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writes:Shoud I trust my intuition,or I shouldn't?My intuition says, my marriage is over,and i I let myself get even lower in my depression what the situation causes, I will not even going to be able, to get on wit my life.It is very scarry for me, after such a long time together, with children.. But he won't touch me, tell me anything nice, doing anything together with me.I was waiting for him to turn around, but he is not changing. I wished to be in my marriage forever,but I can't ,if it stays like that. As it makes me sick. But I'm so scared of the future, to be alone, and financial loss too. I know it must sound very general, but is there any good advice, how can I make up my mind,to decide on such huge issue?I know, I might regret it later, and I don't have a lots of hope, for some big love or anything ,it is just my dignity I guess.I think my husband feels the same, he just can't say it. Very unhappy place to be. Reply to this Question
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reader, MistressK +, writes (26 May 2009):
Hi there.Your situation sounds really tough. It might be worth talking things through with a counsellor. If your husband would go too, that would be great. If not, you could work things out a bit for yourself, get some confidence and make your decision knowing that you gave it everything you had. Maybe if you put a time limit on it - say, 3 months, where you really look after yourself, get some help and then just decide. I hope you succeed with whatever you decide. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): You are in a scary place. It's understandable.
But I know from experience that being in a bad marriage is a lot lonelier than actually being on my own!
For me, I had to get to the point where I just couldn't take another minute of how I was living. I had lots of fears of the unknown, but had to take a leap of faith and believe I could do it. Knowing that anything was better than the pain I was living with, I took the risk! It has been two years now, and I don't regret it for a second.
Sometimes I feel lonely, but I know I am in a much better place than I was with him. I still feel sad sometimes that it couldn't have been different, but at have to accept that it all happened the way it was supposed to and I am a better person today! The empowerment I felt when I walked away from him was overwhelming! It was liberating!
I hope you can find the courage to make a decision that you are comfortable with!
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