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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been married for five years and we have a child. I recently "ran into" my first love (middle school/highschool) on the internet. We started swapping messages and then we started texting. It started as casual chit chat, then a little flirty, and then it got a little racier. Now there are pictures, fantasies, and texts all the time. I look forward to his morning message and I think about actually being with him all the time. Now, he has an opportunity to be in my area soon and wants to meet. Part of me wants to meet him and just see him, and part of me wants to meet him and put my hands all over him. However, I'm married! And so is he! I don't know if this is excitement of unrequited love or what. I want to meet him. What would you do?
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reader, whitemoor5  +, writes (29 May 2009):
 Don't go there.
Be friends with him if you have to, keep the ties if you think you can, but avoid overstepping the mark into anything sexual.
We ALL have sexual attractions for individuals other than our partner - most of us don't act on them.
You could regret this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): what are you going to do yourself. you have been having an emotional affair with this man and i hope you are also not destroying his present relatioship (although you don't mention any). all i want to say is start to say goodbye to your hb and marriage. you will mess up and have only yourself to blame. you know this is out of hand, don't you
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): Look ahead a couple years.. what do you see happening after you cheat on your husband and he cheats on his wife and your poor children are stuck in the middle.
Think about someone besides yourself and stop while you're ahead.
I don't recall the preacher man saying anything like
"Do you promise to have and to hold this man for the next five years until you find your ex online, cheat on him, and ruin everything?" when i got married.
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reader, Lani702 +, writes (27 May 2009):
 Kellyxxx hit the nail on the head. STAY AWAY FROM HIM. You shouldn't have even started the flirting and texting but its not too late. STOP IT NOW. END IT NOW. No more communication. Period. You will lose whatever self-respect you now hold. Don't be an adulterer. And stop thinking about it and fantasizing about it. Thought leads to action. Put it out of your mind and BE GRATEFUL you caught yourself in time. The fact that you even bothered to post the question means that you don't want to do it. If you wanted to, you would have kept it to yourself and just done it. But you didn't. And we're here to back you up and say, THANK GOODNESS you caught yourself in time.
Don't do it. You will regret it for the rest of your life. Is being with him for one hour worth your marriage and being able to look your child in the eye?
Good luck and God Bless
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (27 May 2009):
 I would respect my partner and my child and do the right thing and not meet up with him!!! You are married, does that not mean anything? You have a child and you are supposed to be a role model for them, this is not acceptable at all.so contact this person and explain your situation and cut ties, x
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