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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have this best friend and I am head over heels in love with him. He makes me so happy and i just want to be with him. He was upset today and I asked him why. I finally got through to him and he told me. He said that he has been in this long distance relationship and today she broke up with him because it was too hard to make it work. And as he's telling me this he also says how much he loves her and doesn't see himself with anyone but her. Meanwhile I thought he liked me back and I was really happy. This made me really upset, but I did give him a honest opinion. I told him that He's an amazing guy and anyone that doesn't want to be with him is not worth it. I told him that if thats what she wants then he needs to let go and move on. Then he said how he's going to try to call her and talk to her. But meanwhile I am so upset because I love this kid so much.... I don't know what to do :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2012): I think you need to take a step back and one deep breath. And figure out whether you can support him as a friend should, he needs a shoulder to cry on and someone to talk too without them becoming to negative or subjective. In that without knowing you tell him to let her go, move on, as these are your feelings not his.
You need to think abut whether you can provide this without it tearing you up inside.. As it is never nice to feel that the feelings you have are not reciprocated from the other person. He likes you but at this minute he doesn't see you as gf . If you do back of you probably have to tell him why, and you never know.
He may find that he misses you more than a girl he met a few times..
Take care sweetie, chin up.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (29 September 2012):
 Oh poor you! I don't think it is the best time to tell him though because his heart is elsewhere. From what you say even if they break up it is still going to take sometime for him to get over her. I am just surprised though that he didn't mention her to you before now since you are literally best friends. At least you would have known where you stood in his life but instead there you were thinking that your friendship could be something more.
Maybe you could give yourself some time-out from this friendship? Give yourself time to sort your feelings.
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