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writes:I'm not really the type of girl that guys like. Nor do guys show any interest, in me which is fine. I do get lonely at times despite having friends and an otherwise happy or successful(to me at least) life. I keep telling myself that it will happen one day but I know it very well may never happen. I may end up being a loner for the rest of my life, which is ok but it's something I'm kind of having a problem getting through my head.Your advice, please? Reply to this Question
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reader, Gwenabee  +, writes (29 January 2013):
 Oh sweetie, I know this problem so well. it takes me back. I honestly thought I would die alone a few years ago. Truly. I never, EVER thought anyone would love me. I was such a loner through school, didn't really have any friends, a boyfriend was some sort of magical myth that only happened in other people's lives! But the truth is, you will find someone. Whether it be 20 days or 20 years from now. I was lucky that I found someone at 16, and we've been together for four years now. No matter how bleak things seem right now, there is SOMEONE out there for you.Oh, and people tend to have the amazing ability to notice the amazing things right in front of them. So if people you want to notice you aren't noticing you? That's their loss, and your incredible gain because you're not wasting your valuable time with the right one for you. They're out there somewhere, just be open to the idea that they'll show up when the time is right.Hope this helps you my dear. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not throwing a pity party. I knew asking for advice would be pointless.
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reader, AProblemShared +, writes (26 January 2013):
 Forgive me if I'm wrong but I think the problem is in your first sentence darling. What type of girl do you think guys like? If you didn't know already guys like all different types of girls. Large, small, shy, outgoing.. All are assets to a range of different guys. I wasn't particularly a believer in love or that there's someone out there for everyone, yet everyday I'm surprised at loving relationships that form between couples you wouldn't expect. Let love come looking for you and live your life everyday in the moment. I wish you well and really hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): I had drop dead gorgeous friends in college, one of them was very pretty and yet guys did not show interest in her, at least not the same guys she fancied, the problem was she didn't show interest in them either, she was all the while waiting for them to make the first move.As she was quite pretty some guys thought they were out of her league. You have to show you're interested too! and please I've heard of people who had never dated until their early twenties and are now happy in a relationship, and some people who started dating at 15 and are now in their 40's and single or lonely as you put it .
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reader, R1 +, writes (26 January 2013):
 You will meet someone, there are so many different people out there. Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places. If you feel different from the people around you why not seek out people with similar interests to yourself. The Internet is a great way to access activities, clubs, groups etc with every interest possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): I know it doesn't help much, but one day you will have a grandchild come to you and ask if they are gonna be a loner for ever!! My wife once had similar thoughts, although worse than you, she had been used and abused by many guys, and was in nun training when I met her! Her life changed and she never looked back. You are young and whatever life brings it is undoubtedly better if you can feel in control. Work on you and be the person you want to be and then one day,who knows when, someone will fall in love with that person. Try not to hide under a stone because you will have to wait longer for a stone turner to come along!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): Don't get all worried over things like that! I am around your age and I know a lot of people I went to school and college with that have never had relationships either. It isn't as uncommon as you probably think. Just don't worry about it because you will find someone and it will probably come when you are least expecting it too. Things have a way of happening like that.
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