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writes:I'm 23 and my husband is 21. We have been together for a few years, and been married for about 7 months.At first, I was treated second best to his ex, who constantly tried to break us up and cause trouble between us... After almost calling off our wedding becuase of her, he promised thats the end of her.Now, I find out he is looking her up again, last time he searched for her for closure on their relationship, which finished years ago... thats what almost cancelled our wedding... today i find out he is looking her up.I confronted him, he said he was curious. I asked if he thought about how it would affect me and the relationship, he said that he thought about it, but still looked her up.We have been trying to start a family and get our own place, we have been married 7 months.What should I do? Should I forgive him again? How do I know that this time he is telling the truth that he will cut her out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): tricky - this could be many points of view.
i am curious about my exs and love to thin they have gone on to better things - it does not mean i want to shag them. it just means that we shared part of our life and want to see how it goes on. it shouldn't be a big deal in less innocent and it should fade. generally there is a reason they are ex and normally it has to stay like that.
but he should also respect that you have a insecurity about it and be upfront an honest. if you handle it well, he will. so i think just say "ok, i am not going to lie it smarts a little, but if you must - go do. i know there is nothing in it."
i think you need to be a little less worried - he has chosen you - yes you - over ALL the other women in the world, yes that's all of them. you win :)
Star.x.
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