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writes:Hello. I am a lady in desperate need of hearing some truths.My boyfriend and I have been dating for about five years now and we're doing great except for a couple reoccurring issues. Our relationship started in early college and therefore suffered at the hands of inexperience and fear of commitment. My man felt unsure about devoting himself to one woman because he didn't think that one person could completely satisfy another. I was his first serious relationship so I understand why he felt that way.When he cheated on me, he did it with females that I feel I can't compete with, like he's picking chicks that are out of my league altogether, but not in the typical way. However this also applies to his girlfriends before me, although there weren't many and none of them lasted longer than a couple months.I was a ballerina up until a couple years ago. I used to have long hair that went to the middle of my back but I chopped it off (mainly due to my man reminding me how much he likes short hair but also kind of because I was tired of having it long after 15 years of dance).I am very thin and have barely fill a B cup. I have perky breasts, they're a handful for me but I have small hands. My nipples are great, not too big not too small not cross-eyed or puffy. I'm 5'4" so my legs aren't long at all but they're good proportionately (I don't have a long torso and short legs) and they're straight and toned not crooked or overly muscular from dancing at all. And even though my butt is small it's proportionate and looks right on my body too.The girls he messes around with are usually fat and out of shape. They are big boned, not dainty/petite like me at all. They have big breasts, usually more than a C. He finds girls that are younger than me by about 2-4 years (I'm a year younger than him). One of the girls still had braces and, when I got a glimpse up her skirt (not that I was trying but she wasn't exactly crossing her legs or wearing panties) she had a full on bush (and my man tells me he's not attracted to such a natural look).This is all aside from the fact that not one of them had a brain in her head while I'm sitting here with a college degree and on my way to another one.I suppose it's also worth mentioning that we have a long distance relationship. The longest we've gone without seeing each other is 6 months, and that was very recently, it's usually about 2-4 months. The infidelities happened majorly towards the beginning of our relationship. Also, when we are together, we have a very active sex life in which we consistently try new things so it doesn't get stale or boring and he always orgasms.While he hasn't cheated on me in a while, in the flesh girls have been replaced with virtual ones. I don't understand why he looks at as much porn as he does... Regardless, the girls in those pictures and videos fall into the category of women I described earlier. I seem to be the odd one out in this picture. So why am I still in it?I am happy with who I am, both on the inside and on the surface. I feel a dissatisfaction with myself only because I think I am not satisfying my man, who is the world to me. For him, I would seriously consider plastic surgery (breast implants). While he may tell me how in love with my body he is and that he would never want me to change a thing, I can't help but feel as if he's just trying to spare me the heartbreak of, "Hey baby, I love you dearly and I'm sorry your body just doesn't do it for me."To the men who read this, please tell me truthfully why would someone act this way? Why would he seek out these women who seem to be such opposites of me, his partner? Is it possible that he can be so attracted to such different types of women? Why would he be opposed to me getting implants if he clearly enjoys a bigger cup?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 February 2013):
 OP the slope at the top of a breast is NORMAL. My plastic surgeon told me it's always the BRA that makes the cleavage not the breast....
we as women have such a false idea of what a natural breast should look like.... it does not look at all like those breasts with implants or the photoshopped ones...
IF you want to have the surgery for you, do so. By all means. I have a friend who had it done at 21 and now at 51 her breasts are still fine... although my husband's comment to me after he met her was "her boobs are fake" That was all he noticed about her... that she was fake there... (not her chin implant that she had at the same time or her over done hair or make up...
No one I think i saying don't do it... just don't do it for him or thinking that it will improve your relationship.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (10 February 2013):
 I think that basically, he's a man who needs attention from many women at the same time. You getting implants isn't going to change that.
He is sexually attracted to other types of women, and you have to decide whether you can handle the fact that you may not be his type.
I know I'm not exactly my boyfriends type but he still loves me and treats me well. I can't really say the same for your boyfriend though.
No woman should ever feel that they should want to change their personality/physical appearance for a man. He should make you feel appreciated and loved for what you are. He is obviously doing it wrong and you need a better boyfriend. He needs a lesson in being a gentleman.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (9 February 2013):
 HI
What I mean is that this man has cheated on you ( I don't doubt his love or lack of love with you ) he enjoy's porn, women with big breasts, etc etc...these type of men can be quite shallow and constantly need their ego's to be boosted. So either his such a ( look at me love me I am the perfect kind of guy ) or he has such low self esteam the only way he copes is by getting attention no matter which shape or form it is, weather it's cheating, or putting others down to make him feel better about himself. Either way only you can decide in the end which path you lead in life, do you want to feel like this all the time? I would say you obviously don't, so instead of letting things get you down, tell him how you feel.it's the only way to move forward. OR I could be completely wrong about the whole situation here, if he say's he loves you the way you are and wouldn't want you to change then it could be just a case of whilst you only see each other months apart , looking at porn with women who look nothing like you is the only way he can get satisfaction with out attachment, because if they resembled you in any way he could be playing a dangerous game ( ie getting emotionally attached ) when he don't want to because he loves you! watching porn or cheating .....if from watching porn their women like yourself it could give him the idea to stray, so watch's women who his not attracted too, just gets off on the whole sexual side of thing's, the same can be said for cheating however it;'s no excuse. Me personally if I were cheated on I would walk away, because to me the trust and love has gone.
Mandy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHere to Help: I know that if I'm going to do it, it should be for me and not for him. Like you said, if it wasn't for him it wouldn't have come up. However, if it wasn't for him I wouldn't have cut my hair and I'm really happy about that decision. I didn't do it because he said he likes short hair, I did it because somewhere in the back of my mind I wanted to cut it and he gave me the encouragement and support to follow through. He never said, baby you should cut your hair. He never said, baby you should get fake boobs. Do you see the point I'm kind of trying to make with that example? It's that, maybe I just need a little push to do something I'm scared of deciding to do on my own.Anonymous: You're right, getting fake tits wouldn't make me his type. I guess I'd see it as having more weight (no pun intended) because breasts are an obvious focal point when it comes to the various facets of attraction to the female body. I know it's unreasonable for me to think I can be everything my man could ever want, but I don't think it's unreasonable to try to fulfill as much of his desires as I would be willing and able to. Occasionally I will wear a push-up with some little silicone inserts to get fuller breasts, not a set of double D's but a happy C for sure. My B isn't a full B, it's got a slope to the top than a roundness so the inserts really make a difference. I notice him noticing them more. And honestly, I don't think it makes me look top heavy or awkward. MishMash: My problem is mainly that I feel you are more interested in offering your opinion on my situation than answering my questions. I asked very specific questions (I am new to this site and tried to follow their suggestions of being very clear with the questions) and you haven't really addressed any of them. No, I'm not asking anyone to hold back, but I am asking for my questions to be answered, because that's the point of my post. That's why I'm here. I want answers to my questions, not a back and forth between someone who is clearly just here to make assumptions and not hear it when she's told her assumptions are wrong. That opinion can't be valued. I'm telling you you're wrong about the situation, stop thinking you know more about it than me. I can't believe I have to actually explain this to you. You literally made a bunch of wrong assumptions and wrote half a page about them.For example, you still talk about his behavior as being a pattern. How many times do I have to state the opposite for you to finally write me some advice under that assumption?Good job Sherlock, your suspicion of this having been an emotional experience for me is correct! What kind of heartless human being do you think I am, when I'm clearly so in love with my man, that I wouldn't be upset about the situation? No, I don't talk about how the cheating made feel because that's not what's important to this post. I have dealt with those emotions and that situation. I'm not trying to deal with it on this site at this moment because I've moved past it. Does it surprise you that this is possible? You seem to have your heart set on me being an emotionally distraught and hurt little child just crying on the inside and waiting for the right auntie to tell me what I need to hear. You should go find that person because that's not me.And you're gonna have the scrote to tell me to get therapy?Lady, you're a lunatic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): "I feel a dissatisfaction with myself only because I think I am not satisfying my man, who is the world to me. For him, I would seriously consider plastic surgery (breast implants). "I am not following your woman logic here. So why do you think that breast implants will make you look like his type? Sure you can add a pair of bolt-ons, but at the end of the day, you're still going to be petite and thin....just with a pair of fake tits. You still have a small frame. The boobs won't distract from the fact that you still have a small ass, that you're thin, that you don't have some thick thighs or that you don't have wide hips.Unless you're planning on getting a fake ass and gaining quite a bit of weight, you're still losing. Yes, he has a type and you're not it. I think you know this yourself, but if you need someone to say it, then here it is: yes, he likes bigger women. If all his exes were big and if he actively searches for bigger women on porn sites and masturbates to them, what do you think it means? That somehow it's all an act and that deep down inside he gets all hot and bothered when a skinny girl walks by?Luckily for you, most men like variety. We may have a preferred type, or an ideal, but we still like variety. And if he loves you, which is irrelevant at this point, then he will settle for your looks. Personality usually wins over physical beauty most of the time. But if you're like most women, who hope that they are the sexiest and the most beautiful thing to their men physically, then no, you're probably not it. And that is the truth for most guys. We may not say it to your faces because it will crush your ego, self-esteem and hurt your feelings, but that is the real truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): OP,
You're correct. I did make assumptions from reading your post. We're not biographers or private investigators...we are in fact just "some ladies" forming opinions from what you've shared. It's what we do on this site when we read people's problems; we do answer questions, but we also share our impressions of the OP's situation and try to give advice. Sometimes we even give advice the OP doesn't want to hear. When you start off a post asking "Hello. I am a lady in desperate need of hearing some truths" you're not exactly asking anyone to hold back.
Judging from how you prioritize your concerns about this relationship, I happen to believe my assumptions are correct and you're concerned about your physical sexual dynamic in this relationship in place of the emotional dynamic.
I'll share another impression. You seem to "intellectualize" quite a lot as you navigate what I suspect is at heart an emotional experience for you: You have a boyfriend who disrespects you and breaks your trust repeatedly. Again, I "assume" that would hurt quite a lot. I guess what stands out to me is you've not said a thing about how his cheating makes you feel or stated any of the positive reasons why you "believe this relationship has potential." It almost seems as if you don't want to admit it that it hurts you.
However you spent quite a lot of time analyzing the physical bodies of the women he cheats with and are quick to demeaning their intelligence. Personally I get the sense that you are avoiding the emotional impact of his cheating by obsessively analyzing these women rather than questioning him or confronting him about his infidelity.
Now you are picking apart and deflecting the advice of aunts here, some of whom would like to help you out. If we can't help you and you truly want the answer to your question, why not just go ask him?
What answer could anyone give you that would possibly satisfy you? You want someone to say to you, "Yes, he likes his women thick and hairy and you just happen to be an anomoly?" It's not that I believe that. Personally, I don't think he finds these other women "more" attractive than you. I think he's just attracted to easy, random sex and you are the type that is willing to tolerate it and remain loyal to him for 5 years. A boob job won't help the pattern of behavior you two have established.
It doesn't sound like you want to acknowledge that pattern at the moment. But when you do, I would recommend some therapy. He hasn't treated you well and even if you can't or don't want to address it right now, I think having someone help you sort out your sense of self worth and your world view might help you grow and heal into a more mature person. It sounds like you're in a masters program...if you are, most have mental health facilities for their students and you could easily get another opinion.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo Very Confused: Who said that he doesn't want to be with me full time? Why can't the situation simply not allow for it? Who said the relationship has been long distance for all 5 years? You really don't have much grasp on the time we spend together, the only comment about that I made was concerning the longest and the average time we have spent apart. I would very much appreciate it if you could limit your comments to the information I provided and not what you assumed.Yes, he did cheat on me. Yes, he didn't respect me. I'm sorry I missed one letter and put the wrong tense on 'messes' it should have been 'messed.' I think you could have realized it was an error since I clearly stated in other parts of my post that the cheating was in the past.Regarding the operation, I think you're exaggerating... Plenty of women choose to get surgery (and all the accompanying risks) to augment their perfectly healthy breasts, plenty. I feel like you are judging me for wanting to join the club. Just because I'm happy with my breasts now doesn't mean that I wouldn't be happy if they were a little bigger.I chopped my hair off progressively, not all at once, so it wasn't such a shock after having it long for many years. I love my short hair and I'm happy that my boyfriend encouraged me to do it because I don't think I would have otherwise. I'm sorry that your hubby is not happy with the way your hair turned out, but like you said, at least it grows! Are you happy with it? And if you're opposed to changing for someone then why did you cut it? Was there maybe a little piece of you that wanted to do it but was too afraid to take the leap?When I said that part about the active sex life, I meant it more in the sense that I think I satisfy him in bed so that shouldn't be a factor in any disinterest he may have with me. Obviously, the man who is not satisfied in bed is going to look elsewhere to satisfy his needs. I did not mean it in the way you took it.In reference to the "fat and out of shape" thing, why do you care how I would define you? I feel like that was said in order to elicit some callous response from me. I didn't say big women aren't beautiful! But I don't think fat rolls are attractive.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (8 February 2013):
 I am not going to criticize your decision as you are in-control in this situation as it is your life. If you feel that getting your breasts done would be a benefit for yourself then go for it. But still you do not need to change for anyone, and if someone expects you too then they do not love you for you, it isn't a criticism it’s a fact. people can sometimes make on a one off occasion, but after doing it multiple times, it shows that he has or even had at one point a lack of respect for you and that is something that you must take into account in the future, as what is to stop him from losing interest again and doing the same thing? If you see cheating as just being unfaithful that’s fine, but to many people it’s a very painful experience that can do a lot of damage to a someone’s self-esteem, and to be honest from what I have read it seems like it has worked slightly on yourself. I wish you all the best in your relationship but please don't change for anyone apart from yourself xx
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 February 2013):
Well since I never said “5 years of being cheated on and disrespected” I’m not sure who you are actually addressing.
What I said was being with a man who cheats on you and disrespects you and doesn’t even want to be with you full time after 5 years is acceptable?”
It’s a very different statement than what you read.
He did cheat on you
He does disrespect you
And after 5 years of LDR he has NOT made it a local permanent relationship. That alone says a lot to me. LDRs are not meant to be LDRs long term. You don’t even see him that often..
So let me ask you if you get implants (which btw I have had a breast lift without implants and it was still a horrid surgery that I needed. I cannot imagine why a woman would have elective plastic augmentation just to please a man that can’t even make a commitment to her… because honey he’s LDR you see him what 3 or 4 times a year right? And yet you are willing to risk, death (from anesthesia) disfiguring (surgery gone wrong or a bad reaction to a foreign substance being implanted in your body for looks only) and PAIN and SCARING forever for this guy?
Also most men LIKE to LOOK at implants but don’t want to touch them as they do not feel natural.
You say in present tense “the girls he messes around with” which is very different from “the girls he messed around with”
If you are happy with who you are, you would not be thinking of elective surgery to augment perfectly healthy breasts.
You say you are happy with who you are but you cut your hair primarily to please him.
In addition you refer to these other women as fat and out of shape… I guess you would define me as fat and out of shape too… since I’m not a size 2 or 4 or 6 right? And my BMI is not under 23
An active sex life where he always orgasms does not mean love or respect or commitment.
I’m not my hubby’s ideal and I do my best to please him and it goes in spurts.. I just cut my hair because he hates long hair… guess what.. he hates my hair cut… oh well.. hair grows.
My boobs have sagged in the year and a half since my mastopexy… oh well… life happens.
If you want to have the surgery have the surgery….. when your man does not move to make your relationship more serious and committed and he continues to look at porn how will you feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): It could be that you are the type of girl that will impress his friends and family, but he prefers a bigger woman? Either way, you need to end it with him. He has no respect for you and is starting to affect your self esteem. This is not how a relationship should be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI feel most women that have responded thus far don't really answer my questions but focus on the unrelated issue of breaking up. I have no intention of ending things with my boyfriend, certainly not because some ladies formed that opinion off of incomplete information: the info I have provided is relevant to my questions, it doesn't include info that would otherwise be relevant in a "to leave or not to leave, that is the question," question. There are many reasons why I believe this relationship has potential.So Very Confused: Please remember that I stated the majority of the cheating happened towards the beginning of our relationship. That behavior has changed since then so it's not like, "5 years of being cheated on and disrespected."The Almighty Duck: I don't see the big deal in getting my breasts done and let me explain why. I have no real opposition to it other than the money and the fact that it's gonna hurt for a short while after. I don't feel as if I'm sacrificing a part of my authenticity by getting a slightly bigger cup. I would never do it if I thought I would regret it. He would never suggest that I get the surgery, and was against it when I breached the topic. He doesn't expect me to change for him; I am willing to change for him. There's a big difference there. As far as the cheating goes, it's not as horrible as I guess I made it out to be. Cheating doesn't mean anything more to me than being unfaithful. I did not describe in detail the extent to which he cheated on me, kissing is cheating just as much as sex. Sure, it wasn't all kissing, but it wasn't all sex. STD-wise, we're healthy and in the clear.Perhaps Not: You missed the point. I'm not trying to make him more faithful through a boob job. I realize that my man has an attraction to bigger, fuller women. I don't understand why it's so terrible that I'm not opposed to taking an action that would benefit the relationship by satisfying that aspect of attraction.MishMash: you made a lot of assumptions in two lines. He doesn't openly cheat on me: he is open about having cheated on me. I don't think I came across as so miserable... How about confused? Physical attraction is important in a relationship. People who say it isn't are living in a fairy tale. I'm not saying it is most important, but nobody wants to be with a slob who doesn't take care of themselves. What I view as physically appealing is merely my own opinion; what we're trying to establish is my man's opinion of physical attraction is lol. I've written this post using my body as a measure of sexual worth because that's where I feel to be in competition. My man doesn't get to know and form a relationship with the women he has messed around with; it's purely physical and that's the level I'm working off of.Dear Mandy: I am far from perfect, and while I don't obsess over my looks I do think it is important to look good and keep yourself in shape. I'm fortunate enough that I have a decent metabolism so watching my weight and what I eat is barely a thought in my mind. My man and I never encounter problems when it comes to food. Hell, you should see us go to town on a pizza... I do try to be healthy though: I avoid excess junk food and eating out of boredom, I do yoga and try not to stress life. I do honestly feel that my man is into me and I wouldn't be doing this to keep him. I'd be doing it to better us not save us. It's unrealistic to expect to him to love EVERYTHING about me just because he is in love with me. C'mon, it just sounds ridiculous :) What do you mean when you say his brain is not being ego boosted enough? Do you mean that I'm not providing him with enough praises and random small comments, things to remind him how completely satisfied and in love with him I am? Please clarify as I am very interested in knowing more of what you mean.Thank you all!
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (8 February 2013):
 OP its not just about the breast size here, your problem has far deeper roots. Your boyfriend is disrespectful of you. He has a "type" which is clearly not what you are, and the problem, yes the PROBLEM is that you are WAY too good and even perfect for him. He doesn't deserve a catch like you and its *entirely* his loss. He deserves those panty-less, brainless girls.
Don't even CONSIDER plastic surgery because you should never change yourself to please anyone else, least of all someone like your B/f. Love yourself because you are perfect the way you are.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 February 2013):
OP, a 5 year LDR is HIDING from real life…. Why haven’t you guys made this a regular relationship… who is not moving this forward? Why do you think that being with a man who cheats on you and disrespects you and doesn’t even want to be with you full time after 5 years is acceptable?
My husband has a type and I’m not it. Seriously. My husband likes small petite young Asian women… I am old, slightly overweight, and NOT Asian. I am so NOT his type it’s funny… and yet.. he’s married to me and has never cheated on me. And we were LDR the first year we were together….
I tell you this to show you that the excuses you list for why your guy disrespects you and cheats on you are bogus and not true.
I think you know you have to end it and just are here for us to tell you that it’s ok to tell him it’s over.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (8 February 2013):
This is a very sad story to read simply because you do not realize how badly you are being treated. You even said "I would consider plastic surgery" why? Your proud of yourself aren't you? Why on earth would you want to change for someone who has treated you as badly as this. He doesn't deserve you and nor do you to be treated this way. From what you have described your healthy, petite, beautiful and intelligent, and from what you have said about him it sounds as all he keeps doing is throwing away the diamond he has and picking up rocks. It might not be the fact that he prefers bigger women, but it could just be he is one of those men who feels that one person isn't enough to satisfy him (like you said how he was in his college days) so therefore he will try and pick up whatever is on offer, and to be honest, whatever is on offer is normally cheap, not very nice nor intelligent women who once again are just picking up what is one offer, which normally are men looking for fun. However on the other hand if he does tend to look at porn that is mainly based around bigger women than yes, it is very likely he does have a particular interest in them, but he went out with you in the first place because he was attracted to you in some way, be it looks or personality. So surely he shouldn't expect you to change into one of his types if he loves you for you right? Well that is the question you need to ask yourself. He should love and appreciate you for you, and by the amount of times he has cheated on you, it suggests otherwise, even if maybe you aren't his type, he loved you in the first place for your personality, so that should be enough. But clearly for him maybe loving someone is more based on looks and "type" than it should be. Also your putting yourself at risk, STDS and STIS all off that nasty stuff, why are you still sleeping with him if you know he has cheated on you? Has he been checked since these other women came along? You need to start putting yourself at the top of the food chain instead of him, as beleive it or not there are many men out there who would die for someone with a body like yours, and this guy who you are with, isn't respecting you for being yourself, and surely that should be enought to tell you he doesn't respect you, surely by the amount of times hes cheated it should give you an idea of how much he loves you right? You need to raise your standards, believe in yourself, and never feel like you have to change for someone else, and if you do they are not worth it. Good Luck xx
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (8 February 2013):
 He's more sexually attracted to bigger women. There are many men out in the world that do not find thin or toned women attractive. If he is sexing bigger women and wanking off to the same body type while looking at porn, it should be pretty obvious that he has a preference for them. Just because you don't fall under the same category doesn't mean he won't have sex with you. Most men will have sex with just about any woman who will let them, even if the attraction is not the greatest.You may not be the ideal for him physically, but the bigger problem is the fact that you're not the ideal girlfriend for him, period. The same can be said for you; he is not the best fit for you either. He cheated on you more than once and here you are wondering a boob job will make him more faithful. What's next? You want to gain 20 more pounds as well to come full circle? The truth is, nothing will change. He still knows you'll deal and accept his infidelities at the end of the day. He knows if he sleeps with yet another girl, you'll forgive him, just like you did that one time...and that other time...and...ect. The second you allow someone to walk all over you, you best believe they will do it again. There are many physically gorgeous women out there that still get cheated on by men, even though they have plenty of men lined up to date them. Why? Because they are simply not compatible with their partners. You can't make someone love or respect you. They either do, or they don't. Trying to make someone love you or respect you never works. And you certainly won't get that with fake ta ta's or an extra 2 pounds. You need to check yourself and figure out why on earth you're trying to please and persuade a man to be with you that clearly likes his options open.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): I think you have a bigger problem here. You have a boyfriend that openly cheats on you and you put up with it. It's a problem. It's disrespectful to you, it's dangerous to your health (STDs), and it obviously makes you miserable.
I can predict you'll attract a lot of ire from women on this site who will take offense at the way you contrast yourself with all other women with the assumption that you are more sexually worthy because of your body. While your reaction to these women does make you come off as a little hyper-competitive, I think it also shows that you have a huge problem you're not entirely conscious of:
You appear to think of yourself only as a body with sexual value.
And apparently the only way you think you deserve your boyfriend's love or respect is by increasing your sex appeal.
I think it's sad that you put up with this relationship. It's sad that you use his lack of judgement to judge yourself. It's tragic because you cut yourself off from valuing and expanding yourself in different ways apart from looking in a mirror, looking down on other women, and contemplating boob jobs.
My advice is to ditch your boyfriend. Why does he sleep with those women? Because it's easy, he knows you'll put up with it, and because he doesn't really care if it hurts you. It's not that he prefers them to you, it's that he doesn't care about you. You should be very upset about this, you should not be worrying about your breasts. Please get some therapy and try to find a new metric beyond your cup size.
For what it's worth, you probably are a very beautiful woman, but the way you choose to see yourself and other other women is very ugly.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (8 February 2013):
HI
It seems to me he wants a down to earth women, someone who isn't obssessed with their looks. he wants imperfection. many guys find it hard to keep up with women who hardly eat or too skinny. They want to be with women who aren;t afraid to eat a good old greasy burger and chips with a larger, not a salad and dry nuts ( not saying that this is you ) just in general. Also with the fact that you see eachother not often at all his brain is not being ego boosted enough, so will look elsewhere. If your feel his not that into you then move on, don't change you looks to keep any man, cause if he loves you, he should love everything about you. focus on being happy with yourself instead of comparing yourself to others.
Mandy x
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