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Archived questions from: 19 August, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Is ultimatum the wisest thing I can do for myself?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Met this guy for over a month. I play hard to get, he creeps under my skin really smoothly. I set boundaries, he runs on all fours after me. He drives a long way to see me whenever i can squeeze 30mins with him. We have great chemistry, our minds ...

How can I get rid of her insecurities and strenghten our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5574 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Hi there, I have been with my girlfriend now for ten months - we have all the makings of a great relationship - we have mutual trust, care about eachother, have shared interests, same morals, differences which interest each other, sexual ...

I've lost my bestfriend and boyfriend. How do I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - my best friend dated this guy for 6 months and I don't know how they lasted that long because she didn't treat him the way he shouldve. when they broke up they both got over it within a week. he late told me that he had liked me all year even when ...

He seems to have changed from controlling and obsessed to indifferent

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5578 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - I apologise for the long question in advance. Me and my boyfriend have been in a Long Distance Relationship for a year and 5 months now. I live in the UK and he lives in America. The first time I went to America, everything was perfect. As ...

He's going to leave me and our daughter to marry his other baby mama!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Im 19 and currently my ex boyfriend/baby daddy are not together. He has a older son by his first baby momma and my little girl would be his youngiest child. Well when he comes home he's planning on marrying his first baby momma only to leave me and ...

4 years and 2 kids isn't enough for him to marry me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - ok, im not sure where t start, i have been with this guy for 4 years and we have 2 kids together. i love this man with everything i have. well we live in his home town and my home town is 1200 miles away where all my family and friends live. i dont ...

My husband is going through a midlife crisis. How can I help him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - My husband is going through some midlife crisis, or just serious depression. He can't see that, or talk about that. But I see him turning more and more bitter day by day. I can't convince him, he thinks I'm critical. He stopped being affectioan...

My boyfriend bought a 'truth' game but doesn't like to play it with me. Do you think he doesn't like to talk about his past?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - my boyfriend bought a truth game with his brother but doesnt want to play when i asked him. he said he doesnt like it and it gives wrong answers. but im starting to think he doesnt want me to know about something although hes answered all my bad ...

He turned down my marriage proposal, now what do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for five years, we have been living together for three years. We are both in our 50's and divorced with three teenage children between us. He is my soul mate, we have built a stable loving home together for the kids and ...

I want to be with him but I think things just started going too fast and he got scared.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - I guess I will start with a little background first....me and my ex had met 9 years ago. We were both young and he was in the military (still active duty). We dated for over a year (6months of that long distanance I had to travel for work) when we ...

We never do anything together but she just says that I complain too much!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been together for around a year now, And we are currently on an 8 week holiday from college, And I've only seen her once in 6-7 weeks. And that was only after I spoke to her and told her that we never do anything together...

I'm pregnant and have just found out my boyfriend has another 3 babies on the way!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - I'm pregnant by my boyfriend. I told him he wants nothing to do with the child. Found out he has 3 babies on the way. I don't want a abortion because I had one when I was younger. I just turned 30 years old. He's 26 years old. I've been seeing him ...

Should I move on or should I wait for her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (M) - Hey, Well I was going out withh my girlfriend for around 19 months. Things were good, except at the end I guess it got kinda bland ? Aruge over shit things. Anyway, we / she decided we should break up and stay friends for a bit. Problem is howev...

Rough sex didnt hurt me so now my boyfriend thinks I have slept with other people!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5578 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i had very rough sex the other day and it didnt hurt at all.. Basically he wanted me 2 scream ive only ever had sex with him, we've been together two years and been doing it for about a year and a half. Its upsetting him that it ...

Was he just testing the waters to see if he still wanted me in his life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend broke up with me last month and it became very messy. I have been devastated but I cut contact with him because I heard it was the best thing to do if I ever wanted him back. Last week he got in contact with me and was telling me that ...

Is he sending me mixed signals in this relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - I am currently living with my boyfriend and legally a spouse according to Ontario legislation. Recently while filling out a form to go on his work benefits as his spouse I noticed that he filled out another form at the same time for life insurance ...

I still love my boyfriend but this relationship just isnt working anymore!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - i dont even know how to start this, I will try my best to keep it short telling you my problems it might be a little confusing as i am telling 5 years of built up frustration in a couple of paragraphs, but here goes. Ok well i have been in a ...

Is it normal for a man to stop his sexual advances and tell the woman to approach him for sex instead?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Hello and thank you for taking the time to read my question. I am wondering if it is normal for a man not to approach a woman sexually in a relationship but instead tell her it is up to her to approach him for intimacy etc? It used to be that ...

Should I forgive and forget about the past and give my relationship a second chance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - I left my boyfriend 6 months ago after 4 years as he didn't want the same things as me i.e. I wanted kids and to get married he didn't. I meet someone else and have been living with them for 2 months I've had no contact with my ex as I've ignored ...

I don't know how to trust my boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Hey guys, the last 7 months have been hell for me and my partner. i love him and he love me but i found out in january that he cheated on me in the first month of our relationship with his ex. since then we have both been through so much. we have ...

I feel like I am always the bad guy in our relationship!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (M) - hey guys its been awhile. my girlfriend just recently dumped me just cuz i told her there was a few things that made me uncomfortable. like when i was teasing with her she uses a knife on me as a joke, personally i think she went too far, but she ...

Is my best friend jealous of my relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Im 29 and have been in a relationship with the love of my life for almost the past year now, we are living together almost 7 months and have both been in long term relationships before. I was once engaged before after a short relationship that ...

My partner keeps having sex with me in my sleep, even if we have had sex before sleeping!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5361 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - my partner and i have a very active sex life, we have been together 14 years, we still have sex 3-4 times a week, however he goes through phases, of having sex whilst im sleepin, my partner is quite a dominate man, and ive let him be, when i start ...

Now I'm pregnant my boyfriend has started watching porn, and the worst thing is he lies about it!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - whos in the wrong? my boyf and i have been together for a year and a half. before i got pregnant he wouldn't look at porn, now im 9 months pregnant he looks at it all the time.. and i can understand why.. i look terrible. but i have told him wh...

How do I get over my trust issues and start believing there really are nice guys out there?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Hi aunts / uncles. i have trust issues when it comes to relationship and i always second guess myself and the other person. i got bullied when i was younger so i know thats why i dont think a guy will find me attractive and had a few partners who...

Why is my boyfriend acting like this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Is it abuse if your bf tries to force you into sex through making you feel guilty? By saying things like 'if you loved me' or 'if you wanted to see me happy you would do it', 'if you cared about me' etc. Is it abuse if he doesnt respect you when...

I lied to him about my age and now he wants to visit me, what should I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Okay, so, I was on a chat room one day, bored out of my mind, telling people I was 17 when I actually, I had just turned 14. Well, me and this guy (he was 17) got talking and exchanged emails. We got to know eachother and I guess he started liking ...

My new partner is traumatised from a past relationship and still allows her ex to control her, how do I deal with this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5580 days ago

19 August 2009 (M) - I am dating a girl who about six months ago come out of a very physically/mentally abusive relationship. They had been married for ten years and the abuse was consistant throughout. They had actually been legally divorced 4 years ago, but reconsiled ...

How do I get past my insecurities and make more of an effort in my relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for going on three years. We have been through a lot in our relationship and I believe he really loves me. He always tells me how he wants me to marry him and have his kids and how I am the only one for him but yet I ...

How do I cope with these mixed feelings? He was abusive towards me but I still hate the idea of him being with someone else!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5567 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Hi. I just got out of an abusive relationship and I am consumed with lots of mixed emotions and I'm just looking for some guidance and advice. Above all I want to understand why I still have feelings for him. He is acting so nonchalant about the ...

He broke up with me and yet he still treats me like his girlfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - My bf and I just broke up. He is the one who ended it. He said it wouldnt work because we are too different- fair enough, I understand that. Mind you though, I think it has more to do with the fact that he wasnt willing to wait for sex any longer. I ...

Me and my best friend have fallen out, and it feels like a real break-up!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5578 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - okay so me and my (best friend) have been friends for 6 years..we had a unique friendship, we were sisters, she was my other half, my life, my everything. her house was my second home. I mean in most friendships this was the case but me and hers was ...

How long should I wait, or am I just wasting my time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - 16 years ago I met the man of my dreams. But we have never been any more than friends. I never did tell him how I felt about him. He eventually got married and his wife cheated and got pregnant by someone else. They divorced. Before this happened ...

I am changing, and my boyfriend isn't....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost 2 years. I love him very much. I can't imagine my life without him. But, we are experiencing a lot of strife due to the fact that I feel like I am growing as a person much more rapidly than he. Maybe ...

He cheated, she told me, and he's worked hard to make amends.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5574 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Here it goes... I met my boyfriend online a few years ago, but we didn't fall for each other until we met in person last year. I have several strings attached at the moment where I currently am so it's tough for me to make the big move. He's a few...

Didn't like what I saw on my husband's facebook. Am I overreacting?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4428 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts, I recently stalked my husbands facebook account (no I don't think its wrong!) and I found that the adage 'look hard enough and you will find what you're looking for' is annoyingly true. I found out that he was ading random (and ve...

Coping with my jealous and hypocritical new husband. Any ideas?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5579 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - Hello agony aunts, I'm hoping you can all help me get some perspective and advice on how to deal with an extremely jealous and hypocritical husband... I recent got married to my partner of three years. We haven't had a perfect run, we we...

I don't know what to do. I love him, I think?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5515 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - I'm so confused. After 4 years of staying true to one person it seems pointless. I have been in love with one person for the past four years and I just recently told him. He said I kinda like you and I have thought about you a lot. I do feel ...

He watches porn but he won't have sex with me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - i have been in a relationship for almost 2 years and getting more and more frustrated with our sexual relationship. we have not had sexual intercourse for the past year. he blames it on his high blood pressure pills. i know he watches porn at ...

Why does this hurt so badly?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

19 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my current boyfriend for 3 years. I consider myself to have been very supportive towards him during this time as he suffers from a mental health disorder. He continually drinks himself stupid. When he does this he gets verbally ...