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writes:My 4 years old wife smiles and laughs 24/7 for now reason. I was in a relationship with her for 16 months before we got married. She is 26, I am 28. I know she has got good sense of humor but it doesn't mean that one's month should be open all the time , right? I mean it makes one look silly . I don't wana hurt her but still would like to know that how should I make her understand control this instinct? Thanks in advance while anticipation you people's kind replies! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 November 2011):
 I am sure it's not 24/7 that she's laughing with her mouth open.
I am sorry her personality upsets you but she is who she is and I doubt she's really changed much since marriage.
I personally think you need to choose your battles carefully and fighting with a happy cheerful person to make them less than happy and cheerful seems to be a silly battle to fight...
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reader, Sarada +, writes (15 November 2011):
 Why on earth do you think she's silly ? Is it because she laughs so much? Hey man! I would just say love her for who she is instead of criticizing her. You are very lucky to have a cheerful wife like her. Everyone loves a laughing friend not a gloomy friend!keep this in mind always.You should enjoy her laughter and i suggest you laugh along with her, that would make her even more happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2011): its best to accept her the way she is.everyone has a personality ,which has grown over the years.for all you know,you're lucky the men who's wives always crib and whine or put up a grim face will be jealous of you.
you may find it silly that she laughs all the time ,but its time you man up and learn to love the woman more for it.thats her personal trait it would be really horrible of you to tell her to stop it,you would be putting down her confidence by doing so!right now she's a cheerful person who is not even aware she's laughing and smiling all the time.once you tell her,she's going to turn into a self conscious person who will be afraid to BE HERSELF!
my grandmother is a person who is always talking non stop,laughing and smiling ,mouth wide open and everyone loves her for that .even my grandfather used to love that..now he's no more but he's left behind a life partner who will laugh and smile and remember him in a good way every time she smiles.being mortals,all of us depart this world one day when we grow old ,if you go first..your wife should never feel hurt when she laughs/smiles remembering that you never liked that.and if she goes first trust me,thats exactly what you'll miss the most-your smiling happy wife.
what i'm trying to convey is that ITS HER...don't change it.changing something from its natural order always creates complications.
NEVER try to change and regulate people thinking that your making them perfect.nobody is perfect.please don't do that to your children also in future..telling them not to laugh or play.making people live YOUR WAY is very very very WRONG!NEVER make your wife of kids SELF CONSCIOUS by giving such suggestions.
LOOK IN THE MIRROR .see if there's something to fix in yourself.i have one for you already!stop being such a pessimist,if you had a grim wife ,i bet you would have forced her to smile..NEVER be EMBARRASSED by the personality of your loved ones.accept them as they are and be thankful that you have them!
look at the queries on this site and you'll know how hard it is to find and keep love..how hard it is to find cheerful people and faithful partners :)
don't make an easy life complicated
have a nice life buddy :) god bless
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 November 2011):
 You rather she cries 24/7? Cheer up man!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2011): It sounds to me like she is a really happy woman why would you want to change that? What do you expect her to be sad all the time. I think she sounds like a breath of fresh air and would be someone I would love to be around.
it makes me sad to think that you do not enjoy your wife being happy and you want to bring her down. You should be grateful she is not a spiteful, sad resentful crow. Enjoy her happiness while you can because from what your saying she will not be so happy in the very near future.
If I was your wife I would leave you for someone who wanted me to be happy
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (14 November 2011):
 It sounds like nervousness to me, or possibly even anger. It's the only way she knows to release that pent up energy without ruffling anyone's feathers.
Was she always like this or is it a fairly recent development?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): Maybe your wife smiles and laughs a lot because she's nervous. A lot of people laugh and smile to hide there nervousness. Just try nicely talking to her about it and ask her if she has noticed that she smiles all the time. And while talking about it maybe mention that even though you love her laugh and smile you were just wondering why its like that all the time. Goodluck this a tough situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): Control. Yep thats what I would say this is all about.
Its her nature to be full of laughter, happy, grateful. I just find it really hard to believe you are upset with this honest, good, wholesome nature she has been blessed with?
What you want a bitter, angry, resentful, wants to fight all the time, you can do no right type of wife that brow beats you?
I am finding it hard to believe this is a major complaint or an issue?
She's happy and you want to change that?
Yah thats not loving, supportive of you, as her husband and should be of her loving, good nature.
I say, accept her as she is and I guess being married to you, over time, you will kill the joy from her.
I feel for her, I do.
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