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Archived questions from: November, 2011 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

Can anyone advise on what we are doing wrong and how to get back on track?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4733 days ago

30 November 2011 (F) - Hi All, I am in dyer straits... I feel I have no where to turn to or have a shoulder to cry on... I have been with my husband since I am 17. We are together a total of 11 years and married for 3.5 years. He lost his mother to cancer at a young age ...

Spark is gone after 9 years with GF. Troubled relationship!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4739 days ago

30 November 2011 (M) - Dear Aunts, I have a big problem. I have been with my girlfriend for 9 years. When I met her I was a virgin. She was not. She even told me back when we first started dating that she didn't care if we were an item or not, she just wanted to have s...

She just isn't tight anymore. Should I say anything?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

30 November 2011 (M) - My wife of a decade years used to be extremely tight. I could barely push in to her. We have not had any kids and yet now when we have sex she feels very loose. There is almost no friction. It's hard to even get off sometimes because (pardon ...

Do I confront, support him, or walk away? My married lover confided he has started meeting men for sex.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

30 November 2011 (?) - I need some support! I have had a relationship with a married man for many many years we are very very good friends and occasionally we have sex too which is like the icing on the cake. His wife is sick with MS so please dont criticise me for see...

Not sure I want to officialyl end the marriage, but I definitely want to make it legal. Any advise?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4739 days ago

29 November 2011 (F) - I live in the state of New Hampshire and my husband and I have had a rocky relationship for quite sometime now. We have been married 14 and 1/2 yrs now. He doesn't seem to understand or want to believe that if things don't start to improve then the ...

Am I being cold-hearted?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4739 days ago

29 November 2011 (M) - I have been married for over ten years and have 2 kids. For the last two years I have been unhappy in the marriage. When I started thinking about divorce, I went to my wife and would tell her things that were bothering me and that i would like to ...

Should I leave my husband? He's accusing me of cheating because an ex co-worker randomly texted me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 November 2011 (F) - My husband and I have been having problems for a while now but our marriage is still surviving (Husband Money problems, Infertility issues from my husband side, problems with my In Laws , etc). Just to make things more complicated one night while ...

He's bi, I'm gay. Should I waste my time on this closet case?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

29 November 2011 (M) - Hello, I've been seeing this guy for about a week. He's 21, mature for his age, attractive, smart, great job, in school. He's pretty much out of my league, but every time we see each other we make-out, mess around, or just talk in his car. He used...

Wife says our courting period was "really short." What did she mean by that?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

28 November 2011 (M) - I have been married for 9 years. Recently, my wife and I were having a deep conversation about the early part of our relationship and she said that our courting period was "really short" implying "too short." We dated for about 8 months before I...

Please help me summon the courage to leave her

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4742 days ago

27 November 2011 (M) - Dear Experts, Ive finaly hit rock bottom in what is supposed to be called a relationship and i require some support to find the courage to leave, after 4 hard years with my soon to be ex partner i cant take anymore of her crap, november 2010 our...

My abusive husband threatens to label me a bad mother if I leave him

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

27 November 2011 (F) - Our daughter is four. the other night I was so ashamed when my little girl tried to stop my husband hitting me. She physically tried to push him away. He is always kind to her and he waits until she is asleep before he starts to be nastier to me. I...

Sexually Frustrated with no attention!!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4742 days ago

26 November 2011 (F) - I am seriously at a loss. . . I am 23 and my husband is 30. We used to make love ALOT. But as of this year it has gone down drastically to just once a week that barely lasts 15 minutes! I understand that he stresses about work, and he is an ...

Do married women ever regain their sex drives once it's lost?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4743 days ago

26 November 2011 (M) - Before we got married, my wife and I had been in an on and off relationshipo for quite a few years, and we had initially had sex frequently. She wanted it constantly, and we often had sex several times a day. having sex. Her interest in sex seemed ...

Feeling increasingly lonely in this marriage

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4743 days ago

26 November 2011 (F) - i feel like my husband has gone off me i feel loneley we hardly ever make love we usually have sex which lasts about 5 mins on a saturday its always the same position and he has taken speed i feel like he has changed so much and i cant cope any...

I love him. How do I cope with him? Or even move on from my married boy friend, who cheated on me, AGAIN?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4743 days ago

26 November 2011 (F) - hello aunts, i am still obsessed with my married boy friend who cheated on me 3 months ago. Since then i have been living in tears as i love him so much. I know he is bad, but i cannot make up my mind. He cheated on me even before and i forgave ...

How can I avoid an Arranged Marriage? I do not wish it to go ahead. What should be my actions and behaviour in this situation?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4743 days ago

26 November 2011 (F) - I am getting married as per my parents wish to a guy who is a liar, unattractive, no mannerisms, hypocrite, etc. Worst I get shivering spine when I think I will have to go to bed with him, for which he is eagerly waiting. He thinks himself very ove...

I've been a supportive husband to my EXTREMELY accident-prone wife-what are my options in this situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4742 days ago

25 November 2011 (M) - In 15 years of marriage,( second marriage for both of us ), my wife has been sick or injured more times than I can count. Car wrecks, falling down stairs, back injuries, broken legs, hips, collar bones, arms, wrists, and even a concusion that res...

My husband is always on xbox and I am ready to leave him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4744 days ago

25 November 2011 (F) - Dear Cupid I have a problem. My marriage is on the rocks it first started a couple of years ago when out teenage daughter was off the rails which resulted in her drinking getting in trouble with the police everyday she has calmed down now and move...

My wife stares at other men when we are out together. What to do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2729 days ago

25 November 2011 (M) - My wife is 10 years younger than me. I'm 38 and when we go out I find her staring at other men. I try to tell her it bothers me but she just denies it. Should i even bother going on in this relationship?...

No emotional bond in my marriage and my in laws hate me. Any advice?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

24 November 2011 (F) - i have been married for 3 yrs with 12 month old baby girl, my inlaws hates me and my husband is not standing for me,he's always on the side of his family whenever we traveled to the family house,the last time we traveled i was humiliated, rejected ...

Who is in the wrong here?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4745 days ago

24 November 2011 (F) - I have been with my husband for about 18 years. We have 2 children. i want to know if he is doing wrong or if i am doing wrong......we both live together in a small house, he always works(he works almost everyday but i only work once every 2 weeks ...

How can I boost my sex appeal??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4745 days ago

24 November 2011 (M) - hi i was wondering how to boost my sex appeal. I have been with my fiance for 8 years. And i feel she know longer fancys me. She has know interest in sex and doesnt masturbate. I work out with average build. Do most me the house work and all the ...

Marriage stereotypes....

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4746 days ago

23 November 2011 (F) - After having heard some comments last night, and searching the web a bit for answers, I have this question, and would like to hear different inputs. The topic is marriage, and it appears to me that there are certain stereotypes out there. A...

I "insulted" my husband about his performance in bed and I think I deeply wounded his ego. How do I fix it?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4739 days ago

22 November 2011 (F) - I "insulted" my husband and I think I deeply wounded his ego. He cant please me in bed and he has stopped trying to quite a while back. I told him that what he is doing isn't working. He told me he never had problems pleasing women in the past. I ...

Impotence without a medical cause?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4747 days ago

22 November 2011 (F) - I have a 49 years old husband. He is impotent at the last few years. He is ok medically. What could be wrong with him? Is it possible to be impotent without a cause?...

What was this - friends with a little bit of benefits?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4747 days ago

21 November 2011 (M) - I have a question about friends with benefits (FWB). My wife and I watched the movie 'Friends with Benefits' about 2 weeks ago. This past weekend we were at some of our friends home, and the topic of this movie came up. I just casually said, yep, ...

My partner's addiction is getting in the way of his providing for the family

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

21 November 2011 (F) - Hi! I need some good solid advicw! Me and my partner have been together nearly 7 years we have 2 young kids! Im not working at the minute as i wanna stay at home and look after my chuldren properly! My partner tried starting up his own cleaning ...

He took part in a golf tournament with another woman because I'm not good enough! Now we cant stop rowing about this, what should I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4744 days ago

21 November 2011 (F) - My husband and I both play golf. He has been a member for years and plays regularly, but I am a beginner and only get chance to play occasionally. At the weekend the club were holding an Open Doubles Competition which he wanted to play in. All ...

My vagina is so small it is stopping us from having sex! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

21 November 2011 (F) - I am married from 4 months, me and my hubby tried a lot to have sex, but it never happens :( I feel my vagina is too small and his penis is too large for me. I read some articles saying that vagina feels small until the hymen breaks. But how to ...

Starting over again. Running out of time to have a family. Will men be put off by my situation when I start dating?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

21 November 2011 (F) - I am 39 (40 next spring) and childless. I have just come out of a 10 year marriage which pretty much destroyed my sense of self worth / esteem. I am still a little raw but trying to move on. My hopes and dreams for a happy family life with a lovi...

He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 4370 days ago

21 November 2011 (F) - I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...

How can I divorce my husband when I'm all he has?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4746 days ago

21 November 2011 (F) - I've posted a few times now and had some really good replies. I'm now in a situation where I am so unhappy with my life/marriage that I am actively pursuing affairs. In the 7 years we have been together we have grown apart, we are so different now. ...

My wife is so crazily jealous about my ex that it is ruining our marriage!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (M) - My wife (Erin) is super jealous of my ex girlfriend (Maggie). Erin thinks Maggie is super hot, popular, totally unstable, etc. The thing is though, she's mediocre looking and is a total loser; while Erin is at least a 9/10 and the most attractive ...

Huge Crush on Husband's Friend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F) - I have a crush on my husband's best friend/ band mate, lets call him Tyler. I can't stop thinking about him. My feelings for him have even helped me to start writing music again. I don't want to feel this way about him. My friend says that I can't ...

His exes call him all the time, when I try to talk to him about it he calls me controlling.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4734 days ago

19 November 2011 (F) - I am 45 and recently married for the second time. My husband is a very friendly person but seems unable to draw the line at what is friendly and what is unacceptable behaviour. He has a lot of female friends and ex girlfriends and even though we are ...

He's separated, but still married and I really fancy him. He's also getting over breaking up with his Gf. Am I doing the right thing to go out with him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4732 days ago

18 November 2011 (?) - hey a friend of mine asked me out today, i've fancied him since i've known him but there are a few problems. 1 he's married, separated, but still married. 2 he's just had a messy break up with his girlfriend so he's near enough public en...

New baby, but an unsupportive abusive husband. No wonder I'm depressed. What should I do to cope with all this pressure?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4750 days ago

18 November 2011 (F) - I've been feeling very unhappy after I got married.. been feeling depressed..I had a baby 7 months ago; I have been staying at home watching the baby and my husband has been complaining about expenses. He 's been telling me I wish That he could be...

Sex is all about him - he does nothing for me and I feel unsatisfied

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

18 November 2011 (F) - What do you make of this? My husband and I have been together for 10 years.. married for 7. We have 2 children. OK this is going to get kinda graphic.... so we recently went 18 months without having sex. If he ever wants it, it completely ...

Could this be a sign of cheating?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (F) - I am constantly flirting with my husband. I send him sexy text messages, I shower him with hugs and kisses. He very rarely sends any messages back to me, and I don't get the same affection in return. Is it possible that he is cheating on me?...

My marriage isn't working, I'm involved with a married woman and I cant even divorce my wife and be with her, because she says her husband is abusive and will harm us both.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M) - I am 38 and I have been married for 19 years to a woman 2 years older than I am. My marriage has been difficult. We even separated for a year 10 years ago. Our sex life is poor and we have some really deep issues that we cannot compromise on. One ...

My wife loves a 65 year old man!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

16 November 2011 (M) - I'm 26, my wife's 26 also . we spend 3 years together Last night she said to me she had something to confess. I listened as she aadmitted to me she love some one a 65 -year-old man and that it was basically just she is crazy about him, and that 5h...

My wife's son is tearing us apart! What to do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4753 days ago

16 November 2011 (M) - i have caught my wife's son (21 year old) with large quanities of skunk weed 3 times now, the first about a week after we were married 2 years ago,it turns out that he has been reported to the police on 5 occations by 3 different people on our ...

Drifting apart after just 1 year!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

16 November 2011 (F) - I worry that my husabnd and I are drifting apart after only 1 year of marriage. After work he spends alot of time alone in the office he set up at our house. He frequently gets up at 5:00 AM to "pay bills" and goes into his office and surfs the web. ...

Wife emailing old boyfriend--should I be concerned?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4753 days ago

15 November 2011 (M) - My question involved my wife's contact with a boyfriend she had 25 years ago. Recently, my wife noticed that her past boyfriend was divorced. She admitted to sending him an email regarding his recent divorce. At the time she seemed excited b...

Just learned that I may not be my son's father

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

15 November 2011 (M) - I need to make a HUGE possibly life changing decision. My wife and I are married for almost 15 years. When we met she had just broken up with her ex-bf. We dated for about 6 months when she told me she was pregnant. I did the right thing, and we ...

How can I leave my husband without hurting my kids?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4744 days ago

14 November 2011 (F) - I have been married 27 years to my high school sweetheart and we've had our good and bad times in our relationship. I've tried to leave multiple times through the years for different reasons but have no family and always felt alone and that I couldn...

My wife laughs too much now. How can I tell her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

14 November 2011 (M) - My 4 years old wife smiles and laughs 24/7 for now reason. I was in a relationship with her for 16 months before we got married. She is 26, I am 28. I know she has got good sense of humor but it doesn't mean that one's month should be open all the ...

I want to have sex every night, he doesn't. How can I lower my sex drive?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4753 days ago

14 November 2011 (F) - I need some serious help, I have a very high sex drive, I want to have sex with my husband every night before bed, but he isn't the same way. Is there anyway I can lower my sex drive? I don't know what else to do, I've tried getting my husband more ...

On the verge of buying a house with a miserly man who only tolerates my children

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 4542 days ago

14 November 2011 (F) - Scared. My second marriage begun disasterously my second Husband refused to bond with my children lied cheated and left me when I lost my job with his baby and my two other children to fend for ourselves financially and otherwise. My Son who is 9 ...

My wife was sexually abused. No one else knows. Is it wrong to spill the beans?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

14 November 2011 (M) - As the subject says, my wife was sexually abused as a child. She was also raped as an adult - possibly more than once. She just confided this in me, although I have suspected as much for a long time now. As a result, she is an alcoholic. She...