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writes:My husband and I have had alot of issues that we just cant seem to get over. 3 months ago I told him I was unhappy and didnt love him anymore and didnt want to be with him. we have 2 children together and he said to me if I left he would take the kids. I told him, id stay, but for me, its over. About 2 or so weeks ago, i had unprotected sex with another man and now im pregnant. I kno its not my husbands baby as he had a vasectomy. how do i go about telling him that I am pregnant with another man's baby??
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2012): Abortion is an option if you would like to consider it. If it was 2 weeks ago it will be easy to do it. It seems that this marriage doesn’t work it’s better to get divorce before you put yourself in another mess. You are an adult you should know better by now that unprotected sex will put you at risk for STD and unwanted pregnancy. So you know what to do next time!
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reader, person12345  +, writes (29 September 2012):
 You should have gone to a lawyer before doing this. Before your husband has little-no leverage to take your children, but because you stayed and then had an affair, he does. You need to go to a lawyer before doing anything to be certain what the best course of action is.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 September 2012):
 Seriously?
I understand that your marriage feels over for you, but WHY the unprotected sex?
I agree with the Aunts/Uncles who says go for the divorce. Staying with a man because he threatens to take your kids is not fair on anyone. How do you think the baby will be treated by your husband? (if you choose to have it)
What a mess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2012): The 'sperm donor' as you put it, is around. he wasnt a one night thing, he wants to be involved with baby, but not sure if he wants to be in a relationship, as I have 4 other children.he is currently sleeping with other women, which i told him we weren't in a relationship, that it doesn't bother me, even though it doesBut also, he is still legally married, however he and his wife have been separated since June 2011.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 September 2012):
I think that rather than prolong this, you should just tell him that you want a divorce instead. You clearly don't love him, and it would be entirely mad to stay in this marriage now.
For what it's worth, I would be very, very surprised if he could just take the kids. If he knows anything about law, he'll know that he can't do this. That was just him attempting to control you.
So, my advice is go to a lawyer, make sure you know your rights and get ready for a divorce.
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