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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2013): Call him. It could turn out he's realised you're his soul mate and wants to make it up to you. This happened to me once and I've now been with my guy for over 40 happy years. Or maybe he has gonorrhoea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013): Maybe it was a drunken booty call attempt... ignore it. If it's extremely important, he will call again...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): Maybe it was by mistake i would leave it because even if it wasn't
If he really wants to get hold of you then he would try again i woukld leave it.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 If he's trying to repay the loan(maybe) then he'll call back or mail it to you. I'm guessing you have valid reasons for no wanting to actually talk to him or you would not be asking for advice.
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reader, _Sandra_  +, writes (26 January 2013):
Sure, wait for another call. His call might have made accidentally, if he wants something of you he'll call again. It's not your problem.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 I would take the opportunity to call him back, and ask: "Hi, how have you been? Have you been accumulating some money... and you're calling now to get my address so that you can mail me a check to re-pay me?"
THAT'S the ONLY phone conversation that you and he should have....
P.S. Been there/done that.... and I'm STILL waiting for that girl from Baltimore to call me and arrange to return my Kirk Stieff silverware set to me.....
Good luck (I haven't had any....)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 Dont call him back. Let him get back to you himself if he really has any work.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 Whenever people I don't like contact me, I would expect the subject matter to be money or other things important. Missing you, getting your attention do not count as important. If there is no subject matter you do not contact him back. He could have just sent you the money by mail and that's it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 January 2013):
 it's possible he's made amends in his life and wants to pay you back what he owes you.
4 years is a bit of time and you guys are young so it's possible he's grown and matured.
I'd return the call and see what's up and go from there.
If he wants something you are not interested in you just say that.
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reader, R1  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 If he didnt leave a message it's possible he accidentally rang you so probably best not to ring him. If he rings again answer and see if he wants to give you your money back, I doubt it though!
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 yes. Call and check what he wanted to say. Nothing more
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