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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. ...

Where do I go from here? Broken hearted. How long should I wait for to contact my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - My girlfriend of one year recently broke up with me. We've been in a long distance relationship for almost the entire time, although I've bought plane tickets to visit her several times, and she came to stay with me for 8 weeks over summer where we ...

This mean girl in my class insulted my friend about her weight, and now my friend wants to starve herself to be able to lose 30 pounds by the end of the month!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4760 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Today's Halloween, and so my school had this contest on who could come to school in the best costume. Like 90% of the people in my school dressed up, including me, but that's besides the point. I have a friend who's a bit overweight, but ...

Are my concerns about her past justified?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - I have been going out with a woman for a few weeks and i feel a big connection with her. Everything feels easy and we get along great. The only thing that concerns me is her past. She has told me she was very flirtatious when she was in her late...

Relationship dilemma: how do I get her to believe in me again?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - I'm currently trying to win back my ex girlfriend. She has a social anxiety disorder, and recently shut down and blew up on me (seriously yelled in person, screamed, cried, etc.) because of a few things I did. All of which was about a month ago. ...

I'm bored and frustrated with my relationship! Help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I've just divorced my husband of 20 years then met this man 16 years older than me. Im attracted to him because he's more caring and understanding than my ex-husband. He has no kids and has his own home and car and still working with a good ...

Do I tell my boyfriend that I want an abortion? Or just go ahead and do it anyway?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4732 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Well... I am 28 years old and have been with the same guy for 10 years... Yes, 10 years. We're not technically married, but do plan to stay together for the long hall. And, I just found out I was pregnant. Obviously we've been being careful over the ...

I married through love and now it has backfired as he is still messaging the married woman he knew before me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - hey there, My name is senya and i am married for 1 year now.. And i am dating this same guy since 2 years... So basically we are together for 3 years.. My husband was dating a married lady before we meet.. she was married for 2 years when she...

We plan to meet for the first time soon but he is very ill and I'm worried if I see him it will make it harder. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - im 22 years old and been in a relationship with this 46 years old canadian guy online,there no exact words to express how happy i am to have him. I know deep inside my heart that i do love him more than anything in this world..and he also does for ...

Can I have a good life with my controlling man who also tells me lies?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Hi, The man I'm with is a liar, he lies frequently and sometimes over ridiculous things I never know what's real what's not. He was married and even lied about his exes age to me until divorce papers arrived and I seen her age. He's got a tem...

Should I choose to not marry him? And take action to get him to give me my money back?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - ive done something really stupid and need some advice as to what i should do. My boyfriend who i havent known all that long is from a diferent country. Possibly quite jealous and possesive. He works and so do i, but i make more money than him. he ...

In Turmoil. How can I resolve my Commitment issues? my girlfriend has given up on me :(

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - Hi Folks, Commitment issues of my own have caused my girlfriend to give up :(! I'm after some advice, not sure if anyone can help, but basically the story goes like this: My girlfriend and I were together for 3 1/2 years. We had a long ...

Are my concerns about my daughter's mental health valid? How do I suggest she get help? She wants a sex change for vocational reasons

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - My 16 yr old daughter told us she wants a sex-change. She said it's the solution to all her problems - she wants to work in the motor industry or the logistics industry, and said both those industries aren't really accepting of women working ...

Have I done the right thing?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Hi. Been in my relationship with bf for 4yrs we have a daughter together thing is since the start of r/ship he has lied about certain things, he has an alcohol problem so he has lied about drinking. For some time I thought he was t-total! I told him ...

Caught in-between my boyfriend and my best male friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I'm currently in a very messy situation, and I'm not quite sure what to do about it... Lately, it's been really hard to make time to spend time with my boyfriend. When I'm busy he usually has something important to do, and vice versa, so I'm lu...

She's my first everything, I'm her seconds....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - I'm 26 and had never dated or anything up until a year and a half ago (not a lot of confidence in that department). I've been with the same girl now for that time frame. She's amazing. She told me early on she wasn't a virgin (I am). She has only ...

Ex showed up at a party where I was and then ignored me? What gives?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4667 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - My ex showed up at a club where he had to have known there was a 99-percent chance I'd be there.(It's my friend that was DJ'ing and hosting the party). He was NEVER part of the scene I'm in - in fact, I brought him to the first party when we start...

After 2 bad break-ups I don't want to get serious with anyone because I don't want to be in love again, is there something wrong with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - This post won't be very long, I just need a little input and help. I've had two VERY bad break ups within the last 4 years (I'm over them, by the way) and I've been sitting here thinking about why I'm not in a new relationship. I've been on man...

I really need a male's perspective on this question...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4757 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - This has been bothering me for months now... I am in a great relationship with this guy for almost 6 months now ( we are both in our 30's) and we are very happy together. We were on our first vacation together and it had been only 2 months that ...

She wants me to stop taking the pain killers after I hurt my knee otherwise she will leave me! Should I just leave her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - hi guys ive been dating a woman for almost 2 years shes spoiled and is just a baby i dont make a lot of money but i do pay bills, take care of laundy, cook, clean i do it all.... recently i got hit at work in july by a truck so ive been in therapy ...

Is she already interested in another? I like her. but now I feel lost and have a sickening feeling inside

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - ok, here is my problem. I started college just over a month ago and in my first week met a really attractive, smart girl who happened to be doing the same course as me. We exchanged phone numbers and got on really well together, often chatting f...

My bf is convinced I'm in love with my friend (which I'm not!) and now he wants to speak to my friend's pregnant and emotional wife to see how she feels about our friendship!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend (I will name "Ned") for about 17 years. "Ned" broke up with me about two and a half years ago saying I wasn't "the one" and he wanted to find her and didn't want to waste more time with me. I had wanted to get ...

I'm afraid to bring it up, but how long do I wait to see how this relationship plays out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4762 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I don't know what to do. We've been together just over a year. I know someone said you can't love the potential, you have to love the person where they're at now. But I find myself doing both. He really does need me for several reasons. And I need ...

Solutions please to reduce panic attacks? old school? New school? Or other options?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4745 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Hey, yep its me again so thanks for taking the time to read my question. I haven't been at school for about a year now and now and my family and I are making the necessary changes for me to go back to school. Only problem is many schools round my...

She has been abusive but threatens that she can't live without me if I leave. please help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - 2 years 3 months ago i was single and i was just out of an open relationship when i made friend with one girl on facebook.we started to chat everyday and she kept on telling me how her boyfriend was treating her badly....i felt very sorry for ...

LDR--we were to get married but now he's always ill. I just don't see things happening

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - i'm gonna have to say sorry in advance cos this may be a long read. I'm 30. He's 31. We been in LDR for 3 years. Different countries. We met while he was working in my town for a few weeks. I was in a mess trying to end my then relationship. He was ...

Why am I tolerating boyfriend's gambling?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Hi, I'm trying to figure out why I'm putting up with this. I've been in a relationship for over 3 yrs. and its been mostly about his needs, wants. He gambles, is controlling and spends basically whatever he has on himself or what he wants. We ...

We had a big fight and now I find b/f is on dating site

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4760 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - This is going to be long and I apologize in advance. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 16 months. We see each other all the time, he loves my family and vice versa and we've talked about the future. About 2 weeks ago, we got in a very big ...

What do I do about my needy boyfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend just over a year and throughout our relationship he has constantly acted possessive over me and everything that I do. He loves me too much and I don't think it's healthy for either of us. I know he's interested in wh...

Gf lied and decieved me however has alot of underlying issues, should I stay?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - my gf and i have gone through a very rough patch recently when i found out she had been lying to me for months and texting and talking with another man along with sending semi nude photos to him and telling the man she loved him and he her. i am not ...

Anyone ever been told their friendship wasn't valuable?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

30 October 2011 (?) - Has anyone here ever had the experience where a close friend (or partner or family member) tells them directly that they don't think their friendship is valuable? I've had a very a close friend of 8 years say she felt that our friendship was "no ...

Why would a dumper complain to an ex about their current relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - My mum's friend was married years ago. He retrained as a teacher and she put him through school. After he finished he dumped her out of the blue. No reason, just cut her off. She went to his parents house, but they slammed the door in her face. He ...

Would you let him go if he were your Bf? And been together two years.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I'm not sure where to start. First off, I'm sorry if this post turns into a novel…I'll try my best to keep it short and simple. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years Its my boyfriends birthday soon and he wants to go clubbin for h...

I really need advice on making friends please? guys tell me I'm "intimidating" but I don't see how I can be intimidating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Hi there. This isn't so much of a "love" question as it is more just "how to meet people/make friends" kind of question. I seem to have a really hard time making friends. This isn't something new. All through school I only had a couple friends I wo...

My Gf has major self esteem issues. will she ever change or go back to the way she used to be?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - my fiance of 4 years has always suffered from self esteem issues, an eating disorder and was raped when she was 16. now because of this she dated men who treated her like crap because she thought she deserved that. she has had no support from her ...

Should my husband go out to bars so often without me? Or should he consider me more?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - For the past year my husband has been going to the bars with his friends about twice per month. He stays until the bar is closed. I was ill for a few months and never wanted to go out when he asked (not that I could, because we don't have a baby...

How do I ensure I don't mess up this relationship? I've had a track record of having a crush on a new guy every single year.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Dear Everybody who reads this, I am an idiot. For as long as I can remember I've had a track record of having a crush on a guy every single year. If I got over one, I'd get one as soon as the new year came around. When I was younger I was really i...

Is my proposed celibacy solution workable? And any tips on helping me get over this intense amount of regret/shame?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I am 15 years old. I have given two guys bjs, and I am soooo ashamed. I regret all of it, and i feel sick whenever i think about it. I feel like i am a bad kid. However, I am in a relationship right now (although he says he doesn't care about phys...

After some tough times and relationships, when is it going to be my turn to be happy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - In my life so far I have tackled being bullied when I was young and growing up for being overweight suffered with really bad acne and I got teased for being ginger.my dad left at a young age and hes not been bothered since. Ive got a daughter whos 6 ...

Is he using me for money?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4742 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Ok this is hard for me..I ran into an old friend on facebook and after sharing a place for a few months about four..we started sleeping together..he mentioned porn and how he used to whack off to it while single and this was for a very long ...

We were good friends. Does she have a lot on her mind maybe, and just doesn't want to talk?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - I have been best friends with my friend for almost a year now. We became really close really fast. We were inseparable and up until about a week ago i thought we still were. we texted every single day and talked on the phone almost every night. When...

3 problems- money worries, my boyfriend who doesn't want to commit and my family who never visit or consider me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4762 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - hi sorry.. this is abit of a long one! I have 3 problems.. money worries, my non-commital boyfriend and my family who never visit or consider me! I live in a small house with my 17 yr old son and am finding life very hard! I came out of a lo...

Should I try to mend our friendship or leave him altogether in fear of falling for him again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - I have a very long history with a boy who shall be called X . You see, I've liked X as more than a friend off and on for basically my whole life, and I know there have been times when he has liked me in the same way. To give a summary, we were close ...

Should we connect? Dont want to break his marriage but I need someone to make me laugh

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Thanks. I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids. just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communic...

I need some help to cope with what's happening now

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

29 October 2011 (M) - PLEASE HELP! Okay, well I have been to the doctors about depression and they are just saying it's harmones but I am lower then average. I have used marijuana a few times to make me feel better and use it I don't have a lot. I don't smoke it ...

Which dating situation is better out of these two?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4764 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - I met two guys and I didn't end up with either of them. I often think and compare and contrast and I wonder...which situation do you think is worse? Obviously no one would want either to happen but... A guy having a first love that hau...

Having trouble having sex with gf! Please help!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

29 October 2011 (M) - hello 1) when my gf and I decided to have sex for the first time I couldn't enter my penis into her vagina. It was slipping a lot so we couldn't had sex and I also tried doggy style but failed ? whats wrong 2)while i was trying to have sex w...

Is he just trying to be kind but really wants nothing to do with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - So I have been seeing the love of my life for about a year and a half, we get along great, we have differences of course but never really fight and I thought things were good aside from the fact that he plays competitive baseball and we don't see ...

Boyfriend is addicted to online games

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4762 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - I think my boyfriend is addicted to online games. He plays at least 8 hours a day, sometimes with his friends, sometimes with me, sometimes by himself. Right now it's mostly LoL and DoD. He used to play WoW but quit, only because he couldn't afford ...

Broke up with my girl, and I need advise on how to make friends

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

28 October 2011 (M) - Hello I am 19 year old male and I have no friends. I lost my female best friend 2 months ago and my girlfriend 3 days ago(it was a mutual agreement, she didn't dump me). I started studying economics this year and it is still hard for me to find one ...