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*allenLover
writes:I hope this doesn't come out too long, i still feel like i left things out. If there's mistakes sorry this was written on my phone! So last year this guy had a crush on me. He came up to my table one day saying that there were hot girls here and later on he asked me my name. I didn't think he liked me until his best friend told me "he thinks you're *very* attractive. He was really talkative and persistent and I really liked him but I didn't talk too much. Midway through when we were talking he got a girlfriend. I guess he just kinda gave up on me/thought I wasn't interested. During the summer he texted me me asking about homework, I helped him a lot and I asked him if he could drive me on the first day. He did but the entire first week of school he was mad at me. He didn't talk to me and every time we passed in the hall his smile immediately turned into a scowl/straight face. I texted him later that week asking if he was mad at me. He said no that he was just serious from all the work. Well, after I made up with his best friend (we were fighting because he was talking about me behind my back), he started to act a bit looser. However I find out in one of the classes we have together that he's now talking to freshman girls (we're juniors.) I want to be more talkative and less shy around him. The way I'm acting now I think he believes I rejected him or just plain don't like him. I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing that I'm ruining my own chance of being with him. I've seen the girl he likes at lunch and she's really pretty. I don't know how to just start talking to him without fear of doing the wrong thing. I hope its not too late!
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reader, FallenLover +, writes (30 September 2012):
FallenLover is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks! I was afraid I wouldn't get any replies but your advice was very kind and reasonable. Now I just need to start up a conversation without making a fool of myself lol.. I was going to read a writing prompt we had in English class that had a quote of " Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth - Oscar Wilde" My response was about someone not expressing true feelings for fear of what the other will think, like they'll stay quiet which is probably worse than telling the person how they feel, bit if they were to be in a situation where the person didn't know it was them then they'd express their feelings. (Kind of like A Cinderella Story, cheesy I know lol) Yeah, it was a bit more obvious of me explaining why I was so shy indirectly but I think it might be coming on strong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2012): If you really like him, and he doesn't realize, don't just put it out there. You have to give him a little time before you go there. When you'rehaving a nice, private conversation with him, ask him if he ever liked you, if he says yes, just be spontaneous and kiss him on the cheek or something (if he's not with the other girl). And if he really likes this girl, don't go straight of the fact that she's younger than him, just say, "Wouldn't you rather date someone more mature less hormonal, and knows you better?". I'm a guy, and every teenage guy has that freind he likes, but noone knows, so maybe to him you're that freind.
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