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writes:i wanna know how do i get my wife to want me sexually cause she never wants to have sex with me i mean we do it but very often she never wants it just me or even when i ask her she gets mad somtimes when she gives it to me she tells me to hurry up and get it over with we have had some problems in the past when she was with some other guy she was freaky and told me that she craved it with another man and that buggs me alot cause then that means that she enjoyed it with another man what should i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): why is she resenting you so much. what has been happening in your lives. i think she is selfish, sex should be an intergral part of a married couple's lives. if she is not giving it to you, then she may just be giving it to someone else.
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reader, ALONSO80  +, writes (29 May 2009):
you're in a tough spot. why would u stay with someone who craves someone else's sex? marriage should be about 3 main things. Communication, Trust and Sex. If one of those fails then the marriage is terminally ill.
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reader, rocknroll +, writes (29 May 2009):
I hate to say it, but I think you are wasting your time.
As a man, I know how important having sex with your wife is, and if she will participate only grudgingly, then this will not be exciting for yourself either, because you will feel rejected and unwanted.
Now this could be a game typically played out where her childish, immaturity comes out because she wants lavished in gifts and/or attention. You've known her long enough, is this a possibility? Sex is the number one tool a woman can use against a man. You may want to call her bluff and tell her if she doesn't love you, then the two of you should break up, separate, in which she moves out (because she is the non work this out partner), or you divorce.
You shouldn't have to put up with this immaturity of your wife, and if she persists, then in order to save your sanity, you need to end the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): hello,
Okay, so you know your wife has had sex before and has enjoyed the experience. This is good.
The next step for you would be to talk to her. Ask her what she likes in bed, what turns her on and what she does not like. Approach this subject careful. Do not shout at her, or bring up her ex or accuse her of liking sex with other men and not you. Be calm. Be gentle in learning these things about her as it is a delicate matter.
When you have an idea of what she is into then start to romance her. Take her out to places she likes, shower her with attention and if you have the money small gifts too. Nothing big just make her feel special and wanted.
Now- this is the next step. After a few dates like this, and making her feel special kiss her and hold her hand but do no try to initiate sex. ALthough this might sound like a mind game, this actually works. Not making any advances will make her wonder why you are not trying to have sex with her. After a while, make out with her and stop beofre things gets too involved. then move slowly to oral etc but do not continue onto full sex.
After a few weeks like this (yes it seem like a long time, but its better than no sex for years!) try to initiate and you will see that she will respond.
I hope all works out well for you.
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reader, keepitreal03  +, writes (29 May 2009):
Ask her! She can tell u what she likes and what u don't do. Be ready to handle what she says don't get upset, and have sex and let her guide u feel her out! Try and find her hott spots please her!!! U wanna get her going! That's what we love! And maybe u don't do that. But she is the one who has every answer just say honey what can I do to please u. To do everything u want and bed. Tell her to be honest!!!!!
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