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writes:Ok this is hard for me..I ran into an old friend on facebook and after sharing a place for a few months about four..we started sleeping together..he mentioned porn and how he used to whack off to it while single and this was for a very long time.Years and years.I really believed I had what it took to make that part of his life fade and go away.But I've found a porn site including teenage girls still on his computer.I video taped myself making a video to guns and roses sweet child of mine and it made me cry because I was missing my kids.He took the video and turned it into a joke with the sound of my crying put to the chipmunks.he has posted the ugliest photos of me he could find.Never choosing the best ones to post on facebook only the bad ones.He likes to photo shop and wants to do women.I tried to be cooperative but when he pulled out his video of a woman to photo shop tutorial she was a goddess and I felt small and unattractive and it really stings actually.I don't want to feel this way but I do.He says I'm insecure.Dillusional and paranoid.he yells at me.He is buying one new thing after another while I pay half his rent.I feel I am just being used.He's been extremely affectionate for days but then asks me to lend him 400 dollars for a computer..so I did and he then returned that one and went and bought himself a new one.Brand new.I have a mastercard I need to be paying and he never makes room for my bills.He is using me for money isn't he.Everytime I try to discuss it he tells me I'm insecure and leaves.Sometimes for the whole night which adds to my distrust.What do you think?
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reader, uroboros  +, writes (20 November 2011):
yes, i think he is using you for money.
leave this guy now!he doesn't care about no one except himself! you deserve much better than this.
good luck.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 November 2011):
 Demand your money back and run like the wind once the check clears...you've been played and there's a bunch of creeps just like him waiting to pounce so take a long break from the "relationship-go-round" save yourself no one else will.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 October 2011):
 Why are you still with him? He sounds like a toxic basketcase. And yes, I would assume he was with you for the money too,
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2011): he's not just using you for your money, he's just an a-hole, plain and simple. kick him out, ditch him, demand he pay you back every cent you loaned him, and find yourself a real man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2011): Hi,you are being treated unfairly. get out now. it really doesn't matter if he is mistreating you because he wants more money or if he is just a jerk. stand strong and find yourself another place to live. even if you have to couch surf for a few. i guarantee he will come after you, try to get you back. stand strong. i am 43 with 2 kids. i am pretty and never had self esteem issues. i met the perfect man. he treated me like a queen. we got married and now he has spent my entire life savings. over 130,000. now i am depressed that i have to start over. it seemed like i was just helping my husband, helping the man of my dreams. but you have no idea how slick these guys are. my husband still tells me he loves me. but he never has a dollar to pay me back. please save yourself from the misery. it is hard to be single but way harder to be single and broke. remember that no matter what -you have something other than money to offer. and from now on no more loaning/giving men money. Never!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2011): I have been in this situation myself, and yes sweetie he is using you for money. I suggest you get away from him now, before he gets into debt that you can't pay. I believe that once the money stops he will be gone. I understand how hard it is, and he makes you feel that your feelings are unimportant and that your the problem and not him, but the truth is that he is the problem and he always will be. there is a man out there who will love you for who you are and won't use you but will support you in life, and work with you. Good Luck, I am sorry that this is happening to you.
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