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Archived questions from: August, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My sister married a loser, and how she and I never speak.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - My Older sister was in love once before, and engaged. Her previous relationship cheated on her and got the girl pregnant. Now, she left that guy and met the guy she is married to now. and he is a total loser. No job, no drive, no personality. He...

He hasn't physically cheated, but I feel betrayed. How to work on this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Sorry this is long but I had a hard time cutting the fat from this thread. Here's the whole story. After I wrote and proofread this I realized I don't feel better at all. I'm sure you will have no difficulty understanding how that is. On Thursd...

Is this my fault? This is not how I imagined love and commitment to be!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - So I have been dating the same guy for 4 years. Well, we had an 18 month break in between where we still saw each other and slept with each other daily. I continued to help pay his rent and taking care of his daughter during this time. I felt like ...

My boyfriend and his new best friend... he seems suddenly secretive!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has a new female friend who he has been somewhat secretive about. Should I be worried? I've been with him two years now and I've never met or heard of this women. Supposedly they were friends in middle school, but they haven't ...

I love everything about him, except that he drinks too much!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - hi i've been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for nearly two years and i love almost everything about him apart from the fact that i think he drinks way too much. He says he's not an alcoholic and could stop if he wanted to but he does...

I really dislike my boyfriend's sister...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I'm sorry to say this, but I really dislike my boyfriend's sister. She just isn't a nice girl. She is so rude. She is constantly belching and farting, and doesn't even bother to excuse herself. I know everyone burps and farts, but the fact that sh...

She never calls me and I feel stupid calling her!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I,ve been dating this girl for some months now and we do call each other but recently she does'nt call i've always been d one calling her,and anytime i call and ask her why she did'nt call,she always apologise.without telling me why.i am scared of ...

Why do I feel I NEED this guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are together but my sudden problem is - I think that I NEED him. I don't really have many friends anymore. Everyone went their own ways for college and such. He is majoring in Aerospace Engineering and I am majoring in Social ...

Too clingy and paranoid? Or does he just not love me anymore?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5515 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Hello everyone and thanks for taking the time to read my question. I'll try to keep this as brief as I can. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and love him madly. I'm never happier than when I am with him just cuddling and laughing at ...

Not feeling the same about my boyfriend anymore...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now and he treats me very well. he is a complete gentleman, he gets along with my family and i with his. I love him but i find that over the past couple of months i'm getting very irritated with ...

Why the hell would my boyfriends dad send me 7 friend requests on Facebook?!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5551 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I'm 24, been living with my boyfriend for 5 months now, been together for 5 years. I was checking my Facebook profile the other day when I was surprised to get 7 friend requests from my boyfriend's dad! Why would anyone need 7 Facebook acc...

Went snooping through all of his things and found stuff from his past - do I have a right to be upset?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I need to know if this is a *me* problem that I should work on personally, or if I need to talk to my boyfriend about it too. I'll apologize for this being so long now. I just have a lot to say about the issue at hand. This morning, I have no i...

Making comments about when I was skinny..now he ignores me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - my boyfirend made a comment the other day about my weight. He said I looked so good when I was skinny. The other night I was eating a piece of chocolate and he said your never going to lose weight if you keep treating yourself to sweets. He used ...

Is he trying to make me feel guilty for turning down sex? His use of words were inappropriate and put me off!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Ok, so my boyfriend and I were hanging out on Saturday and I wanted us to sit down and have a grown-up conversation. I have to admit (I'm a chatterbox). Anyways, it was good because we brought a lot of things out in the open. In between that we were ...

B/f convinced he's not the one for me anymore

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years for the first couple of years we got on great we never had a crossed word and we fell deeply in love with each other. But for the last year our relationship has been very up and down and my boyfriend belives ...

Something seems to be missing in our relaitonship and I keep picking fights with her!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I have been going out with a girl for nearly 6 months now and we were getting on great until about 3 weeks ago. I havent fallen out of love with her and still find as attractive as ever but something seems to be missing from our relationship. I find ...

I'm thinking of ending our relationship because of his lying about porn...what do you think? And how do I block websites like that?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5541 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - i have been having problems with my fiance , we moved last month and while i was moving his clothes i found a hidden porno in his sweatshirt.. i was more mad that it was hidden and he had told me when we got together he doesnt even like porn .. when ...

We got into a fight and I threatened to take the baby away!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I need help as soon as possible, me and the love of my life, got in a fight, i lost my temper and threatened to take the baby away, and because of that we broke up. Shes currently pregnant with our child, and i regret saying that and wish i c...

B/f constantly accuses me of cheating but I'm not!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 months now and we jus recently broke up and got back together bc he thought I was cheating on him and I've gave him my email address and password give him my phone everything jus to prove to him ...

He's snapping and yelling at me for no reason!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship for about 5 years now. I recently moved into my boyfriends house. Its been pretty good with a few exceptions. He's been snapping at me alot. I told him I do not appreciate the way he is treating me yet he continues ...

We want to move in together, but her family doesn't approve, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I am 17 yrs 0lder than my girlfriend, At first we were freinds for about 10yrs. And now have feelings for each other. She wants to move in with me which is OK. but when she told her mum her mum is dead against it and so is most of her family. ...

My mom makes it very difficult to be happy in our house!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - This might sound silly or strange but I felt like talking it out rather than just keeping it inside me. First of all today my mom was saying how cold it was. I immediately replied it's not cold. She then for some crazy reason makes a big fuss...

It appears he ended things because I didn't gel with his friends?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - hi all , sorry this is long Im really struggling just now with the end of a relationship of 5 years .my ex is a widower , of whom i knew his wife , and we got together 6 months after his wife had died (she comiited suicide ), when which he asked m...

My g/f is depressed and I feel that I am developing strong feelings for my coworker!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I am having really mixed feelings. I have been with my current girlfriend for a little over half of a year. At first, things were pretty good. Lately, she is always depressed about something, never wants to do anything, and is an all around downer. ...

Why do his words change now? Does he want to play around?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - iam a girl....lately...i contact my friend that he is also the man thai i have been waited for 3 years...last years...i have tell him my feelings towards him...but he get mad and he said"i just can take you as a friends..."i was really ...

Should I tell him myself, or just hope that no one else does?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5553 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Please help me, I need some piece of mind. Let me explain... in February, I lost a baby, which devastated me and my ex, and although I have two children from a previous relationship, this baby was my ex’s first, so I cannot comprehend the guilt I ...

I hardly hear from him any more -- what can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I have been feeling quite sad recently. My boyfriend ended up staying in states, in our hometown, for college. I left to a college five hours away from home. This first week of school has been tough, and I'm not referring to the books. It seems ...

He can be selfish and occasionally womanizes -- how can I move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - How do I move on from my 8 1/2 year relationship? I am 44 hes 48. I'm so exhausted and depressed I don't know what to do. I would love a new start somewhere but feel stuck. Afraid to make too many changes because of the economy. My kids are grown ...

My bf cheated and got someone pregnant -- should I forgive him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5550 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend cheated and had a baby. I found out 10 months later by accident Now he wants another chance. I am so torn because I love him but the entire family knew about it and they all kept quiet. They asked me to cosign for a house..this was befo...

My gf is moving away to uni, I'm afraid that she's not as committed to the relationship as I am

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 18. We've been together for 13 months now, and i thought everything was going great. I love her so much and she says she does too. I run my own business with my brother, and my girl has just finished her A levels and is m...

I want to be with her all the time but I don't want to stifle her

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5553 days ago

30 August 2009 (M) - I am recently married (1 year) after a divorce from a 35 year marriage. I am totally in love with this woman so much so that I am anxious when I am without her, even when she is at work(I am retired). I totally trust her, we have an unbeliev...

My boyfriend keeps breaking up with me, and told me he's not in live with me anymore! I know I should let go, but how?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5552 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Im really confused and don't know what to do. I'm 19 and ive been going out with my boyfriend for a year now. Last month he broke up with me because he didnt want to be in a relationship, but we got back together, he has done the same thing 4times ...

Has my cheating ex changed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Has my cheating ex changed? I was with my ex Sam for 10 years, we lived together for 7 and had two children together. The problems started right from the beginning when he cheated on me when i was pregnant with my first child. He told me when he ...

We love each other but we're starting to fight everyday...what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5553 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Hi,I am in a relationship with this guy for around two years now,we liked each other from the beginning,we talk about our lives and problems always with each other,we have this beautiful relationship but in the past few months we start having a lot ...

He's beaten me before and is now pushing for sex, should I or not?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5553 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Hi umm i need help with my relationship well we are not sexually active.He is really pushing sex though..He has beaten me to the point that Ive had to have stiches..but i still love him..I wonder he says if i love him I will have sex with and take...

This LDR is starting to go downhill...what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5553 days ago

30 August 2009 (M) - So I started dating this girl I've known for some time. Things were great for a while, but we've been doing the long distance thing from the start, and have really only had a handful of weekends together over the course of about a half of a year...

My boyfriend dumped me because I'm too emotional, and couldn't accept my past. How do I move on and get over him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I've been in a toxic relationship for 3 years, and I don't know what to do. You see in the beginning it was all perfect, it seemed to us (and everyone around us) that we'd been made for each other since we shared the same hobbies, thoughts, ideas, ...

I'm worried that my boyfriend will meet up with his ex girlfriend when he flies over to his home country! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend we been together for 6 months and we are madly in love. we both have different culture and religion. but we both understand each other well. soon his going back to his country to see his family and im worried if we meets up with ...

Kicked out because of a ladies night out!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Hello. I'm having a very difficult time in my relationship of 8 yrs. We share a child together and my "boyfriend"/ " husband" kicked me out of the house and took my car back due to me having a ladys night out a week ago and my friend and I ...

How do I get my b/f's attention back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5553 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Please someone help. My boyfriend and I, who have been together for seven months, aren't as close as we once were. We became a long distance relationship because we both thought the distance was well worth being with the other. We both are in coll...

I feel like I NEED him and feeling very vulnerable

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5547 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months now and well. Things are starting to get a bit shakey. We mutually decided that we were going to still date, even though we both are going to different colleges. But the thing about me is - I'...

I want to fix my marriage, but I'm not over the man I had an affair with.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5552 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - [MOD NOTE: Three questions into one] Hello, Long and short, i had an affair and can not get over my lover. Trying to work it out with the husband, but can not seem to get my lover out of my head. I have heard this is normal, but i just want to be b...

He is so confusing! Is he afraid?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5553 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - What is going on with this guy? My ex and I keep coming back to each other but then he pulls away again. Last example: I went away for 3 weeks. He called me when I was away I did not call until I got back. The minute I called him back we got ...

Do you think I was TOO harsh with my ex? Should I apologise?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

30 August 2009 (?) - It's me again, with the ex problem. Okay so I bought the Magic of Making up, and the guy who wrote it says that if I want to get back together with my ex I need to not have any contact with him for a month and write him a letter telling him these ...

I kissed another man because I thought it was my fiance

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5553 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Idont know what to do I admitted to my fiance of two years that I kissed another man but it wasnt intentional. I thought the man was my fiance and I pushed him away after relising it wasnt him. I know it seems hard to believe. I broke my fiance h...

He's with a girl he cheated on me with, but I want to look past it and try again

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5553 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - me and this guy have been together for seven months he alway use to say i fuss to much when we broke up we were still seeing each other over the summer and i just found out he was dating this girl i use to hear people say he talked to when we were ...

I love her but am no longer IN LOVE with her

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

30 August 2009 (M) - Hello, I am no longer in love with my common-law wife. She had a one night stand with someone early in our relationship during an agreed 10 day "break", and also slept with her ex a couple of times. (Although, I must admit, she left that ex for...

We had sex and now bumping into him is very awkward!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5542 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I recently and very unexpectedly had sex with a guy I had just met from the neighbourhood. I thought he was a half decent person and didn't expect much afterwards. However, I ended up getting much less. Initially it was decided that we would get ...

Why he just joking? Why did he do this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5554 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - O.k.. When i was younger about 15 i was dating this guy. We dated for a while but never had sex.. we broke up when i moved and i didn't see or hear from him again until seven years later. i just recently ran into him again and we have been seeing ...

B/f says he is goingthrough an identity crisis..what dos this mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5554 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had been having a good relationship since our last break up, which was almost 7 months ago. Anyways, I thought everything was going great, he was being very attentive, sweet, and just perfect; but 1 week ago he started to get ...