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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

Should I leave my husband after his affair? Or stay in eternal pain?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5642 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I need advice, should I leave my husband or stay with him and live in eternal pain after his affair, which happened last summer? I will never forget what he did to me and our daughter. I found a text from his tutor at work saying night babe i love ...

Wife, lover or solitude?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5650 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - married. long time. beautiful home, animals, no kids. love her, really really do, just never developed much sexual chemistry, when that was something really important for both of us before we got married. felt lonely, sad. years later - last year - ...

Married 18 years and feel stuck

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5651 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I have been married for 18 years, have 3 teenagers and I don't feel the spark for my husband anymore. I feel bad because he deserves so much more. He's hard working a good father and provider. Does not have any bad habits and gives me tons of ...

Leading a double life!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5653 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - hi i was married for 10 years when i embarked on a affair with a old flame i left my husband to live with this man who divorced his wife been with him 3 years but i have been leading a double life with my husband hence i have a boy of 8 i go out on ...

Should I leave my husband over his affair?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5652 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I need advice, should I leave my husband or stay with him and live in eternal pain after his affair, which happened last summer? I will never forget what he did to me and our daughter. I found a text from his tutor at work saying night babe i love ...

Does he love her more than me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5653 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I don't know if i should stay with my husband after his affair last summer. I still cannot get over it. He says he loves me and there is noone else for him. He has been really nice to me recently. However i live in eternel pain, as i honestly ...

I can't trust my husband

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5651 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I've recently accessed my husbands Facebook account. I'm stunned, hurt, betrayed and angry! I found letters to and from his ex-girlfriend he found on facebook talking about how much he's thought of her over the years and how much he thinks of her ...

My husband seems to be starting his mid-life crisis

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5652 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - My husband ,after years of neglect,started to change like crazy. He works out,looks at himself in the mirror, and very snappy with me. He wants to buy new shirts, and pants, he never ever wanted it before. He has a weird expression,on his face,a...

I want my wife to date others but stay with me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5652 days ago

30 May 2009 (M) - A litte history: I have been married for many years. The past few I have been not performing well in the bedroom to the point we do not have sex anymore. Her libido has increased but I just dont have the desire for sex. My doctor is trying to help ...

Husband is 'too tired' but watches porn

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5653 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - My husband is 59 and I am turning 40. Suddenly he has become too tired and has become undemonstrative with his affections this last month yet I found out he was watching porn while I was at work. I love him, we have been married for 17 years with ...

Can't forget his ex, even though we are married!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I'm 23 and my husband is 21. We have been together for a few years, and been married for about 7 months. At first, I was treated second best to his ex, who constantly tried to break us up and cause trouble between us... After almost calling o...

I'm tired of taking care of his mother and living this way

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - i am tired ,exhausted of problems. today i argued with my husband because of his mother, all this because she is diabetic and he always tells her to not eat things that can bother her but she never cares and always we have problems . alwa...

Husband's ex left him a broken man, how do I move on from this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Hello I really hope you guys can help. I have been with my husband for 2 years. But I am having trouble accepting his past. He was deeply in love with his ex girlfriend for several years and he was left a broken man when they broke up....

Will being "loose" down there affect married life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - i am 30 years unmarried female, i have never been into any relationship before, but i am doing masturbation from last 6 years due to which i think my vagina is loose, now i am getting married soon will my husband notice it, and will it effect on ...

My wife enjoyed sex with her ex but she isnt interested when it comes to me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - i wanna know how do i get my wife to want me sexually cause she never wants to have sex with me i mean we do it but very often she never wants it just me or even when i ask her she gets mad somtimes when she gives it to me she tells me to hurry up ...

Should I just give up? 3rd time for marriage counseling

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Should I keep trying to save my marriage? I am 38 yrs old and married for 3 yrs. My husbad and I are currently on our third session of marriage counseling but I feel that it is too late. I want a divorce. 3 months after we got mar...

I need to be myself again and get my spunk back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5655 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hi I am 28 years old my Husband is 36 years old I love him to death but i feel like I am not me around him I lose my Spunk. He had a previouse relationship where his ex cheated on him and we have been together for 10years and i have put up with him ...

My past infidelities are coming back to haunt me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5651 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I have been married to my husband for 19 years but we have been together for 24. 9 years ago I had an affair which my husband found out about and we put it behind us. However, I found out last week that he has been having an affair for the last 8 ...

Husband goes out clubbing without me every weekend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5641 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Last May my husband moved from the UK to Taiwan to get married with me. When he was in the UK, he probably went out to bars or clubs only once a year. Yet now he goes to a bar at least 4 evenings a week, and he wants to go out clubbing every ...

Chance and choice, how scenarios happen

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5656 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I wonder how much our life effected by chance,and how much on our choices? Right now I think chance is more dominant ,than choice. Like a bad marriage I live in, can determine your life for years, and if you have children ,its not easy to get out,...

Texting his co-worker 30-40 times a day but says nothing is going on

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My husband has been texting a female co-worker at work. Sometimes a multiple of 30 times a day.She is a lot younger than he is. I found out. He swears nothing is going on. Do I believe him, or am I being stupid to think that nothing is going...

I just feel everything has been left to me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I've been married nearly 25 years. We met when I was very young and I loved him from the first time I saw him. We've had some really bad times. We have a disabled son, we've lost a daughter and a grand-daughter, who my daughter had when she was 16. ...

Useless husband doesn't show any appreciation to me

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5541 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Hello Everyone, I do everything for my husband. I get up before him to make him breakfast, I make sure the house is tidy I fold his laundry, I run him baths, I shave him sometimes as he finds it tedious. As well as household duties I also wr...

On line fantasy may become a reality.... But I am married!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I have been married for five years and we have a child. I recently "ran into" my first love (middle school/highschool) on the internet. We started swapping messages and then we started texting. It started as casual chit chat, then a little flirty, ...

My husband doesn't want sex anymore!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5656 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - How can I get my husband sexual attention? He never wants sex. Should I keep trying to turn him on,or it just wasted time? What is the best thing to do,just dropp it,or keep innitiating? I feel,it is very strange, he wanted it before. What is going...

My life is in ruins, how could another human being do this to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5656 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - i had been happily married for 12 years to a beautiful woman who i loved dearly, something i always thought was mutual. we had about 5 years together before we both decided to start a family, and were overjoyed when our first child was born in ...

How will our sex life ever get better if he wont stop masturbating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5656 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My question is would you stay married to a man who lies and sneaks around behind your back. We have been married for 31 years, and 2 years ago I discovered he was watching porn and masturbating, we had no sex life, no wonder, anyway he promised to ...

I cant let go of my younger lover

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5652 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - How do I let go of my lover? I am in an unhappy marriage. I have asked my husband to leave so many times but he refuses to because according to him, he wants our family to be complete. We have one son.We talk only when absolutely necessary, mo...

I don't trust my own judgement anymore.....should I leave him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Don't know what to do, I have been married for 17 yrs. 4 yrs ago my son nearly passed away with head injury he had lots of surgery has recovered thankfully.That same year my husband started a new job and started acting wierd not being a very goo...

Fell out of love with my wife, want to move on with a new love

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4473 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Ive been married for 6 years with a 3 year old. I feel that Im not in love with my wife anymore, although she is a great mother and wife. Shes a stay at home mom. We just went in different directions. Life goals, humor, hobbies, etc. Im a ...

Is he getting ready to leave me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Is there any signs, when your husband is thinking of leaving you? I have a feeling ,that something is going on in my husband head, but he wouldn't tell me what it is. He would be doing it in secret ,just leave a note, as he is not the kind of guy,...

Rumors! But am I the father or is he?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Here's the deal. My wife is pregnant. We've been together for a year, and for the most part, it's been a good year. Like most people, she has her share of history, and I have mine. While this may sound like some of that, it's really not, at least I ...

Married to the Mob

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I was married to a man whom I felt I no longer loved, so I divorced him and a couple years later, I met whom I felt was my dream lover. He swept me off my feet for 3 years we dated then finally I agreed to marry him, well almost immediately he ...

I have never loved my husband, and although he tries really hard, I never will. Should I divorce him?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2476 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Hi. i'm 30 years old. I've been with my husband since I was 20. When I met him I was fresh out of a relationship and wasn't really looking to get into anything new. However I met him and he was different than anyone I had ever dated..sweet, ...

Is our marriage over? How do I know when to call it quits?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Shoud I trust my intuition,or I shouldn't? My intuition says, my marriage is over,and i I let myself get even lower in my depression what the situation causes, I will not even going to be able, to get on wit my life. It is very scarry for me, a...

He's far away and on dating websites as single... what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I have been married to a great guy for two years. He is in the military and is overseas right now.I have a trust issue, and I am very concerned about several things;He is addicted to pornsites,has posted on singles sites as available,has sexual ...

Why doesn't he take pictures of me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4133 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Does anyone have a spouse or lover who will not photograph them? My husband has never took my picture unless I mention it to him. I know he took pictures of girlfriends he had before me because I've seen them. He still has them. Yet, unless I ...

Should I change for my old fashioned husband or dare to push for a job of my own?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - My husband believes that the women should raise children. We were both unemployed and I was expected to do all the housework and make dinner and never talk back to him. He would not bathe our daughter or change any of her diapers or feed her or ...

My alcoholic husband is not the same man I married and I'm not sure if I love him anymore

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5471 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I have been married for 2 1/2 years to an alcoholic. He has tried to get sober in the past and always goes back to drinking. I have even given him the altimatum and left for 3 weeks until he stopped drinking, but he only stopped until I came home. ...

He wants to leave if I don't do what he wants....please help

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - we got married 7 months ago.we meet every 3 months,its long distance marriage,cos im waiting for spouse visa. any how,before i meet him i was in relationship and he did read the emails i had with my ex which i sent and received before i met with my ...

Does one mistake mean the end of everything?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I have just found out my husband of six years cheated on me with his cousin a year into our marriage.How I found this out we were at a wedding and his cousin [3rd]down the line was there .She told me in her drunken state that my husband had a fling ...

I found condoms in my husband's pockets and he says they were for a friend!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I Found 6 condoms in my husbands pockets and he said his friend asked him to bring it. I didn't believe him, and he was crying. could he be telling the truth?...

Should I trust him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5658 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Dear cupid One of my relative told me that my hubby was riding a lady with him, after knowing this i asked him but first he lied but after making cross question he said yes, but that was only coincident, she is just a friend. After going thro...

Is there any hope for this marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Dear all i need your advice please 15 months have past since i found out about what my h/b had been up to in the 21 years of marriage(cheating,lying,)he has told me some details of the things he has done and i cant get over it.Things are ok for a...

I know I completely broke his heart, how do I put it back together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - My husband and I were together for 12 years, an have been apart for almost two. I miss him terribly, and sometimes wonder why. Sometimes I think he still has feelings for me, by things he does. In the last year of our relationship I was on a waiting ...

Husband drunk and made out in the hot tub with mother of my daughter's friend!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - OK, I have been married for over 10 yrs now and we have been very happy. We have 2 kids - the oldest is 12. Kast weekend we had a party and my husband drank a lot of beer that night. My daughter had been at a friends house, and the mother "...

Still a virgin after 11 months of marriage, how do I overcome the pain of intercourse?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - i am married for 11 months and been with husband for 6 yrs. still a virgin what can i do to overcome pain...

He's telling other women that he wants to leave me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5658 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - I have a problem within the last month my husband has been talking to two other females just texting they both swear its nothing but he has told them he is unhappy with me, and that he wants to leave me but he loves me. Well the females tellhim ...

Women who have left their husbands..how did you finally make the choice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5658 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - I know,it is a very hard question.. But I wonder, how those, who decided to leave their husband were making their choice? When is it really enough, even if it is, painful, and risky? And very unsure ,how it will be after.. Cheating ? Abuse ? What i...

I beat up my wife now she's asked for a divorce..I want her back!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5658 days ago

25 May 2009 (M) - i beat up my wife and was arrested she has now gone back to her parents with our 2 children i am going to seak help tomorrow at the doctors for anger managment but how can i win her back as she has asked for a divorce? i love her oh so much and...