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writes:Hi aunts / uncles.i have trust issues when it comes to relationship and i always second guess myself and the other person. i got bullied when i was younger so i know thats why i dont think a guy will find me attractive and had a few partners who have cheated on me. is it really that hard to believe their are nice guys out their. the guy ive been with hes sweet sends me poems and songs and texts me regular and phones me at night too. hes 20 and im 24. he used to text me in the mornings but doesnt really now so is he loosing interest in me, i bet hes getting vibes off me and perhaps thats putting him off. i dunno perhaps im into this too much and not chilling out enough from worrying about it. what you think i should do to help myself out a vicious circle. i feel like ive changed a little and just wanna be how i was before we got into something that might become more. thank you !
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reader, Pyroshadow  +, writes (25 August 2009):
To get get over your trust problems that hard. I have trust problems too cause I been f______ over so much in the past. Once your in a realtionship, its best to explain your trust problems and say hey this is why i have trust problems. And if the person really loves you they will help you with them.As for nice guys.... we tend to end up with girls who have done some awfully sluty things... just like nice girls end up with as______.
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reader, Honest_Answers +, writes (19 August 2009):
 At our age (I'm 23 myself) there is often a large gap between maturity of men and women. 20 year old lads can be willing to settle down and stay in a relationship if they find the right person, but then again some are out for all they can get. Unfortunately there is no hard and fast way to prove either and trust is something a person earns and can be lost. If this guy seems interested and you like him then give him the benefit of the doubt (even if your head tells you not to!) and if it works out then fantastic, if you get hurt, unfortunately it's a risk that has to be taken. If you don't let your guard down you wont let love in! x x x
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