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writes:My boyfriend and i had very rough sex the other day and it didnt hurt at all.. Basically he wanted me 2 scream ive only ever had sex with him, we've been together two years and been doing it for about a year and a half. Its upsetting him that it doesnt hurt me because he thinks hes not big he is very big and in build much bigger than me and he thinks ive slept with other people. I dont know what to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): Borderline-rough sex with a well-built guy who's much bigger than you...yes, I see the appeal. It didn't hurt? Good. Sex isn't meant to hurt. It's about pleasure, not pain.
But his attitude: it's upsetting him that he didn't hurt you?? And he wants you to scream - not in the nice sense presumably?? And where is all this suspicion about you sleeping with other men coming from, if you've been together for two years?
I'm sorry pet, but I really don't like the sound of this man
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): he wants sex to hurt instead of please you? ditch the immature jerk he is a pig.i mean how would he like it if you bite or smack his penis?not much thats for sure.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 August 2009):
 He's upset because he didn't hurt you? He's angry because you didn't scream? Honey, that is wrong on so many levels. A bunch of labels for him come to mind. Sadist. Abuser. Ignoramus. Immature. Dangerous.
Unless you have masochistic tendencies and wish to be physically brutalized during sex, I think you'd best move on. I worry for you that he has been your boyfriend for a while. Is there anything else you haven't shared with us?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): Your boyfriend is being abusive towards you. He wants to overpower you during sex and hurt you? And then he blames you for not screaming by not trusting you and accusing you of sleeping with other men? He is being controlling and manipulating you into taking the blame for his nasty behavior. Classic abuser. Get out, he isn't worth it.
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reader, jstdunno +, writes (19 August 2009):
He's VERY immature. Sex should never hurt and it doesn't mean you've slept with other people.
He's clearly insecure and he can't be a nice person if he wants to intentionally hurt his girlfriend.
Get him to learn about female anatomy for the sake of all women incase you two don't last. But if he continues treating you like this you need to leave him and find a man who won't try to physically hurt you just to boost his ego.
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