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writes:Okay, so, I was on a chat room one day, bored out of my mind, telling people I was 17 when I actually, I had just turned 14. Well, me and this guy (he was 17) got talking and exchanged emails. We got to know eachother and I guess he started liking me. So, he asked me out, and I, being stupid and not thinking ahead, said yes. And we have an amazing relationship. But I feel terrible. He also is coming down to visit some of his friends down here, and he wanted to hang out with me. I'm obviously not who he thinks I am, and now I have no idea what to do. I really don't want to hurt him... He's so nice and I know what I did was stupid, so please don't comment on the stupidity of my mistake. Someone please help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone... A few other things. He actually dumped his last girlfriend to be with me... And I have talked to her before. Well, by email. He also talks about how I am the most amazing thing that has ever happened to him. This is going to be so hard...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): You need to tell him that your only 14.
But even if he is okay with that, I wouldnt meet him
as people arent what they seem
He could be NOTHING like he has been making out to be.
Dont meet people in real that you have met on the internet.
But really its nothing to worry bout.
Just let him know your age
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): tell him the truth but do not worry sweetheart.age is only a number,young or old.
and if he decides to ditch you over your age,or your lie then he isnt worth it and doesnt care.if he decides to stick with it then hes a good man for not judging you over age,or leaving you for your lie.
remember being honest is always the best thing to do.
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reader, mediocreland +, writes (19 August 2009):
End it.
You can choose if you want to tell him the truth, or come up with an excuse, but you have to end it. A relationship will never work if it's built on lies.
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reader, Perspicacious  +, writes (19 August 2009):
Unfortunately you don't have an amazing relationship with him. He has an amazing relationship with a 17 year old that may be a little like you but isn't actually you!
I think you know you need to end this relationship but don't want to hurt him too much because of your mistake.
A simple way out would be to say you've met someone at school / college / work or whatever he thinks it is that you do and therefore don't feel it would be right to continue the relationship with him. A more honest way would be to email him telling him the truth and ending it that way.
Whichever way you chose the most important thing is to do it now, before things really do get out of hand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): Tell him, but dont meet him.
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reader, xAx +, writes (19 August 2009):
 I think that you should tell him how old you are. Also, i think he is too old for you. Boys that age are thinking complete different things to girls your age. Plus, he may also be older than he says he is. Tell him to get a webcam first before meeting. However, i think that you shouldn't date him, as i said, he is too old for you.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (19 August 2009):
 Sounds like a Paedo grooming his next victim. Do not go and meet him,because you maybe putting your life in danger.
I think parents should supervise their kids when they are on the computer, we hear too many horror stories of perverts enticing their victims to abuse them.
Get wise Honey and make sure you do not put yourself in danger.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (19 August 2009):
 I agree with Phil
If he cares about you at all he will forgive you for lying,, this guy could also be somehting other then he said, tell him he has to meet your parents and that youve told your parents about him coming over see if he will still want to come.
You have to beeee careful i kno your just 13 but you gotta think the net is not so safe just ask all the cans of tuna.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): Waite till u see him and explain in person u care for him and would like to be with him that u never ment to hurt him and u hope he still feels the same open and honest and goin to be the only way to try and fix anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): The fact is, he might not be 17 either. He could be 25 or even 40. First tell him your real age and then explain that he'll be expected to come to your house to meet your parents if he still wants to meet up.
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