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writes:Thanks.I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids.just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communicating on phone until he sent a message that we should break up because i deserved better.though i was married we call once in a while. Now,he is married and am a widow. saw each other about 3 weeks ago and we connected like we were still dating, he calls me and text often,and i cant deny i still love him, but he is married.been calling but he is not picking my calls for a week now.i dont want to break his marriage but needs someone to make me laugh since we have a connection.pls help
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 October 2011):
 If you want laughs, find a single guy who can make you laugh, chasing after a married on will only add drama and toxicity to your life.
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (29 October 2011):
 You're a widow and therefore available but he's married and so, unavailable. Yes you were in love a couple of years back but didn't end up together. If you're hubby were to be around, you really won't be thinking about him. He isn't picking your calls for a reason. Possibly trying to reorganize his life after meeting up with you. You should do same. Don't break up his home because you're lonely. Let him be the one to make that decision if that's what he wants.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (29 October 2011):
 The most probable reason i can think off that he has stop answering your calls is maybe his wife may of heard you talking and asked him to stop talking to you (especially if she found out you used to date). But we must not jump to conclusions straight away and keep in mind it could be something simple as his phone has broken or he might of changed his number.You have ovbiously been through a rough time and i do suspect as your partner passed away things get lonely and it really does hurt. Even though you may feel a connection with him, he is married now he has a life of his own and even though things may off been real great in the past this is the present.You could try and send him a text or voicemail simply saying that you don't want any funny buisness and simply was wondering if you could be friends, so he can make you laugh in a different way. Give him his time to respond and if he doesn't then let him get on with it as he isn't worth your time, i suggest maybe you join a dating website if you feel now your ready to meet someone new. Good luck x
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (29 October 2011):
 Hi,I am really sorry to hear about your late husband. I also lost my mom 9 years ago, so I know how it feels to loose someone you love dearly. Ink ow you feel lonely, it must be hard having someone for so many years, now you are alone, have to take care of your kids alone, it must be very difficult. But, life moves on, it's just different, and we need to accept, do our best, and get used to the new life. I know you need someone to talk, laugh, I know you need a friend, but you need to realize that your friend is married now. It's not fair to him, and not fair to his wife, whom have not done anything to you. I guess he's not answering your calls because he knows it's wrong. I am sure he feels bad about your situation, he's an old friend, but you need to not expect anything from him. Please, find someone that is available, that can be a good friend to you, and that can be with you anytime you need. I know this is not what you hope to hear, but I am just being honest. You need to move on before you get more attached to him, we both know you are very vulnerable right now, and the last thing you need is more pain. I hope you find peace, happiness, and I hope you can meet someone that will love you, care for you. Be strong, I am sure you'll find happiness...Best wishes/good luck!
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