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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi!!My bf and I have had a lot of problems in the course of our relationship. He is 22 and I´m 20. We´ve been together for two years, and he has become overly controlling, he tries to control every second of my time, gets angry when I wear something that according to him is revealing (for example, when a part of my back is visible) , and we´ve even had arguments because he doesn't want me having male acquaintances, the only males I´m "allowed" to talk to are his friends. Obviously this has costed me many of my friends (and they weren't many to begin with), both males and females. He also expects way too much from me in our discussions, he gets disappointed when i don't say exactly the words he wants to hear and then he calls me a bad girlfriend because of this. I´m tired of this, I don´t like being in a relationship when I´m constantly told how terrible I am as a person and as a girlfriend, how I´m always guilty for everything that goes wrong in our relationship. I do love him very much, but leaving that fact aside for just one second, a part of me wants to break up with him and finally get a feeling of freedom and peace, but another part of me feels like breaking up with him would be failing myself by not fighting to become a better person (a person that can stand for her own opinions in a relationship, a person capable of reasoning with others and capable of taking decisions without it having to be his way or my way). I don't know what to do, should I break up with him? or should I keep trying to make this relationship work? Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 January 2013):
 I think you stand up for yourself by leaving him and not waiting for him to adapt to this change, as it is apparent that he can't handle a woman with a free will, and with different opinions.
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