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writes:i am married for 11 months and been with husband for 6 yrs. still a virgin what can i do to overcome pain
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): I had sex for the first time about a month ago, and had done about 5 times since. The first 3 times the pain was unbearable i thought i would have to tell him to stop, infact i did one time. But the times i decided to just try, the pain went away after he'd gotten fully inside me it was just a matter of getting it in it was really painfull. However now its not painfull at all, so i think if you just try to bear the pain a few times, it will be fine after a while. Its just having the courage to put up with the pain at first. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much! i love my husband so much. we do other things but he never pressures me. we both want kids and i think now more than ever i really need help.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 As the others have posted, you require some medical investigations. It maybe something really simple that can be corrected without too many problems. An ultrasound would identify if there are any structural abnormalities or medical conditions such as vaginitis or ovarian cysts that might explain your pain. Failing that, you can receive a special form of counselling for dealing with the psychological issues surrounding some cases of pain - it is very effective. This maybe a simple matter of communication between you and your husband about arousal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Wow.. he must really love you.
It can hurt if you're very tight, but after a while of doing it more and more frequently, the pain should subside into pleasure.
There's not much info here.. but yeah, i suppose what they say, go see a doctor. If you're a virgin though, then ii'm guessing you haven't really given it much of a try. You may just not handle pain well so can't get past those first few pushes. I'm not sure.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 You need to go to a doctor to get this checked out.
Although no one is qualified to give medical advice in the forum, you definitely need to see a doctor, I have read about possible causes of pain during intercourse. One woman had a similar problem and was the culprit turned out to be cystitis, but she got treatment which alleviated her symptoms. Another possibility is that your hymen is extremely tough. Have you attempted intercourse but found out that it just wouldn't break? That's always a possibility.
Get this checked out! I'm sure they can easily remedy this.
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