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writes:I am just very confused right now. I met a guy few months ago who is a bit older than I am and he seemed to be really interested to me.Initially, I was not into him but after going out with him and I got to know him a bit, I started to like him. After few more months, I realized that my feelings for him is getting stronger. He always travel due to his work and we only see each other 2 to 3 times in a month and at times once a month. The worst was just recently where it took almost 2 months for us to see each other again. I understand that he is a busy person because of his work travelling here and there. We usually communicate via email but its not like everyday or every week.Our communication is just like the normal questions you ask to a friend-(hello, how are you?). He is usually quiet every time we meet but we do talk. We (literally) sleep together but I did not go to the extreme (sex) even if he wanted to which made him confused. I told him that sex is not a measure of how I feel towards him. I talked to him about how I feel, what I want and he said he wanted the same thing although he could not be present all the time because he is mostly out of the country. I am only a normal human being who wants someone to be there even if not physically all the time. I just want him to be in my life and wanted to know more news about him so I am trying to reach out to him. I ask what makes him busy, what he does, how was his day and greeting him without expecting reply. However, I feel like he is giving me a cold treatment (just replying me without endearments.he did it before) and seemed to be distant now. I do not know but it is how I feel right now. He seems not to care.Can anybody enlighten me? Why is he behaving like this? Does it mean he is losing interest, leading me on, playing on my feelings? Or is he confused as well?I just want some of your answers and point of views. It might really hurt me but I'd rather be hurt by the truth rather than to go on wondering. Please HELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for replying. I think we were okay when we last saw each other. We talked and we were able to share our own stories. Now that we are not physically seeing each other, our communication gets limited. Am I just the one putting issue into this? It makes me wonder what kind of relationship we have. Maybe this is what they call casual? It hurts to know if it really is because I know this is not what I want. I hope he will let me know what he really wants and spare me for further agony.
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reader, _Sandra_  +, writes (26 January 2013):
Well, mb he feels a little bit boring with such conversations like hi how are you, mb he needs smth more emotional and he cant get everything from your relationship that he'd actually love to experience
Its not your fault at all, LDR tires out and its obvious in your case. There's no "chemistry".
"I am only a normal human being who wants someone to be there even if not physically all the time. I just want him to be in my life and wanted to know more news about him so I am trying to reach out to him."
The main case is that YOU want to, YOU the one who tries. He seems to be more passive. I guess he's not the one who knows what building up a good base of a relationship really is.
Best wishes,
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