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writes:My boyfriend broke up with me last month and it became very messy. I have been devastated but I cut contact with him because I heard it was the best thing to do if I ever wanted him back. Last week he got in contact with me and was telling me that he still loved me, that he missed me, etc, and was talking to my friends about me too. He was texting me every day for a week and I saw him on a night out too where he was saying the same things. I was completely taken aback and over the week I sometimes didn't reply or I just kept the conversation light. He suddenly stopped texting me 4 days ago and now I'm really confused. Was he just testing the waters to see if he still wanted me in his life or what??I miss this guy so much and love him more than anything but I don't know what's going on:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): What do you think?
Are you over him?
What do you want?
I personally think his behaviour is appalling if he likes you he should have the guts to say it to you once, to ask you if ye can go out again and to deal with your answer, to hell with this cowardly approach which is misleading and seems cruel to you.
I would be inclined to say to him that its over that you like him as a friend but taht you are not in love with him anymore , if thats how you feel. Id also say well done on breaking contact now keep it up.
Hope this helps,
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (19 August 2009):
He came back into your life for one reason or another but the fact that he left it so suddenly would have mt thinking were his intentions as genuine as i assumed.
If was egaer to get back with you he would of stuck around a lot longer than four days. Maybe he thinks its over given that you cooled it off but if he was desperate hed go to the extrems to get back what he lost not fall at the first hurdle.
You have to keep in mind why you broke up, whats changed and whats to say it wont happen again?
Showing cracks before you rebuild the relationship sets off many doubts, your questioning him hes probably questioning you and the distance will fall back in and youll have to either start over or walk away.
Take everything, maybe even your past into account before you make the descion.
I usually say talk it through but this guy is different in how hes taken off so suddenly, if you want to make it work i suggest you get in touch with him but try and remain in control dont let your feelings and emotions take over keep in control, things are different this time round stick to that.
Everyone has good and bad times but sometimes the bad takes over he good and its a struggle to move forward from there.
Hope all works out for you, best of luck
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