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41-50,
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writes:I met this guy online around 6 months ago, we are both mature people so I think we both knew what we were doing when we got into this LDR. I let him know about my health which is a severe neurologic condition from day one. He says he loves and adores me, that my health won't stop him from wanting me in his life. We were chatting daily since we got romantically involved but for the past month, although he still says the same things, he doesn't come online as often. I'm feelling like I'm the last option on his list, he will go first for friends, events, family then very late at night he comes to me, even at weekends when he is not working. I don't mind if he goes out to stay with other people but I need him too. Once he knows I have this condition and that I can't do much like going out and doing things healthy people can do, it is mostly like I'll be behind the computer when he is back. It also happens sometimes like once a week he doesn't appear at all then he explains why but doesn't actually say he is sorry for making me wait. Apart from that, our relationship is really good when we are together/talking.I know he is busy and has a life but when he behaves like thay I get so frustrated it even worsen my health condition. I feel neglected and I'm not sure if I have the right to feel this way if I'm being selfish but I need attention and reassurance from him not just in words but in actions too as he used to do just by coming to check on me daily. I don't know what to do, how to talk to him about it or if it is possible that he is taking me for granted and if I should worry because he is so adorable and shows true love when he comes to me. Advice needed please :( Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 September 2012):
 Have you two met in real life?
if not why not?
if after 6 months you feel neglected it's not a good sign.
if you feel you can't talk to him about it or you talk to him and he is not responsive to your needs, that too is not a good sign...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (29 September 2012):
 The next time he comes to visit you, sit him down and explain that you need a little more of his time and attention and that it will make you feel a little more secure in your relationship with him. It's hard to keep a LDR going when you don't see eachother as often as you would like, so those times when you are together need to be extra special. I also think it's important to talk face to face so you can judge his reaction, that way, you are more likely to pick up if he is trying to withdraw from the relationship.
He obviosly feel a lot for you, so I am sure he won't mind you asking for a little more, so you can build your relationship and make it stronger and...who knows...even move closer to him, or he to you, in the future.
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