past few months and I need to end things with him. He really likes me and, despite me trying to "clue him in" the past couple of weeks, he's not going to see the breakup coming. I'm seeing him on Thursday ...
A. 23 July 2012: Don't drag it out, just keep it short and make it clear that there is no scope for a reconciliation. Make sure that he understands that it is over and don't agree to any further meetings "for old times sake". Just say that you are sorry that things ... (read in full...)
He leaves, I pay, he comes back, I say "hey" she yells I am not being supportive!
Q. I babysat for a friend for 6 months because her baby's father left her. So I only charged her $70 per week so she didn't have to worry about finding a babysitter and can get financially stable. She then got back with her baby's father within 2 ...
A. 23 July 2012: Make it clear to your friend that you were supporting her only as long as she intended to leave the guy and if she keeps flitting back and forth then its not your problem. She can help the guy all she wants as long as she pays you for your services.... (read in full...)
She loves me more than I care for her...can this work out?
Q. Okay short and simple but really need your views on this. I met this girl and we started dating. Things were going well until she met my sister who did not like her very much and from there it pretty much went downhill. This girl loves me t...
A. 23 July 2012: You are thinking about this way too much and trying to rationalize even before anything has started and this means you don't love the girl because if you did, there would be none of these questions.
You might not find anyone else that love you... (read in full...)
Is he bragging or telling the truth about my Mother?
Q. ok, some advice please. i'm 19 yo male currently at home for summer from uni. At home is my mum who is single and divorced and my younger brother 15. Last night we had a party at the house for my mums 46th birthday. About 25 people came and it w...
A. 21 July 2012: I think you should talk to your mom. Tell her that this is what you heard and its really bothering you. At least you know where you stand. If she really has done something like that then she should know better and at least try to keep her sex life ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 20 July 2012: Reading each response of yours is like fitting the missing pieces of the jigsaw puzzle, one at a time. First things first. His family cannot and I repeat CANNOT treat you in this way. It is your home and your life and you are not a bonded laborer. ... (read in full...)
Is it over for us? Is there anything I can do to help the situation?
Q. I have been in a relationship for almost 5 1/2 years. I love my bf very much and I know he loves me. Our only big issue is marriage. About a year ago we broke up for about 4months because he wasn't sure if he was ready for marriage and I've been ...
A. 19 July 2012: The problem is not that he doesn't want to get married, the problem is that he doesn't even want to commit to you. That, OP, is game over.
You are both on completely different pages here. Many people choose not to get married for whatever... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 19 July 2012: You do know what you have done, right? You have become submissive to such an extent that now some women has the audacity and the cheek to try and throw you out of your OWN house and his sister is calling you names!
Look OP, this has to stop and... (read in full...)
Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years?
Q. Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years? I'm starting to lose hope! It seems like loads of people are finding their partners cheating on them on line, sexting, etc :( Can anyone be satisfied just by ...
A. 19 July 2012: For me, the easiest thing in the world is to be honest and faithful. If you love a person and have had a good upbringing where you have been taught to respect and value others, then honesty and faithfulness don't even have to be imposed on you...its ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 18 July 2012: This is preposterous!! His mom who is apparently so concerned about her son doesnt even keep him at her place!! Oh My GOD!! OP what are you doing and what the hell have you gotten yourself into? Why did you even allow this arrangement? The woman has ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 18 July 2012: I have to agree with YouWish, while I too abhor cheating with my heart and soul, I guess your case is an exception. I am really sorry for you because you are trapped in a relationship and in a conflict between love and lust. Its a nightmare of a ... (read in full...)
I'm truly in love with this girl who's my younger sister's best friend but she's in a relationship with an idiot of a boyfriend who's a friend of mine
Q. So there's this girl and she's fantastic. Into comic books, rock music, astronomy, the whole nine yards with me. It's simply a bonus that she's absolutely beautiful and knows how to have a good time. Two major problems, however: she's my 18 year old ...
A. 17 July 2012: You really like this girl, there's no denying that! Unfortunately you cant really make a move on her till she's broken up with her boyfriend. If that guy is really such an ass then she should have broken up with him by now; the fact that she hasn't ... (read in full...)
Was he cheating on me, or was it just a lapse in judgement?
Q. Please, any advice is so appreciated! My boyfriend and I (22 and 21) have been seeing each other for a little over a year. I am his first serious relationship. He is my second. I am a go-getter. I am very motivated in both school and work. I am a...
A. 16 July 2012: Maybe this is something that you are not aware of, but you come across like an extremely domineering and overbearing person. Please do not take offence because I dont know you and I have nothing against you. This is just something that jumps right ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous and insecure of my boyfriend's childhood female friend. He admitted that he once loved her!
Q. I am feeling insecure about my bf and his female friend. My bf and I have been together for a couple of years and we live together, mostly quite happily. He and his friend have known eachother since they were small children. They have went on out of ...
A. 16 July 2012: Yes he still has feelings for her and whether or not its OK for them to be friends depends entirely on you. I personally would be very uncomfortable with this but remember that just by stopping someone from meeting another person will never put an ... (read in full...)
What can we do to prove to my boyfriend's parents that we aren't just another high school relationship and that we have a real future?
Q. Okay, so I am 19 and my boyfriend just 20 last week. We have been together since we were 16 and have been through so much together. Last year he, and his family, moved 1,200 miles away and we made the choice to break up. His parents, who claimed ...
A. 13 July 2012: "Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind; and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.”
Everyone who is in love or think they are in love say the same thing that you're saying and while you might have been through what you think is a lot,... (read in full...)
I understand he wont leave his girlfriend but I can't not have him around!
Q. Confused by his behaviour My story is concerning someone I knew years ago who I had a short fling with. We then went our separate ways for about 15 years and then found each other on facebook again 3 years ago. To start with it was great to ...
A. 12 July 2012: I agree with SVC. This guy is just using your for what he considers harmless excitement. He's careful to not go too far yet he likes the ego boost that he gets from you. But at the end of the day he goes back to his girlfriend of 15 years and what ... (read in full...)
I understand he wont leave his girlfriend but I can't not have him around!
Q. Confused by his behaviour My story is concerning someone I knew years ago who I had a short fling with. We then went our separate ways for about 15 years and then found each other on facebook again 3 years ago. To start with it was great to ...
A. 12 July 2012: If he didn't love her then he wouldn't be with her for 15 years. Yes he did stray but ultimately he did go back to her and he doesnt intend leaving her. ... (read in full...)
I understand he wont leave his girlfriend but I can't not have him around!
Q. Confused by his behaviour My story is concerning someone I knew years ago who I had a short fling with. We then went our separate ways for about 15 years and then found each other on facebook again 3 years ago. To start with it was great to ...
A. 11 July 2012: He's not leaving his girlfriend and while he did share some moments with you, its all over now and its clear that he doesn't want jeopardize what he has with his girlfriend. Seems to me that you are trying to justify it to yourself that since he's ... (read in full...)
The guy I broke up with is threatening to harm himself if I don't give him a second chance. What can I do?
Q. I broke up with a guy who didn't treat me right. But when I refused I give him a second chance, he threatened to commit suicide. This is worrying me. I told him we could be friends but he did not want to. And he just went from blaming himself and ...
A. 11 July 2012: Lodge a complaint with your local police, with the help of your family. Don't hide this from anyone anymore because now he's just manipulating you because he knows he can scare you. If everyone around knows you what is going on, then he cannot ... (read in full...)
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